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Thanks for this Friday - I always appreciate your messages. Yeah... I don't fully understand it, and I'm a bit frustrated by it, but it rings true. I had this sense of being so stirred up and worked up and on edge around her... and just the last few days, I've sorta... felt her under my skin...

Hey guys, I'm a little discouraged to be back here so soon into the new year - because I felt my healing journey was going so well. I think it still is - I just had a little setback, and it's nice to write about it somewhere where people understand. I think it was triggered by speaking to a...

Thanks for sharing that - I appreciate it! I understand that you wouldn't be able to speak to my ex's experience (given that you're different people who haven't even met etc); but it's helpful just to hear what it can look like in some people sometimes. I actually relate to what you were...

Thanks for replying! I'm sort of responding with some caution, because I've basically completely moved on from the situation now (and I don't want to revisit it in my thoughts anymore). But I still get notifications here if someone posts something, and I'm interested! So - if you don't mind me...

Hi everyone, I just wanted to post a (probably final) update on the toxic relationship that I was in earlier in the year. Probably some of you vaguely remember (though maybe not). I used to post on here a lot during - and after - a relationship with a girl who had CPTSD. June was the peak of...

Thanks for the reply! What I took from your post is: PTSD/C-PTSD can cause people to lash out or behave badly sometimes because of the intense pain associated with the condition; but that doesn't make it okay. People can help by showing understanding, which isn't the same as being a doormat...

But Friday - help me understand here, because your posts usually emphasise personal responsibility, and a kind of "No excuse for abuse" ethos; but what you're describing here sounds awful - and like it'd be nearly impossible not to be abusive towards other people. How do you square the circle...

As I understand it, a person can have a pattern of behaving in a narcissistic way, without having full blown NPD. I think pain can help that to happen? People think of themselves a lot when they’re hurting - it’s only natural… (even if it’s not helpful, or particularly right, say).

Thanks for the reply! Yeah, you might be right. The term 'narcissist' has become so trendy these days, that I was previously very wary of applying that term (I guess I still am), but it possibly fits the way things were. Having said that, I feel *way* stronger in myself now. Jeez, it took...

I don't mean to sound ignorant - I'm just asking the question... What do you hope to build in this relationship? And do you think you can build it, if she won't forgive you for something you did in the past (PTSD or not)? If she's behaving this way, I'm not sure how you can possibly have a...

Tell you what it is - It's the feeling of going into something with good intentions and no expectations (I didn't want to 'save her' or whatever - just to date her) - And then suddenly being exposed to a ton of things you have no experience in, and then coming out of it like: "That MUST have...

Aye, thank you! I appreciate your perspective and the validation. If I'm totally honest, I've really struggled with this. I don't like feeling as though I'm 'whining on the internet about an ex' - this forum is an amazing resource, but it's not like her and I are even together now. It feels...

Aye, this is helpful you know (sorry to hear about your fiance - that must be super hard). I think it just stirred things up again - I guess I felt like I'd dealt with it more than I maybe had. And the way she treated me, and the fact that he threatened me... y'know - whatever, it happens. I...

Hey guys, I had a little knock back after finding out my ex with CPTSD is engaged to another guy, five/six or so months after saying she'd like to get back together with me. I will get over that and move forward again, but while chewing things over, I had a thought and I wondered if anyone has...

For sure! Hang in there - you’re not alone :)

I really hope it goes well for you - whatever that means in this context 🙏🏻

Oh man, I'm so sorry that you're going through that. I just can't imagine how painful that must be. Is this the first time that she's behaved quite so drastically? If it helps to set your mind at rest, I only dated this girl for six months; and I ignored/missed/didn't really understand a...

I think I can believe that - I just had a really good therapy session which sort of confronted me with the raw ‘feelingness’ that I have about it; and the naked truth of the relationship. I still have some processing to do, but i think I can believe that I actually got away with one there. It...

A friend of mine is on the fringes of her social circle. He let me know yesterday. This is with the guy who called me and threatened me. They’ve been together four months. There’s definitely a limit to how deeply upset I am - I don’t want her back, and I’ve really turned a corner in recent...

Y’know what? This comment was really helpful - thank you! I think I’ll screenshot it to remind myself. To think that I’d have something like PTSD is probably a big stretch… I mean… I presume that I’d know. But I’ve been speaking to a really good trauma therapist regarding the relationship...

Thanks for posting this - not particularly in response to Survivor’s post, but just in general - I was a bit nervous that this thread would seem self-indulgent and insensitive towards sufferers. Really, it’s just nice to have space to ask questions and explore things with people who know more...

Oh, I mostly came here when I was with my ex partner who had a diagnosis. I've stuck around here asking questions, and piecing things together now and then - less so as things have become easier and more solid for me. I always appreciate the wisdom I've found here though! My own experiences...

Yeah, it's something to explore further, I guess! I think... it's never been obvious to me that my needs matter just the same as everyone else's. And the abandonment melange that Peter Walker talks about resonates with me. As do things like limerance etc. But there are so many psychological...

I think there's a lot of wisdom in this post, y'know! I think... when you're a brain inside a skull, it's easy to get lost in trying to figure out if you're normal Because who knows how everyone else feels most of the time? -- Some of this started because I really thought I was moving on...

Hey guys, I've been reflecting a lot since that relationship that I was in. Y'know, sometimes I wonder if I have my own trauma to work through - or perhaps I'm just being a hypochondriac! Here's why - I was a long term teen carer, and the situation carried on until I was in my late twenties...