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I don't have PTSD, but I do have anxiety and have suffered from panic attacks. Green Tea has caffeine in it, albeit lower than coffee, but could still trigger anxiety. I can't drink it because it doesn't calm me down. Instead, I discovered whole flower chamomile tea. It is not the stuff you buy...

I agree with everything said here. It is so important in any relationship to take things slow. I know the military mentality moves much faster though and that also attributes to marriages. My guy (we are not together), who I also thought was "the one," also has combat related PTSD and is heavily...

Welcome. I'll share a bit. 3 months is very, very young in a relationship. It's still part of the honeymoon phase so in my eyes, you still have this man up on a pedestal, so to speak. He's gone dark on you 3 times already and has told you he's not sure what he wants. You need to ask yourself, is...

I'm not a sufferer, but I will say I've been hit HARD on the receiving end of a boyfriend going dark on me. If you need to avoid and isolate for a bit to get over what you are going through, then do your loved ones a favor and communicate that to them. I've dealt with the silence and it nearly...

I'm glad you are able to get back out there and can certainly relate to the sex thing. I think you just need to be upfront with him. Have you discussed your PTSD with him and why you are only now just starting to date again? That could help him understand. A real man will be patient and wait for...

I'm sorry you are going through this...it's not easy. I think you need to take some time for yourself. Step away for a while and really think hard over this relationship. You absolutely should never beg for a man...now he has complete control. He knows he can treat you like crap and you'll take...

@owl1982 . Thank you for sharing and I'm so sorry to read your struggles. You are a fighter that's for sure. I do have my own anxieties that take over my "normal" thoughts as well. As much as I'd love to just call him or even send a text, I don't feel it's right. One minute I'm crying, the next...

OMG... @psychgirllost I know what you are talking about. Ok, so I've known my guy for 20 years and we got serious last year...he has always been Mr. Sweet and Silly. While he was deployed was when I noticed the "soldier voice." No more, "hey baby, I miss you." I got the "miss you sweetie," when...

Thanks everyone for your stories. @psychgirllost, yours rings a bit close to home with the, "I've done terrible things. You're such a sweet person." Yup, he's told me that, but that was last year when he showed up to my place almost drunk and I was cooking dinner for us. That was way before any...

As a supporter, what was your first isolation period like with your significant other? What did you do? How long did your partner shut you out? If any of you are military, that would be helpful to hear your stories perhaps after or during a deployment.

Thanks @BusyBee . You too. It's really hard and the only person who has answers is him.

Totally hear ya @Dee Morris. I'm more the cautious dater when I was dating. Everyone has different desires in relationships.

I'm not a sufferer, but I am someone who can't casually date similar to what @Wastinglight is saying. I was able to do that in college and in my 20's (at times was called a man eater), however having been hurt in my past by allowing myself to open up to men who later weren't ready to commit, I...

I'll just share it's even hard for me with my friends and family that don't understand PTSD. I'm not the one with PTSD, but my guy is. I realized they were being a bit too influential on my thoughts even though I wasn't seeking advice. I was just airing out my thoughts. They made me feel worse...

I think in general a lot of people are desperate to make a relationship work, PTSD or not. I'm by no means in a young relationship, but if I was and didn't know my guy had PTSD and he did just disappear, you better believe I'd have hit the road and moved on. A lot of people are afraid to be...

So it sounds like he's dealing with some trust issues and fear. He's allowing his past failed relationships to interfere with his present. That even happens with people non PTSD. I'm like you too..."always try," even after a failed relationship. It is true that women bounce back faster than men...

Hi @Mizz Bakesalott . Your story is sort of similar to mine and I'll share my viewpoint as an outsider. My guy is also diagnosed with combat PTSD and I never saw that side of him until what I am going through right now. I've been shut out and he's isolated himself entirely from me. Let me tell...

@holdenmonty thank you for sharing and thank you for your service. My boyfriend said that makes him feel weird when people tell him that ;-)

I don't know how old you are, but it seems really rushed if you ask me. However you can't change that now, but maybe try to work on setting up your life outside of him where you now live? Hobbies, friends, etc. He might be feeling too much pressure.

You can't fix him. Only he can fix himself. What I learned in therapy is that PTSD can be very difficult for sufferers to talk about. Also, you just moved across the country after only being with him a month? Why did you rush to do that?

Yeah, I think it's time to see a therapist if you aren't already. If you have health insurance (which you should with Obamacare), mental health is covered. For example, all I pay is a copay for my therapist and I'm on an individual plan.

Thanks everyone for your insight. I decided to see a therapist and had my first session today. The therapist specializes in relationships, PTSD, trauma, and military couples. I gained some insight today and I also am someone who acts out of emotions when they are running at their highest. I have...

I'm so sorry @Sabrina0712. I think you should seek out a therapist who specializes in relationships and PTSD. You are hurting really bad and you need someone outside of this site and him to talk to. I know this is probably consuming your thoughts, so perhaps a trained professional can help. Your...

Oh for sure @Freckles66. I have a very full life and have hobbies I do outside of him. I'm the type that "doesn't need a man," yet wants a man and I thought that man was him. I'm not the type that needs a man to make her happy. I just go through my moments of weakness and this site certainly...

@Taylor87 Horrible story and mine is quite similar, but different in some aspects. What ever happened? I think jmni gave some eye opening advice...there's no reason he couldn't man up...esp after 2 years together. It wasn't like you both were dating a couple months...that I would understand a...