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The night before I remembered a poem I heard as a child. They drew a circle that shut me out ,but love and I had wit to win. I drew a circle That brought them in This is certainly applicable to this specific situation. I think the comments were right on. It was her birthday and I am a...

Yes, exactly.

Sideways, thank you. I am going and all of you have been encouraging. Great suggestions. I know how to work with triggers but once in awhile I am surprised by them and need to really have a plan of action. I agree with Charbella there is a time to not attend. Limiting my interaction works. There...

Friendship group.

There is a woman I recently met in a group I belong to. Everything in me the last two times I met her reads “ danger”. I am to attend this group tomorrow and everything within me wants to cancel and isolate so I don’t have to interact with her. She triggers my fear and anxiety. How do I protect...

Go to another doctor for a second opinion..sounds to me a little more than a menopause situation. I am not a doctor but I would go to one more for peace of mind. Then if it is menopause why were you not given something to help alleviate the symptoms. Just advocate for yourself. Thank you for...

I think that you should first of all consult your primary care doctor for an evaluation. You are asking all the right questions. Now you need answers. Then a referral to appropriate tertiary care for eval. Then there will be no guessing. You need answers. Best to you. I know it is scarey but...

I often think we get a distorted view of others lives on social media….and not the truth. If you are on social media much of the times it is easy to compare yourself and come up short. As someone mentioned do something for yourself. Take a couple of things you don’t like about yourself with and...

There is a biological term called symbiosis. In it two unlike organisms are drawn to each other but they consume one another. They can’t live without each other but destroy one another. I had a symbiotic relationship years ago. It was so exciting and addictive but so destructive. I am not sure...

To give you peace of mind about this diagnosis read the tab that says articles. It will be helpful in validating you as well as give you much information and equip you to begin your journey of understanding. There is so much help and encouragement on this forum. The memories will or will not...

My husband just spent 10 days on a ventilator and intubation. The one thing I had to remember is take one day as it comes. Knowledge is power. I was totally in the loop and spent most of my time just there. He was unaware of my presence. Today he is home at age 78 and has seen a full recovery...

That is a tough disorder and abusers do fall within those parameters.

I for one ask myself many times. Why am I doing this? For me it is self awareness. Just because my history is CPTSD does not mean I have to isolate in fear of being under false motives or intent. You bring up some good points and the awareness I think is the first step to healing. You were...

There is such a thing as encouraging, altruism out of kindness and right motives. Not all you suggested is necessarily manipulation. If my statement lacks truth than all of us are doomed to live isolated self centered lives. Motive is the key. There is balance in this.

Being a person with CPTSD there were many times I abruptly blocked someone and cut off relationships when I was triggered. The owner of this forum has an amazing explanation on CPTSD. See if you can locate it on this site. You will have much more insight. It took a long time for me to clue into...

Thinking of you just now. Do you know that abuse knows no socio economic status? I had a radio talk show years ago and interviewed domestic violence victims and therapists one session. One woman’s husband was a choir Director, doctors, lawyers, trades people, across all racial boundaries. The...

I fell asleep writing to you. Ugh. It is 2:00 a.m.! Hope this makes sense. I joined a support group Of abused women. Every community has them. As I listened to the stories it was as if they were sharing my story. There is something almost textbook about abuse and the cycle of abuse. It was as if...

This is where the cycle of abuse begins. Making you doubt your reality and you getting yourself in self blame. There is so much on the internet, counseling, groups . Like all of us it takes some real hard work to break these soul ties. But you have the support of so many of us former victims of...

Just want to add one thing I read about and I believe for me is true. Trauma affects the brain neurologically. I was diagnosed with fibro. I hurt everywhere. The first thing he said was,” “Have you gone through any trauma in your life”? I said yes. He said 100% of his fibro patients respond in...

Have you read “The Body Keeps the Score” ? Might be a good read. Best to you on your journey.💕

Please become informed before recontacting to an abuser. You will be setting yourself up for some real harm which may start with the deception of flowers, candy and kind words but ultimately wind itself up to all of the stages of the cycle of abuse. Why do we go back?No good outcome unless...

Did this help …stream of consciousness writing. Do you journal? I have found great release in writing…not on a pc or iPad, but in my own hand. I have often used a BenjaminT when I need to look at important decisions. I make a T on a piece of paper and on one side pros and the other cons and make...

May I ask you a question for my clearer understanding? According to volumes of research trauma ,childhood or other, can affect a person neurologically. The brain is affected. Does that come to play in calling all of us with PTSD or CPSST narcissistic or does it change that equation in anyway...

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Not that simple. There is narcissistic abuse which can produce PTSD along with narcissism. It is quite a different matter than calling all people with PTSD narcissist. They can be but it is treated different than the disorder of narcissism. How about research and better communication skills. If...