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Uterine cramps are triggering for me certainly - not nightmare-causing, but cause me to have intrusive thoughts about rape and sometimes flashbacks, or a general feeling of emotional instability.

Both I and my spouse no longer have contact with our parents - best decisions we ever made. Both of us just end up in terrible mental health if we have to deal with them, as they do not respect who were are or what we need to be stable and sane. I don't get the 'owing' your family bull either...

Thanks so much for this!

Ooops! Alternative treatment spam, you can has it *chuckle*

As a scaly/otherkin pagan/spiritual kinky polyamorous pansexual person with CPTSD, ME/CFS and Fibro I've not found your posts weird and I've wished I was up to commenting. Dealing with disabling mental illness AND other co-morbid disability SUCKS. *hugs* Either way I just wanted to let you...

Hi Chibi - I have a lot of empathy for your experiences, and how hard it can be to feel like you can't 'feel' closeness to your partner. I m glad you're here too and I hope that you find friends and support here <3

Firstly. there are a bunch of ways to manage diet/supplements/herbals etc that can help and if I'm feeling well enough I'll try to come add more. Just quickly though - I think medicinal marijuana is accessible in Canada? I don't have the best access to benzos either and I find the green herb...

This helped me - I have been reading a lot from other communities (autistic especially) about being non-verbal and executive function problems, and I used to blame the talking thing on my ME/CFS etc. But looking back I would go non-verbal when symptomatic since I was a very little person, and my...

There's an extension I use on my browser (chrome) called 'Nanny For Google Chrome'. It allows me to set time limits per number of hours/day etc and doesn't let me access the site after my time is up. I can turn it off if there's something super important I want to stay in touch with, but it mean...

There's a bunch of us who benefit from cannabis use, but it's not for everyone. I'm really low energy or I'd go find some research for you. Simply put -- the benefits outweigh the risks in most cases, especially compared to other legal drugs and other things people use to self-medicate. It's...

I believe you and I understand what that kind of life is like. I've lived through things that were not-the-exact-same but similar. I believe you. It really happened. They should have believed you. All my sympathy and empathy and gentle hugs if wanted.

You're not stupid at all! As you yourself said, it's a big and complex issue and not even every therapist understands trauma. Many many people who have histories of trauma don't recognise what they went through as such until later. For instance, my spouse is 27 and only just now coming to the...

Yeah -- she really really does! It's kinda both. She always speaks from a position of 'authority' and in may family that means 'academic authority' which is the only kind that counts :P But she's also very much being intentionally vague/obtuse. She would never say outright 'you're...

thank you so much @Promicarus -- not much to add but I hear ya, and your perspective is awesome. I think it's best, as you say, to just step out of the ring and keep going on with my life and my healing. I did need to hear from others in the same position the exact things I've been hearing here.

@jd9900 Thanks so much for sharing -- though I'd never want anyone else to experience it, the fact that others go through similar things is always so reassuring. I've had similar experiences, for myself, in having not spoken to her for the last almost a year. I've learned that I can actually...

@rightkindofme Thank you -- I do 'know' that, but my mom is probably the hardest person to resist getting into my head. Plus she's stubborn. This is her stance and she hasn't shifted it for years, just has never been this direct about it. So I still need to hear other people tell me that...

Yes -- she has massive unresolved guilt issues and I think this is her way of handling that. In a 'if it's my responsibility I'm still ill, she doesn't need to feel responsible' way. This is all, of course, full of complex backstory, but I'm so exhausted by it that I didn't feel up to laying...

@arfie that sounds terrible, I'm so sorry you're in that situation. I have no idea what to say to help and be supportive other than it's not oaky and I hope there's support available for you. You have all my empathy.

My mother hasn't been speaking to me because I asked her to acknowledge her part in some past events where she and my father (step dad, not abusive) have tromped all over my triggers and acted extremely inappropriately then refused to take any responsibility for what occurs. I've been writing...

Wow, thanks so much @rightkindofme and @Toria, rightkindofme -- I absolutely agree that the social anxiety/withdrawal from friendships and inability to maintain them (he calls me his 'social secretary' which is fine except for when I'm not doing well enough to make sure he sees people) is very...

Thank you RussH -- it's been lovely to get some other supporters perspectives and I'm sure I'll continue to come here when I need to understand. I hope he comes back here for help too! He's got a profile but just hasn't used it much.

Thanks Amethyst and RussH :) I think both of you have really good points -- Amethyst: I absolutely agree he needs social contact that is not just me. Unfortunately he is adamant that a) he only likes to spend time with me b) he sees people at work (I don't think this is the same as relaxing...

Thank you so much -- I don't want to put unreasonable expectations on him but his isolation worries me in the absence of consistent counselling. From what you're saying, as tough as it can be I should probably try to give him space/time to settle into counselling and hope that helps him reach...

I am a sufferer, and I am worried about my supporter. My husband has anxiety and depression and is my sole carer. It's been a real struggle for him to get into therapy in the first place and it keeps getting disrupted. Every break from it means things get rough here. He's heading back to...

Hey Jann -- regarding guilt feelings. I know it might be tough to process right now but, as a child (doesn't matter if your 18 now, you're still their child and you certainly were when you were 10 etc) you do NOT hold responsibility, whatever you may have 'done' for the actions of adults...