Hi everyone,
I just wanted to post a (probably final) update on the toxic relationship that I was in earlier in the year.
Probably some of you vaguely remember (though maybe not).
I used to post on here a lot during - and after - a relationship with a girl who had CPTSD.
June was the peak of the whole situation, and I eventually cut her off (partly prompted by a few helpful posts on these boards).
I've been speaking with a therapist since; she's super knowledgeable and has been extremely helpful.
We've mostly focused on me; but she's also filled in some knowledge gaps for me and that's helped me to contextualise everything a bit better.
It may be that the girl had some kind of BPD and/or possible dissociative-type disorder.
But anyway, that's not really the important bit here.
By way of an update - I'm so *so* much better now.
I think I'm basically completely in the clear, and I feel like I've largely moved on (though of course, I sometimes 'feel the sad feelings' for an hour or so during the day, now and then).
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Mostly, I just wanted to let people know that I'm now doing really well; and to say thank you for people on this board.
If not for this community (and one other similar one), I wouldn't have had anywhere near the level of information needed to help me navigate things - especially early in the process.
The whole situation was an unbelievable learning curve, and sure taught me a few things about myself (which was very painful, but probably necessary, in the scheme of things).
I don't think I'd have learned so much if not for this place getting me started on the journey (and providing extra information/support at key points along the way).
I had such a supportive experience here, and felt appropriately encouraged - and challenged when necessary.
It's really cool to see a corner of the internet where people help each other out in this way; and where people are encouraged to take genuine responsibility for their growth (whether sufferers or supporters).
Thanks again, I've really appreciated it and it's meant a lot!
I might swing by now and then, and post here or there - I'm still kind of interested; and I guess now and then I'm still processing things.
But I'm just taking an opportunity to say thanks, anyway; and I hope you all have a Merry Christmas and Happy New Year :)
I just wanted to post a (probably final) update on the toxic relationship that I was in earlier in the year.
Probably some of you vaguely remember (though maybe not).
I used to post on here a lot during - and after - a relationship with a girl who had CPTSD.
June was the peak of the whole situation, and I eventually cut her off (partly prompted by a few helpful posts on these boards).
I've been speaking with a therapist since; she's super knowledgeable and has been extremely helpful.
We've mostly focused on me; but she's also filled in some knowledge gaps for me and that's helped me to contextualise everything a bit better.
It may be that the girl had some kind of BPD and/or possible dissociative-type disorder.
But anyway, that's not really the important bit here.
By way of an update - I'm so *so* much better now.
I think I'm basically completely in the clear, and I feel like I've largely moved on (though of course, I sometimes 'feel the sad feelings' for an hour or so during the day, now and then).
-----
Mostly, I just wanted to let people know that I'm now doing really well; and to say thank you for people on this board.
If not for this community (and one other similar one), I wouldn't have had anywhere near the level of information needed to help me navigate things - especially early in the process.
The whole situation was an unbelievable learning curve, and sure taught me a few things about myself (which was very painful, but probably necessary, in the scheme of things).
I don't think I'd have learned so much if not for this place getting me started on the journey (and providing extra information/support at key points along the way).
I had such a supportive experience here, and felt appropriately encouraged - and challenged when necessary.
It's really cool to see a corner of the internet where people help each other out in this way; and where people are encouraged to take genuine responsibility for their growth (whether sufferers or supporters).
Thanks again, I've really appreciated it and it's meant a lot!
I might swing by now and then, and post here or there - I'm still kind of interested; and I guess now and then I'm still processing things.
But I'm just taking an opportunity to say thanks, anyway; and I hope you all have a Merry Christmas and Happy New Year :)
