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@Missycat the teletherapy isn't a problem for me, he temporarily relocated last fall while his wife went back to school for a while and we did telehealth sessions but at that time my son was away at college so I didn't worry about privacy. Now, at a time when I need the privacy, I need to know...

@Friday I am sorry you have to deal with so much crap I completely understand why you have things on hold and wish that I could do more to help. @whiteraven I think I am leaning toward face to face, I can go, not make any stops on the way, do the appointment and come straight home without any...

The types of mechanisms are the ones that play into the isolation and loneliness of quarantine while re-affirming my negative beliefs and self esteem such as cyber hook-ups with strangers, no pictures or video just random sexting which is flattering to an extent but at the same time as degrading...

My state is going into month three of quarantine and I have been doing telehealth with my therapist since this began but I am struggling lately and some of my maladaptive coping mechanism have been resurfacing. I don't feel as though I can talk as freely with teletherapy and my therapist has...

@Strangelongtrip I don't know if you are in the US or not but if you are there are free assistance agencies that can help you with exactly what you are talking about. Most people don't turn to them until they are in financial trouble already but they really enjoy helping anyone and being able...

Okay again my 2 cents but the problem with chickens is most people that want backyard chickens have zero experience with them, they see the cute chicks on TV, in the store where ever and think oh it would be so great to have fresh eggs. And yes it is great to have fresh eggs right up until the...

Okay I have a little bit of experience with this I recommend that you check out your city's zoning ordinance. If she has to get special permission that often times means that she has to get the approval of the property owners on all surrounding sides (check your city's zoning ordinance which...

@Justmehere thus is normally a time of year that I am working at least 50 hours a week because of budgeting season so all the additional work on my plate with pandemic response, taking on duties of “non-essential” staff and the in office duties of the employees I have put on “active call in”...

@Survivor3 thank you, it doesn't feel some times like what I am doing matters. I seem to be constantly hearing that I should be doing more, every day I come to work and I deal with complaints from the public that we aren't doing enough in the face of this crisis but the resources I have to work...

this pandemic is really getting to me. I am not dealing with the at home isolation that many are as I am an "essential" worker and my organization has been struggling to implement remote work capabilities in the midst of all of these crazy times. I have been working 60-80 hours a week 6-7 days...

What does COVID mean to me? It means making decisions of which employees are essential and which I can designate as non-essential. Which leads to me making decisions about potentially putting individuals and their families at risk, it means making decisions about how long my organization can...

Thank you all for the encouragement. I made it through today, I had to make some very hard decisions and will most like have to make more tomorrow but with the ongoing directives from state government, the federal government, CDC and WHO the fluidity of needing to address things as they change...

I don't even know how to describe what I have been feeling the past several days other than an almost mental and physical paralysis due to the COVID-19 virus. I am not afraid of the virus, the food shortages, societal panic etc it is because of the responsibilities that come with my job. I am...

So much has happened in a month. What I thought was going to be a great new job opportunity turned into two months or painful employment agreement negotiation with them expecting me to compromise on every issue and the other side not giving an inch on any issue and I just couldn't continue to...

When I say no I don't want to do a worksheet to discuss this issue I mean I don't want to do a worksheet in writing or verbally walking through them and no I am not going to take them home and do homework like I am a kid again that has to turn in a paper for a grade.

The thing is I really haven't made any close acquaintances. . It is one reason why when I was on the extended vacation that I began considering whether I was okay living where I am or if I really wanted to return to the area where I lived formerly.

Thank you, it also feels weird because the last time I left a job for a better job was nearly 30 years ago. Since then I have either left a job because I could no longer work there (like my last job had become so toxic my P-doc wouldn't sign off on me return from short term disability), lost my...

This is an excellent point and I will try to remember it but I still feel guilty probably because I know everyone here expected me to stay as long as my predecessor which was over a decade. This I struggle with, logically I understand this but so many times I have been told I was worthless and...

Back in October when I took my extended vacation I took time and came to the realization that even though I had a perfectly fine job, with significantly reduced stress, lower cost of living and decent benefits I wasn't happy and there was nothing that could change that would make me happy. I...

just a different perspective here, have you considered how much he might hate/dislike the fact that he has to cancel so often because of his health? I struggle with migraines as well actually diagnosed with “chronic DAILY migraines” and yes that means 20-25 a month and I do everything I can to...

I have been laying in bed tossing and turning for almost 5 hours now. This is really not good very important meeting tomorrow/today and I need to be on my game but just can’t fall asleep I even took a half of a second ambien and nothing arrgh

So it has been a long few weeks and I appreciate the input. Today was actually the first time I met with my T in person since August. We were supposed to meet in person two weeks ago but I had car trouble so we had a tele-session and then last week I was out of town so we had already scheduled...

My T temporarily relocated for the fall semester and we have been meeting via teletherapy while he was gone. He has now returned and beginning this next week we will be meeting in person again and I am nervous about it. I didn't think that I would be comfortable with teletherapy as I had...

I am am lone for Christmas and New Years this year, it is not the first time and it won't be the last holiday's that I spend alone in my life. Everyone always asks if I am lonely, do I want to come over to their holiday celebration, asks why I don't go to visit my family. But for me the...