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Maybe you should explore another therapist? Or another type of therapy?

This is the mantra that I've adopted to help me cope....

You arent wrong but based on the last three months of my life, you're fighting a losing battle. It sounds like she's engaging in something called polarized thinking, at least as it pertains to you. Read as much as you can here and I think you'll find that your 'vision' will become clearer. I...

Today I witnessed an 85 year old gentleman and his 82 year old wife of 65 years fall instantly in love with a terrified little dog that only hours before was facing euthanasia at a local shelter. The shelter said that he'd been cowering in a corner for three days and had hardly moved. Within...

@amethist there is an author you may want to research, her name is Dr. Christiane Northrup. I can't post a link to her books but I think you might find them helpful. Your husband may too, I know they helped me immensely.

Congratulations! I struggle with things like that and I'm old and not a sufferer. I hope you'll allow yourself two or three pats on the back and a loud well done. ;)

Then there is real basis to your fear and that is nothing to be ashamed of. Seeing a professional will help but it has to be the right one. Is there anything you can do to create more physical distance between you? Is there a domestic violence shelter near that may be able to provide assistance?

Are you pursuing any options for professional help?

That's the way a relationships work sometimes, there must be give and take. Just make sure you're not at one extreme or the other. I'm glad you're giving him another chance, maybe because I didn't get a second chance when I screwed up with a woman that I truly love, but also because you've given...

Just don't forget that men sometimes have great difficulty in verbalizing what we really feel. Let his actions and his words speak but if, especially over time, you're not 'hearing' what you want or need to hear then you should decide your action. The time you take is entirely yours to decide.

Defensive mode engaged. Silence can say more than thousands of words sometimes. Or maybe it's "actions speak louder..."

I'm sorry to hear that this has happened to you and I congratulate you on taking the first step on your journey to the person that you really are. Reaching out to ask for help requires much more courage than hiding from the world and you have just done that. Being strong and independent is not...

Which is where all things good originate.

I will admit that he has a somewhat valid argument... I know there are women in the world that will use the children as emotional weapons and it sounds as if she is one of them, a near a certainty if it takes a court order to reach agreement on having their father in the children's lives. I...

I'm going to say you should tell him how you feel. I'm guessing it will 'provoke further discussion' so be prepared for him to go defensive and an argument. From my point of view - and that as a man that has no contact with exs - for a man to do such things shows a lack of respect for you as a...

What's in the past is not in the past if it affects your daily life or happiness now or in the future. If you have truly accepted the last part about what's done is and have found that it doesn't affect your happiness then that's good. I find that I need to face what few demons I have and slay...

Hashi makes good points... the shine will wear off, it always does. I had a bad two weeks and it was enough to put me in the pen with the other demons. If you have the black and white thinking that's described in another thread there is a very real danger the same thing will happen to him. None...

This sounds a bit familiar to me as I was told that she didn't like being so dependent on me. I now believe that is what started the downward spiral of our relationship. As ours was a long distance relationship she didn't have the time to develop the comfort that comes with my physical presence...

I think that's the best piece of advice you'll see. I wish very much I'd heard it a year ago. Life would have been very different. My 2 cents? Don't make the mistake of thinking you can do this alone. You can learn much from being here but make sure you have professional help.

I do have to agree there, 'jokes' that contain anything that they know will offend you aren't really jokes, they are attacks. One can bleed to death from a thousand small cuts as easily was one large wound. Making fun of emotions should also not be tolerated but I'm constantly surprised by the...

@Margaret60 I've heard it said that it's best not to enter a relationship with anyone hoping or expecting them to change. It's a predetermined outcome. In the case of someone who suffers from ptsd you can hope that they will progress toward a better place if they want for themselves but you...

@jess_trustno1 I won't say you were wrong because there are many, many people in this world who are judgmental and self centered. To attack another without basis deserves the treatment you've given them. What I would ask is do you actually think about their 'track record' before you finalize...

Thank you @jess_trustno1 it seems that you've just explained to me what I've been trying to figure out for three months. She trusted me absolutely for almost 4 years. When I acted badly the first time because I lacked an understanding of PTSD (and my own less serious issues) the trust was just...

There are charitable organizations that may be able to help. There are also support groups out there. You don't say where you are but I would think a Google search might turn up something. Someone else may have a more precise answer...

May I ask a question of those of you who have replied that you DO have this kind of black/white thinking? Does your view change once it's established? Has therapy helped you to see more gray? In other words if you meet someone and you don't like them can they do enough to have you decide you do...