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I do this too when I haven't been doing well. For me, I think it's a combination of wanting to punish myself and not being comfortable with feeling okay. When I feel okay for too long I don't know what to do with myself, so I look for something to make me feel bad again. I guess some part of me...

It's triggering to me, too. I have to make sure to take it slow and only read a few pages a day, so I don't get overwhelmed. I don't read any if I feel like I can't handle it. Take it easy and keep yourself safe :)

Why Does He Do That? by Lundy Bancroft. It's a great guide to understanding abusive men and avoiding their manipulation. I'm reading it for the second time and taking notes. It makes me feel like I have some armor against people who might want to hurt me

I do my best to be honest with my supporters about what I'm thinking and feeling. It makes everything more complicated when I try to hide things from them. They can't help me if I don't let them know what I'm struggling with. When I hide things it always puts more stress on my supporters because...

It's inspirational how much you've been able to accomplish after going through hell. Your story helps me believe that it is possible to live a good life after going through countless horrible things. Thank you for sharing this :) I love this mindset. A lot of people seem to be all about...

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I still struggle with similar thoughts, so I'm not an expert on getting them to go away, but there are a few things that I've found can help. It helped me when I realized through therapy that my desire to "fulfill my purpose" by having destructive sex with controlling men was really a desire...

Wrapping myself up in a blanket and hugging a stuffed animal Wearing clothes that are too big Locking my door Being alone (or if I’m around someone else, believing that I could defend myself from them if they tried to hurt me) Being shown physical affection by my partner, being held Being able...

I've met people who have had similar experiences to me once or twice, but I still find myself shocked when it happens. It's just so alienating living with an issue when everyone else, even your family, would like to pretend that it doesn't exist in real life. It's comforting and validating to...

Hi everyone! Nightmares have kept me awake tonight, so I thought I’d do something useful and finally make an account on here. This website comes up often on my late night google searches and seeing that so many people have the same exact feelings that I do helps me feel less alone :) I’ve been...