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PLEASE take care of yourself after this shock! I was the wife in this scenario about 12 years ago....my ex husband had a girlfriend that I was unaware of and when I was 7.5 months pregnant he moved out to decide if he really wanted to be a husband and a father. (We alread had a 1 year old at...

His need for control over you is him desperately grasping at anything to "feel" in control of something (not unlike a small child throwing a tantrum) - sounds like he is near is bottom..Hopefully this will motivate him to get the help he needs. You are NOT betraying him in any way - his...

Trembling makes some good points. You should never be sorry for how you react or what you say in a particular situation - unless it is mean and hurtful. What you said was exactly how you felt and not mean or hurtful. You were willing to give him space and time to think about all of this - he...

Hello Cannon Fodder, Welcome!! You have come to the right place! As I am sure you already know with your experience with your dad and now your girlfriend - PTSD is a stress disorder. Too much good stress or bad stress can cause a person with PTSD to shut down. I have no doubt having PTSD...

Hello Darin, I think you know exactly why you posted this ~ and if you re-read what you wrote the answer will become even more clear. She does have PTSD, and that is a terrible thing -- however she has to show you she wants to get better. Go to counseling, take meds if necessary and stick with...

Ha!! That is funny myself ~ love that idea. We are pretty silly at our house - so I am sure we would be giggling and laughing a lot at that game. Great list 4L150N!! While reading your list I found myself nodding my head thinking, yes that would make me feel good - and that would too - and...

Hello Jamie, Welcome!! You have come to the right place. There are so many threads and so many articles on here about PTSD - one in particular might be of some help called The Stress Cup. I am sorry you are going through this, but educating yourself through this site and any other thing you...

I agree with you - guilt trips would not be a good way to help them through. Guilt is just another type of manipulation which is never a good thing. I wish people just never got to the place where they want to end their lives that way. But when the voices won't stop or the pain won't stop...

IMHO... I believe it is selfish for someone to commit suicide. When they are in that moment of dispair - the only thing they are thinking about is themselves and a way to end their pain. They are not thinking about their parents, other family, friends, children, etc. They are thinking about...

Not crazy - but maybe a little too forgiving. :O_o: I agree with Eleanor ~ an affair would be a deal breaker for me too. What is that saying...."Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option." I know this is easier said than done when you have known this...

Hi snypercell, Welcome! I am the supporter of a Veteran with Combat PTSD. He has many of the things you list above from time to time. FYI ~ There is also another site associated with this forum called My Combat PTSD - it's only for Veterans with Combat PTSD and is another great place to learn...

tifany, You must continue having your girl time with your friends. After all, what good will you be to him if you are depressed and unhappy? It is most important that you take care of yourself first - that way you can be there for him. With February being particularly difficult for him, it...

This may sound cheesy :geek: ....but it's a feel good exercise for you and for someone else..and for sure will relieve some stress. You can't be stressed when you feel good. Right?!? Ok, here goes... Write thank you notes & mail one each day for a month. Send some to relatives, professional...

Ahhh...I get what you are asking now. My boyfriend is kind of the same way ~ except for the fact that when I'm not there, he has his kids there. He does not have a lot of his own friends either. He has lots of people he knows in town and talks to at his kids games or if he runs into them...

As I am sure you have read and as a med student you probably know - PTSD is a stress disorder. The more stress and pressure you put on him about anything, the more it will backfire. He may be blowing off class or skipping work because of the stress and he just hasn't voiced that to you yet...

HOLY SMOKES!! My boyfriend has this...the VA told him it was shingles, but I googled it and he has it in his face and all of his symptoms are that of Ramsay Hunt Syndrome...not just shingles. And he gets it off and on when he is stressed out more than usual. Weird.:speechless:

I am not sure what you are asking here tifany...maybe I missed something. But it sounds to me like you and your boyfriend have a pretty good relationship.... :tup:

Hello, I'm sorry you are going through this - and I am sure you feel a lot of pain right now. So please take care of yourself. :tup: As far as your situation, you cannot force someone to love you or want to be with you by professing love or promises if they aren't ready, able or don't want...

Welcome jkr8789. I am sooooo sorry that you are going through this with your boyfriend. I think if you read any threads in the supporters section you will find your story over and over again. I too was in your shoes not so long ago. My boyfriend and I are in a good place right now, but it...

Sephira, How long will he be in Bahrain? Long distance relationships are tough, and even tougher with PTSD involved. I am so glad you are getting therapy. :tup: Take care of yourself and do things that make you happy ~ mani/pedi, a new outfit, a new purse or shoes, a massage or out to eat with...

Part of it may be manipulation and part of it may be PTSD confusion and part of it may just be the physical distance and the stress of his job. He may not even know the answer to this... Something I have discovered with my guy (he has combat PTSD from military service) is that normally in a...

Hello Sephira, It sounds like he is being honest with how he feels right now, however in Bahrain I am sure that he needs to feel some numbness in order to stay safe and be able to do his job. He said he is willing to work on it which is great! And you are in a better place now because you do...

What an amazing journey you've had so far Nicolette. Do you ever wonder what your life would have been like if you hadn't gone over to give your son the key? Even with all of the ups and downs, it seems as though you and Anthony have a really good thing going. Very cool. :tup: xx Sisu

I agree with Ivy ~ it's hard for other people to distinguish the difference between the man and the illness. Have you tried writing down your "vents" and thoughts in a journal? They even have that journal section on here to get those thoughts out of your head. I find that I just sometimes...

First off (((((Sunshine71))))) Ugh! So sorry you are going through this with your "man child"... :confused: It sounds to me as if he is acting childish to get a reaction from you ~ sometimes when people feel miserable they want other people around them to feel miserable too. You know the...