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Hello All, I'm not really sure what I am asking, but I know I'm having a problem with the issue of "self-sabotage." I went to this magazine website (Psychology Today) and read an article listing 10 possible signs that one may have a fear of failure. I identified with about half of them: 1)...

I won't be long, but I just wanted to say I can relate, too, maddog. I can relate to a lot of you all! Maddog, I'm also happy that you posted this, and I applaud you for sharing such a sensitive piece of yourself with us. Thank you! :tup: My T sounds quite similar to yours. He also seems to...

Not sure if anyone's still reading this one, but I can identify with what JadeB and a lot of the other posters are talking about. It's weird because, at the time of the original posting, I hadn't even met my current T, and I wouldn't for another year! I'm thinking back to how I was with him...

Thank you all so much for the help. Wow! I really do appreciate all the advice and support :) I asked my T, and he was like, "...what do you mean?" When I went to clumsily explain, before I could even finish he said, "You can email me as many times as you want." Yay! He isn't going to respond...

Thanks for this, BloomInWinter. I never thought of the therapeutic relationship in that way. Thank you for your kind words of encouragement :) It's funny because I was just looking over some of my posts from earlier this year, and it really did help me see my progress much clearer. What an...

Thank you both for your replies. They were very helpful! Yeah, I think the journaling thing is a good idea. It would give me time to organize my thoughts/feelings so that I can focus in on what I'm trying to say when I do share with him. I used to journal all the time, but I've kind of come...

Hi all, I’m having a problem regarding being vulnerable to my therapist. My T and I have been working together for about 2 years (we have each had 2 birthdays, and they’re 8 months apart, lol). I trust him very much, and I feel that he knows me really well. :tup: I have been meeting with him...

I'm an INFJ, too, just puttin that out there, lol Ashdawn8287, how did you like "Quiet?" I was thinking of reading it as a sort of validation exercise, and I know it has great reviews. I just don't know anyone who has read it. I'm working on getting to know myself and liking who I really am...

I signed. Thank you for bringing this to my (& the forum's) attention, Springer80! I like stuff like this, people coming together for a cause that is, unfortunately, common. Makes me have more faith in humanity! :D

Congratulations, Onigokko :woot: This is a great first step you are taking. I hope things go well for you and that you stay encouraged. You are very brave! Changing yourself is hard, but oh so worth it when it leads to a happier, healthier you :)

Hi Kas_Can_Fly, I've sorta "been there, done that," but I also still have my struggles with self-hatred and cyclical negativity (that leads to depression spirals). I'm so sorry to hear of your suffering, though :sorry: You aren't "making me sad" or bummin' me out, I just know a little of...

Hello All! Wow. Where to begin? So much said here that truly resonates with me! Like Leah123 said, I just want everyone to know that, yes, you can get your emotional needs met even if they haven't really been met in the past. There is hope :) For me, the way I've done this is through...

Hello All! Two books I find a lot of comfort in are "Go Tell It On the Mountain" by James Baldwin, and "Invisible Man" by Ralph Ellison. I read both of these in a lit course while in college. I didn't get a chance to really get into "Invisible Man" while in the slightly-disorganized, and...

Hi Aka! I'm sorry that "HR" guy was such a jerk. :tdown: I do think you made an excellent decision resisting, though. You stuck to your guns and listened to your self even when he laid into you, tryin' to send you on a guilt trip! I think that's great! And I hope you take this experience as...

Thanks for your sweet reply, Abstract :) And Err0r, I never thought to do that! That sounds like a great idea, and I don't see how writing down triggers & stressors could be a bad thing. It seems like it would definitely help alert you to things that can cause you trouble. Also, it feels...

Hi Leah123! I'm glad you found the strength to reach out to people on the forum and get some of the support you needed :) It seems like talking and sharing here helped lead you to emailing your T and linking her to your thread. That's awesome! :D I'm so glad and relieved that your T responded...

I just wanted to say to Ms. Spock (and everyone else facing similar challenges and/or posted on this thread) I am very encouraged by what you are doing. I am sending waves of positivity, strength, and confidence your way :) I applied to a Masters in Social Work program in late January, and I...

Hello RB! It's late, so I'll make this short, but I just wanted to say that I hear where you're coming from. :) For the record, I don't think you have AS. I think you went through a lot in your early years that made it very challenging for your young mind to relate to others. It also sounds...

Hi Akoya Dawn, and welcome to the forum! :) I understand not wanting to switch to a different mental health professional after building up a rapport with this one. It can be a lot of work, and sharing can be very difficult and time-consuming. It sounds like you have been working with this...

Wow, Meadowsweet, your definitions were right on! I love how you explained that :tup: Abstract: Not sure if you're still looking for help, but I always viewed "stressor" and "trigger" in a way similar to what Meadowsweet described. The key difference, for me, is that a trigger can be very...

I'm happy your surgery went well, Ayasha! :)

Hi Angelguard, I'm so sorry to hear about your terrible experience with your group "leader." :( I'm not sure what kind of set-up it is, but did you inform anyone in charge or another 1:1 leader of what that woman did to you and how she made you feel? And what's worse is that this was all in...

Hello Raven123 :) Have you tried calling back or visiting the center since this incident? Even if it was only to say, "Hey! Such-and-such didn't call me!" ? I'm sorry you were so invalidated by the intake woman. She should never have tried to push a religious agenda on you, especially to the...

Thanks so much for your kind words, tb :) You made my day! I totally identify with this right here. I'm still trying to understand that guilt is, indeed, something I can choose to absolve and live without. Not have this ever-present banner that reads, "You are not allowed to be truly happy...

I can relate to what both of you all have said so much. I'm not sure if that is such a great thing or not, lol, but I appreciate what has been said :D I myself struggle with guilt when it comes to wrestling the ghouls of my past. I don't mean to paint an inappropriate picture of a horrific...