Moving soon, have to leave t

[Eagle3]

I got the job in a different state! Really exciting to be working a real job in my field, and I'm looking forward to getting the HELL out of this house! The thing is, I have to leave my T, and I'm no where near ready yet! You all know I have a very special T who works on safe-touch experiences with me, and its incredibly effective and healing. We've talked about it, and I'm keeping him for phone appointments as long as I can afford him, but I have to find a new source for safe-touch work in my new location. It really sucks having to give up a therapy that is doing so much good, especially before you're really ready! I've been crying for several days over the upcoming detachment, no sleep without chemical aid, and having to really watch myself for regression in progress.

This is the best option I could hope to have as far as career development, and at my age its about effing time! But to leave the best therapist I've ever had.....it really hurts. I'm going to ask him for help finding substitutes, and we're doing intensive extra work before I leave, but I just can't stop crying over this loss.

 

[Deleted member 37474]

I guess keep focused on the joy of a job in your field and an exciting move to a new state! Maybe look into trying a different type of therapy that will benefit you at the new place? Only saying that so that you don't have to deal with accepting someone new in the same style after loving your old T so much.

 

[Deleted member 42783]

In agreement with @TexCat . It might be a mistake to look for a similar therapy at first. There would always be comparisons and it might make the switch too rocky.

Congratulations on the job though!!!

 

[provencepearl]

I have noticed some deterioration for me in that I no longer want to be touched at all by anyone. It is horribly awkward when someone hugs me. However, I have a dog again. He has been made my therapy dog. When reading a list of services a therapy dog can be trained to give someone with ptsd, I saw safe touch listed. Yes!!!!! It was 11 years between dogs for me. And during that time any time I saw someone with a dog I wanted to pet it. I realize now it was my attempt to have safe touch. Do you have a dog? If not, you might want to consider getting a dog or cat. Not the same as having a human to hug. But for me, this is about all the safe touch I can handle. Even so, not a lot of touching, but it does help for me.