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I think most writers here are mature adults, who understand when relationship is over and when it still continues even though one person is not physically present in it. In addition to this, people who did lose their relationship completely and irreversibly are also PTSD victims, just like...

This seems to be another common problem: why don't they want to take medications? My husband refused. Every other healthy person around me takes something for anxiety or depression (so do I!), but those, who need it the most just refuse? And yes, when you are mature enough and have been in...

Could you share some positive experiences when people did get back together? I am so tired of negative comments and advice to move on, it would really help to hear something more positive and supportive. If you could share privately, that would be great too, if you don't want to share it here.

I completely agree. Sometimes it may be quite easy to distinguish between just a breakup and the PTSD isolation. I have been in quite a few relationships and am married for the third time. I have never held on to my relationships, I always knew when it was the time to move on. However, when you...

As this seems to be a very common situation associated with PTSD, and circumstances and outcomes seem to be very different, I would not generalize and give one-size advice to everyone. Also, don't underestimate sharing experiences, they may help not only those, who have been "dumped" to survive...

My story. I have been married for 7 years, and we both are in our mid 50s, with grown children. Our marriage was very good, very loving, affectionate, and fun. He has always been a very considerate, attentive, happy and optimistic person full of energy, always smiling and laughing, and making...

I think this post is a great idea. I believe each case is very different, so generalizations with suggestion to just move on because your relationship is broken are inappropriate. Many of us have our boyfriends/girlfriends, husbands/wives on the run but not completely out of the relationship. As...

I am sorry you feel like you are rotting away without your partner. But what if I don't feel that I am rotting? I have a very demanding full-time job, a passionately loved hobby that requires a lot of time, my close family, and friends, who I love and want to spend time with. I don't "have to...

Lol, therapist, not rapist, bad autocorrect...

I know how you feel. Same happened to me, with my husband of 7 years. Loving affectionate relationship, perfect life, always happy and optimistic person, and now he is gone and we have no communication: no calls, emails, texts. Complete reversal of personality. He used to call me 10 times a day...

Also, I don't think there are stats on how long they disappear, I really would like to know myself, as I am in a position of waiting for I don't know what... People here say for some of them it's a couple of weeks, for others it's months, even a year... It seems this is very individual, depends...

I think this is probably not something specific for PTSD, because I did meet a couple of people with other diagnoses that did the same things: disappearing without contacts, coming back, going away again, etc. Probably people with mental conditions be in general just can't take the stress of...

I have been with my husband for 7 years, and we were very happy until the symptoms of PTSD started. He has it in a very bad form, because he was hiding the symptoms for a long time and did not get any help (he still does not get much). He started talking about living alone several months ago and...

Yes, exactly, that is what I wanted to do - one-two sentences with the facts of my life, nothing emotional, just to let him know I am OK and still there for him if/when needed. thank you.

Thank you for your advice. I don;t think I can talk to him about the treatment now, because he find this intrusive and pressuring now, so at least I have to wait for better days, but I do want him to know that I am living my normal life and don't need to move on or date healthy men in order to...

Oh no, it was very helpful to me, I am trying to understand the condition, and everything helps me so much, I did not cry today, because I have been chatting here on this website. Thank you so much for sharing your experience, the sufferer's experience is especially precious to me, because my...

I guess everyone is different. I did not experience this. When I had a loss, I was not bothered by the fact that everyone else is going on with their life, from my perspective that was what was expected, I was OK with that... That is what is so difficult: there are common problems that the...

This all is very good to hear. I would not think that saying a coupe of words about my day, something very neutral, would be not good... I am upset about lack of any channels of communication, I wanted him to be aware of what is going on in my life, just to keep us connected at some very...

Wow, thank you for telling me, who would think... Do you mean that even a short message that does not contain any emotional description would overwhelm you? Like I went to work, my day was uneventful, and I came back home after work? This is overwhelming too?

I agree with you on that, I suspect that his action would be the same whether I was doing more or not. This is what is the most difficult for the supporters, that our significant others refuse any support. I feel very powerless, with a lot of desire to help and to contribute and no mechanism to...

It's not that simple. I should have known better. He was in a horrifying incident, I should have watched for symptoms and should have read more about possible consequences, but I guess it just was much easier to believe that he did not have any. I also should have read more when the symptoms...

Thank you for your reply, everything helps. He agreed to see a therapist, but refused medications. I am not even sure he will continue appointments with the therapist, I suspect he may not, because the therapist asked him to do daily recollections of the incident, and that feels very...

It absolutely does make sense. It is similar to what the psychologist said, that my husband feels like he is in a hot kitchen, and he wants to get out as soon as possible. It is hard to fully appreciate and understand, but I get the idea. In a way, we are lucky to be through with children and to...

Thank you for sharing your experience, it helps to understand what is going on. It's just not an option for me to move on right now. It's my husband we are talking about, with whom we have been very happy for 7 years, and who always have been very affectionate and happy person. Of course, the...

How long has it been for you? Did he/she walk out? Are you in communication? What was offered as a reason for the breakup? I am interested in others' stories, because they may help me understand what is going on in my own life. Yes, in my case, he did shut everyone out, the closer the person is...