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I have written a couple letters to my abuser that I never actually sent him. The writing was for me - processing my emotions. It allowed me to vent my anger and frustration, let out my sense of betrayal and disappointment, my heartache, sorrow, and unnecessary guilt. Even if I wanted to, I...

Another important thing to consider when preparing your study is how, exactly, do you plan on collecting your information? If this website will be your only source, your results will have a very heavily skewed bias, as just about everyone who uses this site will be a sufferer of (or supporter of...

It sounds to me like she is seeking and fighting to maintain connections with people because those connections giver her a sense of stability. I am guessing that she does indeed have something wrong mentally that causes her to excessively reach out and cling to the people around her. There are...

I'm sorry if this fails to be helpful, but reading this is quite honestly upsetting me. You are complaining about having to complete the tasks of every-day life by yourself and feeling exhausted, getting frustrated and angry with your wife when she does not help you, and then taking...

1. Stop screaming at her 2. Stop taking care of her 3. Go to couples therapy

An action plan is a good idea! :) I haven't even thought of it like that before, but I think that is something I have subconsciously done for myself. I think my "plan" came about naturally, in that my instinctive response when triggered is to flee the situation, and that works out perfectly as I...

Yes, my father served in the army for 24 years. However, he did not see a lot of combat or suffer any PTSD, and he's a bit of an "odd-ball" socially. He doesn't go out much at all with anybody. My mother is similar - they're both big "homebodies" :) . My parents do struggle sometimes with...

Like Russ said, facing combative situations together creates a bond that can be rather difficult to understand from the outside. Every team sent out to face combat is rigorously trained so that they can work well together and understand to slightest cues for directions, movement, etc. My...

I do not think you are overthinking things or making it more complicated. I just think we were “talking past each other” for a bit there – but it looks like our disconnect was that you are looking for something that provides an immediate help in reducing your reaction to triggers, where I was...

I don't really know how to help other than to tell you what has helped me: When I'm triggered, I have to do something that helps me destress - usually 1. Cutting off any unnecessary social interactions for the next couple days, maybe even next couple weeks while I work on getting myself...

Has my road been productive? Yes, but.... My trauma and the resulting PTSD has severely crippled that productivity in every way I would measure it, except one aspect and that would be spiritually. If I were to maintain a positive spin on it, I would say it has redirected my productivity...

I don't know how much this advice will count since I also lack a romantic partner and the only one I ever had was my abuser... but!... here goes. While it is all well and great to find someone who shares your interests, I don't feel shared interests are necessarily what make a good partnership...

Thank you both - It's been a quiet day for me. Just spending time with the little one, playing games, watching movies, taking care of the animals, and getting on here. Haven't even gone outside except to feed the chickens. I do feel much calmer than I have been feeling during the week, but now...

This is exactly what has happened with mine, and the simplistic way you put it was like an "Aha" moment for me! :) At first, I reacted immediately to triggers, the worst most stressful example being about a month after I'd left the abuse. My mother had reached her own stress limit and was...

@Justmehere - I hope it goes well! :) It sounds like your crisis-line person was inexperienced to say the least. Good for you for seeking out the help you need. I've been having a lazy day at home with my son to cope with my stress/anxiety, ordered pizza, and not going anywhere despite outings I...

I wanted to share a little bit with you, as I know hearing other's experiences is often helpful: Currently, I do not deal with the hyper-vigilance. I have a lot of tension and anxiety building up that has led to me making an appointment to start seeing a therapist again (haven't been to one in...

Wyakin, welcome to the forum, and I'd like to say that while you may be undiagnosed, what you describe here sounds EXACTLY like PTSD. I especially connect with your description of the struggle between Broken brain and Normal brain. I think it will help you very much to speak with a therapist and...

I am making a list here of everything triggering and/or stressing me, contributing to my anxiety levels becoming unmanageable, and I'm hoping a written acknowledgment of these triggers/stressors will be helpful: My son calling me "beautiful" at least once a day - It is very sweet of him, and I...

You are experiencing a chemical imbalance that has your "scale" tilted all the way at the opposite end from someone with depression. I'm sure many of us understand here, but most out there in the world put enormous emphasis on depression and very little on anxiety. So - it can be hard to...

I have a problem that isn't quite the same, but your post really reminds me of it - and I think it is because both touch on the same "core" if you will. I have never been a very feminine woman. I hate wearing makeup, only wear dresses when I must, refuse heels, never do much more with my hair...

"Emotional Blackmail" by Susan Forward and "Dangerous Relationships" by Noelle C. Nelson are both books that were a great help to me. I recommend them to people all the time, and recommend them to you! :) Hope they help.

@marylouise - I am being very hard on myself, and am trying to lessen up on that. :) I think it is hitting me so hard because I was doing so well it was almost as if my PTSD didn't even exist. I went to therapy for a year immeiately after leaving the abuse and was told I was handling it well...

I work at a factory, in a remote little office toward the back of the building, mostly with computers. I deal with our quality data - data entry, editing forms, statistical analysis, paperwork shuffling, database development, analyzing and developing reports on trends, etc. I am great with data...

I know this thread is mainly listing characters with brief explanations, but I have a bit of commentary on this one: I recently borrowed a book from the library called "Daughter of the Forest" by Juliet Marillier, and found an unexpected connection to the main character as she was raped and...

One of my favorites for fact, on the topic of the brain, is Animals in Translation by Temple Grandin. Others for fact... I tend to grab everything available in the library and/or use google scholar to find scientific papers. When I was going to college, I had access to our college libraries...