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HAHA!!! I'm laughing so hard, because I'm pretty sure my T would actually take me up on that offer...just a single hit of course, to be social...

I meditate for about 20-30 minutes a day (or at least I try to!), preferably in Nature. Dogs are a big part of my coping mechanisms, but unfortunately I had to leave my Service dogs with my parents when I moved out of state for my new job. I like to watch anime or funny movies when I'm feeling...

I understand what you're saying. It was after I moved away from T and had to deal with phone-only sessions that I really appreciated what my T is to me. I've been able to send him emails that express how much I miss him and appreciate his viewpoint and work with me, and he takes it all in...

Just one more viewpoint from a fellow CSA survivor...Obsessive thoughts happen because we try to combat them with denial and moral "I would never". I used to have all kinds of obsessive thoughts about hurting people, hurting myself, etc; but when my T had me talk about the thoughts and...

I would have to agree with Justmehere. I had a ton of transference with my T, and we worked through a lot of it together. He knew all about my feelings of "love", but handled it adroitly and professionally. At the end of working with some of my more inappropriate expectations from previous...

I'm having to deal with this one right now. I'm moving out of state, and my therapist can't come with me. While I'm not ready to lose him because of all the safe-touch work I still need, I will have access to him by phone for as long as I can afford to call him, which won't be very often. I'm...

We had an infestation that lasted 2 years at my parent's house. We have two dogs, so we needed to keep things safe for them. We tried the chemicals, but those just didn't work. Instead, we went with a heat treatment plus chemicals. THAT killed them all!! What the extermination company did was...

Constantly...even when I'm around people who love me and try to include me in stuff! I'm learning that even though I FEEL like I don't belong, the TRUTH is people really seem to like me. While I may never fit in because I am very much a unique individual, this is a good thing when around people...

I got the job in a different state! Really exciting to be working a real job in my field, and I'm looking forward to getting the HELL out of this house! The thing is, I have to leave my T, and I'm no where near ready yet! You all know I have a very special T who works on safe-touch experiences...

I understand what you're saying, @DogLover33 my T does that too. Just sits there and looks at me while I cry. It does help, I'm learning to express the emotions without feeling the NEED to be comforted by someone else, so I'm ok with having the emotions now. There are times I wish he would come...

They offered me the position!! An entry-level Case Worker position at a mental health clinic! All I have to do is find an affordable place to live with my 2 dogs, and I'm moving!! Such a relief, I hope I can actually keep this job....

I do...usually when I need a soothing, reassuring presence, its my T in my dreams. I tell him if I think the dream has some clinical significance of any kind. Funny though, I never see him as T in my dreams, only as Aikido instructor...I guess that means something too, and I should bring that up!

I just completed a 3-day trip out of state for a job interview. Not only was this my first time flying alone (I HATE flying!), but I had to take care of everything myself from car rental to navigation with no help from anyone. It was exhausting, but I handled myself with aplomb and got...

Thank you, @donethat...I needed to read that tonight. Feelings are what make this human experience uniquely ours, and it takes a lifetime to learn to manage them. Some people never do...

Ask questions that tell you what their approach and modalities are, how much training they have in Trauma-specific therapies, their between-session contact policies, and anything else that comes to your mind. Basically, the first couple of visits are for establishing rapport and discovering if...

It's because the concept of being held gives me those heebie jeebies that I work on this in therapy. I can't ask for cuddles from ANYONE outside of therapy, and its really affected my ability to have any relationships. Thankfully, I have such a good working relationship with this T that even...

I have a job interview out-of-state coming up. I am facing every single one of my insecurities by going to this interview. I've been feeling very clingy and young, like I need a parent to hold me, reassure me, tell me everything's ok and they believe in me. Unfortunately, this is very difficult...

For me, the book that turned not just my shame, but the hyper-critical self-talk as well, is "Living Life With an Open Heart" by Russel Kolts and Thubten Chodron. Its a book about learning the ins-and-outs of compassion. This book has completely changed everything about the way I interact with...

Bring it up as a hypothetical. That way, the T can talk about their philosophy about hugging without anyone feeling judged. Something like, "The other day I felt like I needed a hug but was too afraid to ask. What is your position on hugs in therapy?" That's what I did with my very huggy T. I...

Yeah, my T usually has to make the first move. I only asked him for a hug last session because he was going out of town for a week, and I was going to miss a session because of it. I wanted a freaking good hug before he left, and I had to ask to get one! He seemed surprised that I asked, but its...

Yep, T's who hug are the BEST!! I also had to have a special "how to hug" session with my T, and it helped so much. It's been a year since we've been hugging after session, but its only recently that I've actually been starting to feel a real connection during that hug. And yes, physical touch...

This is a big subject for me, because I didn't play much when I was young. I was always expected to be a grown-up, function on my brilliant father's level, or my uber-religious mother's interests, in order to have any interaction. Today, in my mid-30's, I have a small collection of metal...

I also have trauma issues with women, and find it impossible to trust them. That said, I've developed a really good friendship with a female about 10 years younger than me, but I consider her my best friend, and her mom has sort of adopted me as one of her kids too. As much as I still have...

I've been with my T for over 2 years, and I still need him, desperately. He's out of town this week, so I'm shut down to deal with my life without having him here, and he knows it. I "could" contact him if I absolutely needed to, but barring imminent suicidal urges, I won't do that. I respect...

I can only afford to go once a week, but I have been known to ask for an extra session if i need it and can afford it. I've been with my current therapist almost 2 years now, and seen other therapists off and on for about 10 years before that. I'm going to be with this current T for several...