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First things first, why does your T think you should space things out? Is that a practical measure due to insurance/finances or because you’ve progressed well and would be starting to taper down anyway or a bit of both. It’s not unusual for therapy to change and for it to feel like you’re not...

This sums it up so perfectly for me. Just keeping my shit together, doing daily tasks, being with the people I care about can be so utterly exhausting because in my mind I’m fighting fires all the freaking time, even when I know there’s no fire to be fought. Some days I can do it with grace and...

I so feel your pain - I have very different triggers to you around children but motherhood has been so much harder than I thought it would be, entirely because my triggered reactions to things my kids do. I think the first thing is to do what you’re doing here - recognise it as a trigger for you...

It’s one thing to say you need patience, it’s quite another for someone to play and play on that. No sex is a huge thing in a relationship and while you now know the reason for that, what did you think was happening with her at the time? I think her not wanting sex is understandable in the...

It’s not the first time I’ve told her I didn’t want to be there, or didn’t want to connect with her, or asked if we could just gossip - it’s all ok really, part of the relationship. Tell her and see what she does with it.

I think having children is one of the most triggering things - It’s very hard to separate out what’s actually happening from what’s gone before. You do need to figure it out though because your children need and deserve to have a good relationship with their dad. Things that i find helpful...

What? Do you have evidence for this claim? At this age the personality is only just beginning to form - it’s difficult to get a Borderline diagnosis under the age of 18 because of the way in which ordinary growth and development can present asBirderkine and/or mask Borderline symptoms. I’ve not...

It might be an idea to ask your current T how much she has shared about you in collegiate discussions and whether sharing would have been in an anonymised “I’m seeing someone who...” rather than “I’m seeing fauxliz who is...”. Your T may be suggesting this person in the knowledge that she hasn’t...

I’m sorry for your loss. You sound so disappointed in her response to you. In your text did you ask her to contact you or to arrange an additional session or did you let her know about your dog and hope that she would offer you some support? How would she know what you needed? It sounds like...

Yep, me too. In my old job they restricted the office space and said they would give me an office to work from that had no windows - I complete lost my shit. It didn’t happen but the threat was enough. A setting I work in just now uses small meeting rooms with no windows and it’s very difficult...

Your idea of what makes a “good” client in therapy is a bit twisted around, it’s not about how well you are or how quickly you get better - it’s about how you engage in the process. Your T needs to know about the ups and downs - not in a “this happened, then this happened, then this happened”...

Ah no, you are a real sufferer here too - knowing your wife was raped is a huge thing, please don’t dismiss what you’re coming to terms with. You too are left angry, powerless and questioning - those things are very real, the realty is you both will be impacted by this in your own right. It’s...

Oh my goodness, I hear your pain and confusion about all of this, and no wonder. I can’t tell you why your wife specifically didn’t tell you but I know that rape feels incredibly shameful which makes it very difficult to tell anyone, especially the people we are closest to. Rape takes away...

I think there’s this perception of DV shelters that all the women have been through the same thing and are in a safe haven now so living together is like a sisterhood where everyone is super tolerant, super empathic and super supportive. But you’re talking about a group of traumatised women...

I hate it too - it’s bullshit nonsense designed to make people think that if they aren’t having an exceptional time, being an exceptional person every day then they’re some kind of freakish failure. But the meaning of exceptional is that it’s not the norm, we can’t be “the best version of...

So exercise that part of you that needs expression through childlike play whether that be dolls, or colouring, or whatever. Does it need to be in a park or somewhere public? If so it may be worth working out why that is - is there a way to duplicate that, or to just go and play on a swing for a...

@Bkinder youre reading way more into my posts than is there. I’m not trying to trounce anyone nor am I diagnosing over a forum - I’m far from qualified to do so - I disagree with you based on the clinical definition of NPD. You’ve got a view on this based on your experience which helps you make...

It’s absolutely fine that this is your perception given it helps you close the door, it doesn’t mean it’s accurate in terms of clinical presentation of NPD. Your concept of what it means to be secure follows the popular concept of secure self esteem etc which isn’t what @joeylittle or I are...

And where she says I don’t want to see you, but goes anyway, says she doesn’t want to kiss, but consents anyway, and says she doesn’t want sex but offers a blow job. OP, regrettable sex doesn’t mean you weren’t impacted by it, or that you’ve done something wrong as such, it just means that by...

Yep I think it’s regrettable too - saying you don’t want to have sex while consenting to hugging, kissing and petting gives really mixed messages. It sounds like you’re struggling and need some support, not least to help you set clear boundaries and mean them (ie I don’t want to see you and I’m...

I read it more as there are traits considered to be narcissistic that in the right place are part of a healthy psyche. To use your analogy - PTSD by its very definition is disordered however there is a range of post trauma reactions that, while unpleasant, are perfectly healthy responses to...

This. Narcissistic Personality Disorder is an extreme diagnosis meaning the individual needs to sit quite far out of the norm. So selfishness, self centred, egotistical, petty, spiteful behaviours don’t necessarily point to narcissism any more than flashbacks and anxiety point to PTSD. The...

Relationships with family are different from friends and different again from new people. Close family know what I’m struggling with, and so do some close friends, but not all. New people I don’t tell unless and until the point where they become close friends. Two questions I find helpful are...

I don’t think so, if a parent is abusing their child purposefully it means they’re abusive, not that they’re narcissistic. There are many drivers for abusive behaviour of which narcissism is just one and to be honest it doesn’t much matter in law whether a parent is unable, unwilling or uncaring...

I’m with @Friday in that I think labelling abusive people detracts from their responsibility for their behaviour. Someone with a personality disorder remains fully accountable for their own behaviour unless they are shown to lack legal capacity - so if someone with narcissistic personality...