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Sorry, I guess I have no idea what ACT is. Something that's frustrating about this symptom is that it has no real context. It's not like I'm usually brooding beforehand or not feeling positively about myself. It's actually more the opposite. I'll be feeling fine, and often I'm at work, just...

@EveHarrington Because these negative thoughts burst through aloud, I'm not sure a passive radical acceptance type model would really work, because they aren't really just thoughts; this symptom is an action, and that action is worrisome because it feels impossible to control. I did ignore it...

Thanks for the multitude of resources, dear Dancing Queen. :) I'll definitely look into those. I've never done all 21 days, but I have practiced the Happiness Challenge in the past, and it has definitely been helpful for me, although I didn't find it simple because it requires time, energy, and...

I'm glad you're willing to remove yourself for your own good if need be. PTSD doesn't have a one-size-fits all timeline. What would you consider management? I've been in therapy off and on from ages 12 through the present (26), and my symptoms are fairly cyclical regarding depression, suicidal...

I strongly encourage you to read all the way through that first link, given the above, although it does require a partner. I'd like to work up the guts to make such a request from my partner, but I'm not so sure I have it in me to ask for something like that. I have trouble asking for things...

That's an extremely helpful suggestion @One step at a time. Thank you.

Hey, so, this isn't about masturbation exactly, but if I had a partner I were comfortable asking something like this of, I think I would give this sexual exercise a go in my journey to change my perception of sexual contact and abuse: Masturbation Month: Yoni Massage I have found some of the...

The fact that this feeling has persisted for so long is significant IMO. I work with someone who everyone half-jests is a serial killer or a psycho. I've worked with him for about 5 months now. He's... really strange, no denying it, and I do think he has several screws that are clinically loose...

For about 3-4 years now, I've been struggling with compulsively talking to myself--yes, out f*cking loud--in this fashion: "You should kill yourself." "You're so f*cking stupid." "I hate you." "You should go die." &c To combat that, I argue back. Yes. Out f*cking loud. "You should kill--no, I...

Welcome to the forum. What your father did sounds wildly, wildly inappropriate: I would consider it tantamount to sexual abuse and certainly emotionally abusive. I'm very sorry to hear you're struggling with all of this. I'm an incest CSA survivor, too. Though your title says you can't talk...

I cannot tell you how relieved I am to read this post. I have been trying to write here about EXACTLY this (although my CSA was perpetrated by my brother) for about a month, and you said everything so, so much better. So well that you've helped me understand myself better. I've been reading a...

There are dozens of posts around the forum that touch on this subject. You are far from alone.

Was the sexual abuse reported? This man sounds extremely dangerous. Change your locks. Get an alarm system. Take out a restraining order. Whatever you need to do to prevent him from entering your home and life. He doesn't sound worth anything at all, son or not. I personally live in a state...

I just assumed the OP was using messenger to ask that question. It never occurred to me that it was a more public platform.

Hit the nail on the head.

Why won't he talk over the phone? It sounds like there's an insane level of disrespect going on. Why not just tell him he can't visit unless he discloses whatever information you want to know? Or tell him that she's not welcome in your home?

Hey there @WTF Happened. I'm not Anthony, obviously, but I'd like to share something with you that my T told me earlier this year. As someone who was in a committed relationship with another person, I'd crossed some major intimacy boundaries with a friend of mine, and when I told my T I felt my...

Have you tried rigorous daily exercise? It might help with the intensity of your body flashbacks. While trauma processing therapies (EMDR, garden variety talk therapies etc) don't necessarily address the physiological aspect of trauma re-experiencing, they do give a sufferer a safe(r) space to...

I will. Revelation can be both slippery and suffusive. I'm going to try to hold on to this. This has been my biggest take-away.

@WishfulThinking123 I guess I couldn't know for certain since my primary trauma occurred at such a young age, but I would suspect the involvement of trauma much more if it felt like a behavior that was intentionally risk-taking and self-destructive/debasing rather than what I feel it to be...

I've had sex in a lot of public spaces. I don't think it's connected to my trauma, though. Btw, I highly recommend the Grand Canyon.

That's a phobia. People can experience something as traumatic... but that doesn't make it a capital T Trauma belonging to criterion A: https://www.istss.org/ISTSS_Main/media/Webinar_Recordings/RECFREE01/slides.pdf Page 8.

Have you considered a shunt?

Okay, so once I figured out that what I was being asked to give up was shame--shame! Of all the things! It should be like being asked to give up herpes, right?--I had to figure out why the hell I felt so damn threatened by the idea of giving it up. Well, two primary reasons, I've decided: 1) It...

Like X10 button plz. :tup: