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its the reason why sadly many traumatised people get addicted. I used to self sooth myself with cocaine and wine ...not recomended. I do tai chi and chigong and relaxing styles of yoga...not the yoga were your trying to stand on your head...just makes matters worse. ..work is the toughest one I...

yes I know what you mean its all about learning healthy self soothing techniques which is easier to do in some places more than others. I think its when your nervous system feels over aroused.

Thanks guys . its always important for me to downgrade my judgements of people who trigger me in the moment I can see them as these really wicked evil people. I must not dehumanise them..I think thinking of them as being a little bit silly is less emotionally loaded and does not turn them into...

I wish I did not get so fragile in these situations but I just cannot accept anyone laughing at my pain how can I.

Dear collegues I could hardly say this to you in the middle of work so I will say it here I know I am being a bit hypersensitive but that what ptsd does to you I am sure you did not mean any real harm but telling me I look worn out when I am trying to just get on with my job good enough with...

thinking of you to let me know how it goes.

I am going through emotional healing. I really began to feel the pain of my dissconection today...disconnection from family from my self from the world around me..I have felt cast adrift for a long time...the question for me is connection were the hell do I begin. in moments of despair it can...

Just trying to observe without judging my tendency to go a bit bonkers over people not getting back to me right away the impatience is shocking. I don't know if this is related to my trauma something to do with mother not getting calling or visiting when she said she would. is it some kind of...

I was strong today. I had a nightmare about being back in the family home. it was so realistic and vivid I even woke up crying. I felt so tired and triggered and paranoid frightened but I got myself to work and I got on and it was not so bad in the end. it seems I will not be given more than I...

I would like to add to traumatised people are not always very good at the truth we can have all kinds of defense mechanisms in place to shield us from it when we are not ready or equipped for it.

I think that because were at all different stages of recovery were all going to come across differently depending on how far down the line we are. Someone who is recently traumatised may come across as dramatic and perhaps mean compared say to someone who has worked through stuff the challenge...

Yes indeed it is all about the boundaries. I discovered I can even attract these types of people people unconciosly as I can have this codependent need to rescue people. its been important for me to take just as big a look at myself and why I fall into these relationship patterns.

yes I am going through emotional healing right now..there all coming up..I think of it as being like vomiting it feels rotten at the time but it feels so much better afterwards.

What I think is good for you that you already have the awareness of this and your already in a position to deal with it. I was numb for most of my life I had no idea what ptsd was I just thought I was mad . its true some people will spend there whole life this way and not even know it.

After my mother was murdered I always dreamt she was still alive and I could not believe it. now in the space of a week I have had two dreams were the understanding was that she was gone.its my hope that the part of me that would not believe now is.

I did not elaborate I used to try and save mother from heroin addiction

I am in some pain right now. I am setting the boundaries with this colleague I am not trying to rescue anymore...everyone is gossiping about her drinking problem...I am being flooded with the emotions and memorys of how I always used to try and rescue her from her heroin addiction. When I was...

Hello trauma is like snakes and ladders its all a part of the process. I relate to hating my self when things did not not go as planned and I regressed again. but I came through with more and experience and wisdom. I try not to treat healing like a schedule anymore but just focus on accepting...

Hello welcome this forum is amazing any question you ask related to trauma someone always seems to have a golden nugget.feel free to fire away.

yes indeed and I think the good think about not putting people on pedestels is that as well as them not having to be what you want them to be you do not have to be what you think they want you to me.

Thanks for all the advice so far I have taken something from it..yes its all about the boundaries..The challenge with me and setting boundaries is not doing it in a way which is dramatic and damaging for everyone involved. I have learned how this actually perpetuates the cycle as you just end up...

Hello looking for your much appreciated guidance. I am wise enough now to see something coming a mile of and its time to nip it in the bud. I don't need a degree to know as a result of being abandoned by my mother as a child I have always had the unconscious tendency to attract and latch on to...

Life is strange. just when you think your lifes all mapped out like a schedule something changes and your in a state of flux. But I am not someone who can blindly go along with something out of fear of being alone. I have to believe in what I am doing. if I do not not like it I have to move on...

cheers sweety darling

yes its important to know who you can get along with in these places as if someone is as damage as you .it can end up harming rather than helping anyone.its twelve step programmes is a lot like baking a cake its just getting the ingredients right and at the right amount. thanks for this I have...