Search results

Sometimes, something is bothering hubby and his PTSD. Unfortunately the PTSD won't immediately let him sit down and tell me his worries. First we have to go through the dance. The dance used to last for hours and hours, but with practice and effort from both of us it is usually a lot quicker...

I'm sorry things are rough at the moment. From what some of the sufferers have said I understand that intensive therapy makes things worse before it gets better. It brings traumas to the fore for them to be dealt with, which obviously has other repercussions. May I suggest having a look...

I love my brother 2/4 but I don't like him. I want him to be happy, but I don't want anything to do with him at this point in time. I love my Mum, but she's the most selfish and self-centred person I know, and I often don't like her. I love my husband, but sometimes he is a (non-PTSD related)...

That's the thing with these ones, they are not psychiatric grade meds, they were just prescribed by his GP. He can take them one night, then not again for weeks. It's only when he feels he needs to, unlike his PTSD meds which he needs to take everyday and cannot stop without medical help.

My hubby used to have bad night terrors a couple of times a week. He is on medication for his PTSD, but that didn't stop the night terrors. So his GP also prescribed some strong, drowsy-making anti-histamines (I'm afraid I can't remember the name). He doesn't need to take them all the...

Wohoooo! :D Yay us:tup:

Welcome @Annabelle! Another supporter chipping in here. You will see it said all over these boards, but communication is key. We love you, and want to do our best for you, but generally we aren't psychic. So when you are able to we need you to talk to us about what is going on. We don't...

:hug: Not much more I can offer I'm afraid, other than hoping nothing more crops up to add to the 'standard' stress.

^ a lot of this. But also (thankfully on very rare occasions) standing up to him to stop him doing anything stupid.

Proud of you :hug: I understand it is hard, but you are being so strong in providing your daughter with stability, and you are a wonderful role model.

Can you have a safe word? So he just stops and plays non-musical statues for a few seconds. You can catch a breath, and then move to what you feel is a safe distance, or maybe gently move his limbs into a non-threatening position so you still have the closeness without feeling trapped?

To be fair, hubby's never been a major isolator. However, he has a very good friend who also has PTSD who does isolate, and just recently the non-contact started to really affect hubby's well-being. Thankfully the friend got back in touch, and they had a good chat. They have come up with a...

As a supporter, on the one hand I think it's good to have an idea of what may upset/stress/trigger you as we generally will try to help you manage these. On the other hand, I would say that there is no need to be overly graphic. We will never truly be able to understand what you have been/are...

I met husband #1 at the pub and #2 on a dating site! :hilarious: :roflmao::roflmao: My ex-husband and I are still on good terms, we just fell out of love and bumbled along in our marriage for a bit before deciding to call it day. However, I wasn't exactly happy to discover he was off out...

It doesn't matter why he's doing it, the fact is he is doing it. He is unreliable in every way that matters. You need to get you and your daughter some lawyer-shaped protection. The sooner the better, so he can't come back later and say "if I was that bad why didn't you do anything about it...

I honestly think they are just words. His actions are far more important. Just think about the situation in reverse; he says "I love you" several times a day, but does nothing to show it. I know which I'd prefer, and he may have important reasons for not wanting to say that particular word/...

I've heard this many times from hubby. I just tell him he's wrong. I'm all growed up and get to make these decisions for myself. If I didn't want to be with him, I wouldn't be. So he is stuck with me. And this is very scary. Hubby was discharged from hospital with anti-depressants that...

I'm pleased to hear things are improving and that you had a good visit last month :hug:

@Sighs - we need that checklist on a large poster by the door for any new supporters to see as soon as they walk in here. @Earthmoonstars - what she ^ said. One of my boundaries is "if he talks to me like that (like your 'phone conversation suggested) then I'm leaving the room/hanging up the...

My hubby does this. Usually when something completely different is bothering him, and he doesn't know how to deal with it. You reacted perfectly. No matter what you said it would probably have been twisted by his brain into something else, and leaving (in my case the room) is the best way to...

A lot of this is personal, and maybe when he's is a good space you should ask him? I know if my husband is upset, and recalling details of his trauma, I move to be near him and I hold his hand. If he wants a hug he will lean into me. He wants me to be there, but not all over him. But some...

Well we are working on it, does that count? We have good days and bad days, but what relationship doesn't? As for the ending, well my first marriage had an OK ending. No PTSD involved there. I'm hoping not to find out about the ending to my current relationship (marriage) for a long, long...

Happy the way things are.

I don't think you were rude. With some people you have to be blunt, and even that doesn't always work; as your sister proved. My Mum is like that. Her's is the only opinion that counts, and she is the only one allowed to speak. I've been known to get up and walk out as she will not respect my...

And based on a number of threads within the supporter section I get the impression that some ar$eh*les use their PTSD as an excuse for cheating.