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Anybody know anything about being freinds with ex meth addicts. I feel a bit guilty because i let go of a freindship with someone becuase i was talking to them about something and later on down the line they had not even known what i talked to them about. even forgot my name once to. I decided...

thanks. yes I used to think greif was isolating and wallowing in misery. i hope to still enjoy life on the journey

One thing I believe is that are parents are a part of us so we feel what they feel

Thanks for your input. Its the latest piece that has come up for me in this jigsaw puzzle called trauma. I am doing a lot of work around emotions. I am beginning to realisie how for most of my life I have actually been using anger and conflict as a way of avoiding my greif. ...I guess if I can...

Inside my heart it seems I have a well of greif. I do not want to jump into it it seems I will just sink and sink and sink to somewere there is no bottom. Were does it begin were does it end.

I am not anti religion or spirituality but I am anti people trying to change me and telling me I am wrong and sinful for not believing there way is the best way. I would not say I have been traumatised but I have been very angry and upset with some of my experiences around organised religions...

I want to tell the story of my little brother now. He was born and it seemed almost right away he was gone. I just know I pushed him in his pram in the pathway of grandmothers house . the pram tipped over and he fell out fortunately he was not hurt but it was like some omen that this...

interesting . I have been daring myself recently to try and understand the man who murdered my mother . tricky though as they never proved who didi it. The thing is he has become a part of me i become his victim just as much as mother and I want to let go

Do murderers feel bad about what they have done

I agree maybe its something i could do again..not as soon as next week though . I think my body needs a more simple approach right now. I think the greatest lesson i have learned from this is that I just need to accept were I am right now.

its hard not to obsess about something which has defined your life so much. its important to discover things you love doing so that life is not just always about trauma recovery

that I fell down hard but have been able to accept what is and got back up again

Yes some years after my incident I tried writing about it. I was surprised how difficult it was to come up with much and ther was lots of gaps and grey areas

Fallen down hard today. Thought i would try jujitsu was enjoying a few classes but realised today I will not be able to progress as my body is saying no as it cannot take the pace right now. I hate knowing if the years of prolonged trauma had not created the limitations my body has i would be...

Even though my heart knows it feels right I have to be mindful of the greif to. Ive spent most of my adulthood as a perpeptual boy looking for mother after abandonment by my biological mother. No goods ever come of it though just a lot of codependency. finally had the strength to let go of such...

its great that you have found positive parent figures that's special and does not happen for many people. I have given up on this quest I just keep on getting hurt and hurting people in this quest for a surrogate parent figure and as someone else on this thread said its pretty sad when your a 33...

absolutely this seems to happen on an unconscious level until I am so enmeshed with such a person its so difficult to untangle . yes I was just thinking the other day we will keep on going back to what we know until we find a way out of it..

yes good plan thankfully I have begun therapy and we have a good relationship cant wait to see her wednsday..just had a paticuarly triggering evening in work with such a person..its seems like setting boundaries and pulling away is so difficult..its like you can get addicted to these people but...

Was wondering why in my adult life I seem to be attracted to and attract people who resemble my original care givers and family of origin even though I get distressed and triggered and end up feeling abused..my parents were codependent addicts.

yes support groups is a double edged sort they can be a valuable resource but yes it can be a lot of very messed up people in one place as well and I think its unhealthy to get to enmeshed with it all . I do not see them anymore as places to make friends ..its nice if you do but you need to be...

I have been through a period of no contact with my family . just lately I have been adopting a not to out of it not to in it approach meaning I am having some occasional contact by phone and will arrange some day trips (no more family holidays for gods sake lol ) . I found being cut of...

Ha ha it seems in PTSD everything is always easier said than done

Indeed everything starts with me...what I think it is very ironic is that often the less I trust I seem to attract the most untrustworthy people..perhaps its just the law of attraction....I need to learn how to give more love for attracting healthier people....I am also revising what my...

yes right now I am just finding acceptance of were I am at right now is a start rather than trying to be something I am not and pretending everytrhing is all positive and rosy...learning how to be present to what real feelings are coming up is painful but I know its what I have to go through...

I feel like I do not trust anyone I do not know what it means to trust I feel confused I do not know were to turn for love. I feel confused I do not know who is right and who is wrong what is real what is not I learned from day one if I do not take care of my self no one else will If feels...