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Yes, I just need to talk to her about our other needs/issues. I hope she will understand that I still need that rate. I just worry how it sounds. I am a very reg and consistent patient, she has mentioned how she likes that.

Thanks for your reply. I cannot skip a week. I could if she was more skills teaching/DBT based but she does deep trauma work with some skills intertwined. I would increase it, but now the rate feels reasonable. Where as before, it was tricky and meant we could not buy anything else or get out of...

Yes, I know I'm mind reading. This comes directly from my mother who would say to me when I was in high school, "You have enough money to spend on boots, but you can't help with groceries?" I am really f*cked up when it comes to money. I know this is projections/cognitive distortions, but...

Hi every one, I need some advice. I have an obsessive, repetitive concern circulating my mind and I am trying to ease it's constant nagging in my mind. I see an out of network therapist who charges 100 dollars an hour, so my therapy bill is 400 to 500 dollars about each month. I am trying to...

I can see the similarities between what happens in the brain under direct, orchestrated, and planned brain washing and what happens in the brain from years of guilting, shaming, and gas lighting, major cognitive distortions. I was sort of woven into this ideal world by my mother where my role...

Can you go for a detailed ultrasound like with a Reproductive Endocrinologist? These docs are very good at investigating what went wrong including D and C's and they are good at problem solving. Their main job is to help women get pregnant again, but they could help you figure out why you have...

So, I just want to add that I believe that what I suffered is not really mind control or brain washing mainly because my mom did not set out to control or change the thoughts in my brain. Cult leaders will do this deliberately and victims of ritualistic or cult abuse have this specifically in...

Yes, it is believed that she likely has Narcissistic Personality Disorder. Three therapists have pointed to this disorder. It is undiagnosed though. She would never go to therapy, as she believes she is perfect. She has actually stated to me that my therapists are warping my mind and poisoning...

So I often arrive at this term in my own abuse processing. My mother saw me as an extension of herself and raised me to be like her. I always failed at it and was the family f*ck up. This is what I believe. But this is not true. An example of this would be all of the insults she would give me...

I really think that you can find help and healing. Don't give up on pursuing therapy. Look for a trauma and sexual abuse specialist. You might try using Psychology Today. So sorry this happened to you and on Christmas. You can reclaim your life. There are so many resources and paths for healing...

Hi, So I had similar issues as you. My mother constantly ridiculed and insulted me and she would allow dangerous things to happen to me. Like my stepfather tried to kill me a few times and literally wanted me dead (he was a bit of a psychopath) and he would threaten my life like on the daily. I...

So I put a calming lotion on all over my body. I brush my hair, put on a tinted lip balm and I will use a lavender oil on my wrist. I always have water and a mint. I sometimes have tea as well. I do think about what I wear. I want to be comfortable, but look good. I will even put on make up for...

She is still blaming you for making her feel. That is ridiculous. No wonder she is avoiding therapy. She does not want to feel. That is probably part of how she got her life together by not feeling.

But I feel like you should have that comfort there too and he should be trauma focused, I think that is the key. Don't choose someone just because of nervousness. Your logical decision making comes into play with choosing someone focused in what you need and also your gut instinct. Is it hard...

So my current therapist felt very comfortable and natural to talk to at first. She still does. I then developed an attachment to her and this caused some discomfort which we are working through. I can have "maternal projections" onto her, but I still always feel that comfort, equality vibe, so I...

Well, so I was in denial about a lot of abuse and also had a lot of symptoms burried until I had my baby and then severe sleep deprivation. It all came out then. So, it was a blessing in a way even though the whole experience caused me some trauma because no med worked for me, but actually...

Hi, so I have CPTSD and a very loving supportive husband. I can be horrible to him at times. In our early days I repeatedly broke up with him. I have repeatedly threatened divorce. I have insulted him, guilt tripped him, and manipulated him. This was all I knew of intimacy. I grew up with a...

Can you rescue your dog? Maybe get your mom to help you get him?

Yeah, the Holidays are hard. I get really pronounced memories this time of year. I think abuse really increased for me around Christmas. I am meeting with my therapist to discuss specifically holiday triggers and a plan for responding to them. Do you have a therapist?

I really think that you can do both approaches being presented here. Stand up to stigma and just let it go. You can pick your battles. It is important to be an advocate for social change especially for marginalized groups of people. Especially important, is being an advocate for yourself, in...

So, I am dealing with this now. My sense of self always arrives at this statement: "I am a piece of shit and I should not have love or resources." This thought process feels soothing and makes sense while at the same time causes anxiety because I am fighting for love. I recently noticed that...

Well if we don't do anything about it then the mental illness stigma remains. Just like every other stigma that remains that never gets spoken about. Maybe it does not work in the moment to out your PTSD, but there has to be away to speak out about it, especially through social media. People do...

So, I can relate to this. I did a post recently about ADHD triggers and how they can be so distracting. I was once really distracted by my T's neon Halloween socks that she wore. I did bring my triggers up with my T. Its great because like other people have said, I can practice getting my needs...

So I am an over achiever. My mother (who I believe has NPD) raised me to over achieve. She expected perfection, yet I have disabilities that effect my learning like ADHD, I had to get straight A's. She would make everything about who I was. If I was not perfect I was selfish. She would with hold...

Yes, and the denial and ostracism is felt too by people who have mental illness. The fear of being mentally ill is what fuels denial. The acceptance of having been abused is what makes therapy so difficult. I feel better now about what those women said. But, I have been sort of telling them off...