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Are you physically safe from the psychopaths? Do you still see them? Everything you say to a therapist is confidential. I guess I am confused . . .

It was my father who raped me, and no, I will not prosecute.

Welcome to the forum! My only suggestion is to face your fears and go to your therapy appointment. Even if you are too scared to talk about your feelings, go and talk about how scared you are and let the therapist help you feel safer. You can do it!

I have a lot more from various stages of my healing. Let me know if you are interested in more.

Survivor2Thriver, I LOVE your name!

Terror is . . . Being held down by both parents, while he rapes you. Being bled on, while your bunny is stabbed to death. Being held by gun point, knowing you may die. Being the target of bottles and dishes being thrown. Being beaten, knowing no one cares. Being an only child of two alcoholics...

Yes, I get exhausted.

I am a "sufferer" and it is terrifying to be the first one to say, "I love you" because of the chance of rejection. No matter how small that chance may be. Plus, I do not take those words lightly. I will not say it unless I mean it 100 percent.

My experiences have been different. It took a psychiatrist to help me understand that being obsessed with death is interpreted as SI, when in fact it can also be the fear of being killed. That helped me a lot! I was no longer scared of myself. Now, my bad days are full of anger. Anger at...

Ptsd is coping skills that are learned in order to survive, but can be unlearned to be emotionally healthy and happy.

I tried that, it does not work. I do not recommend that.

Taking good care of myself is very difficult. I have to use conscience decisions to remember to eat, sleep, take meds. So many people take these basics for granted, but I think these will always be a struggle for me.

It is extremely important to have a good support system. I would be honest with your friend that you have something that you want to talk about in person and feel torn. Decide together how to handle it. Your friend needs your support also.

Helen, another thing that a therapist said to me that helped me a lot was to visualize: you walking into your childhood and seeing a child being treated the way you were, what would you do to comfort that child, how would you feel. Looking at your childhood from a 3rd person perception helps a...

I had a VERY strong reaction to "he has to stay in jail because of us". He has to stay in jail because of his own illegal behavior. That is no one's fault but his own at any age. You have done a fabulous job of protecting your daughters and having everyone go to therapy. You and your fiancé...

Find a good therapist that does believe you.

You will finish your degree, even if now is not the right time. Try to be patient with yourself and the healing process. Good luck!

I am sorry that you are in such pain that you're posting about your refusal to go to the hospital. If you decide to go in the future, I highly recommend taking a friend that you trust to think and advocate for you, making sure your wishes are followed. It is so hard to think clearly and stay...

I understand completely what you are going through. It was hard for me to let myself cry (and scream) for so many reasons. One if the comments that helped me at that time was to remember that it is the little girl that is crying and screaming because it was not safe for her to let the pain out...

My "family" is a family that I have chosen as my family of choice and the one with my husband and kids. My "home" is the one that I have created with my husband and kids

You are so brave and strong! Welcome to the forum. I hope they connect you with a good doctor and therapist.

I need to start walking or exercising of some kind. I definitely need the motivational help from the group.

I would also remind yourself that you ARE in control now. You do not have to go, but are choosing to go. That makes a huge difference.

Thank you for the welcoming messages. It is good to be here :)

Helen, I am sorry that you are struggling so much this year - I surely understand. What I did for myself was to ALWAYS have my car. That ment having the freedom to leave, which we did not have as kids. Also, I set up a secret word that let my husband know that we had to leave. He always...