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My suicidal thoughts, anxiety and overwhelming sense of doom have come back with a vengeance in this past week. I've had some difficulties, the worst being major conflict with my husband that has resolved some at this point. I've also being feeling rejected by friends and invalidated over...

I have a dialectical therapy skills workbook, I am going to go back and look at that regarding values. I honestly don't know what my values are. I like tea, yoga, nicely crafted clothing and shoes, travel and dining out but those aren't values, they are things I'm interested in. I've tried...

I know I should be happier than I am. I rarely cope negatively anymore, I used to cut, escape into cybersex or drink and now I can get through my day in a fairly healthy way but honestly, I'm bored and getting kinda depressed about it. I'm actually working through one of my last negative...

I can really relate to your original post Kris, I am so glad you posted this. About 9 months ago I started to share more of these types of things with my therapist about my fear of abusing children. I never did anything abusive but when I saw a child that looked like I did as a child, I got...

Men are a huge trigger so an extra jacket or sweater helps me feel safer when I feel threatened by stares, sunglasses, tea and something to eat. There was a time I took ativan everywhere with me because I never knew when I would start to melt down and need it but fortunately I don't have to do...

Happens to me too, occasionally it is not just the voice that changes but my whole sense of where I am and how old I am and when I snap out of it I get really scared of how disconnected I was. My therapist has pointed it out, saying I seem really young at certain points and my husband has...

When I'm really triggered, I get cold too, it is as you said Smallhold, during stress, blood gets drawn to the core to keep the essentials running. I also grew up in poverty in a cold climate, the memories of my abuse are so linked to feeling cold that the coldness itself is a trigger as well...

I can so relate to how you are feeling. I used to feel this way towards my husband too, feeling angry at him because of the abuse I suffered at the hands of other people. I can also relate to not feeling emotions, I used to either feel like a robot, feel dead inside or feel disconnected from...

Your situation growing up sounds similar to mine, my mom has a personality disorder and was the active abuser while my dad was the passive abuser. Dad has since died and I did have some contact with him prior to that, he did apologize some and that had an impact on my interest in seeing him...

I had bulimia as a teenager. I have been recovered from that for awhile but it has ravaged my teeth and the shame of it always comes up at my too frequent dental visits. Surprisingly no dentist has ever directly asked me if I suffered from an eating disorder, they just wondered out loud how I...

I have had massage done by a massage therapist that specializes in helping survivors of abuse. She is trained in somatic experiencing and has really helped me feel safer in my body and more connected to how I feel physically when I am triggered so I can process things. I can't recommend it enough.

It was nice to read about other women struggling with hypersexuality but I have to say this line disturbed me. Are you saying that porn addiction isn't serious or a real problem? Hopefully I misread the intent on that. I have the same experience as sweetgirl with drinking and my...

Your husband saying your reactions are "just for attention" makes me really sad. Clearly you could think of better ways to get attention if that was the reason for your reactions?! I wonder if you could have a sit down talk with him when the two of you are both in a good place to listen and...

Good for you for doing what you feel is best for you. A few years ago I moved a few thousand miles away from my family and cut off contact with my mother, it was one of the best things I have ever done for my healing and I made more progress in the last 3 years than the 9 years before that...

When I am at work and triggered, I try to just get through the moment as best I can, try to not be reactive and not be too hard on myself. This often involves shutting down to some degree which is probably better than what I used to do- yelling, crying, being mean to the person that is hurting...

StrongerNow- You are doing such and amazing job of handling this, you really are. You gently told her how you felt about her flaking out on you, she chose to focus the attention on herself and make you feel like she was doing a favor by being your friend which is such a hurtful and crappy...

I definitely think with enough therapy and learned coping skills that one can take control of their triggers and overcome them. Maybe for people with severe trauma ( I count myself in this category) the triggers won't 100% go away but they can be managed and will get to be less frequent and...

You described feelings I've had for much of my life. I have been depressed since childhood too though I have gotten better over the past few years with lots of therapies, some medication for awhile and also feeling and processing my anger. Just know that it does get better. I am at a low...

I'm glad you were able to talk with your husbandLeah and that he seems agreeable to therapy. I think you really handled it well in trying to weigh the good and bad of the relationship and brainstorm how the relationship can be salvaged. I don't have children but I can relate to how your...

My dentist appointment went ok, I got an extra heated pillow and let them know about my anxiety and they seemed to understand. Thanks everyone for the support!

I have a lot of dental problems related to having bulimia as a teenager and I have a cavity to get filled soon. I'm very nervous for a lot of reasons. My dentist is very nice and all but is a man, my trauma was caused by a man and I also had a bad experience with a male doctor as a child. I...

Digger- I can really relate to a lot of what you said and how badly you want to get better. Early on, I had difficulty taking in therapy and thought I must be wasting my time though her support was helping me in some way and I blamed myself. Part of what kept me from talking was that prior...

Thanks everyone for the replies, they helped me feel a little better. It is easy to feel all alone in my reactions sometimes and I am grateful that I can come here to feel less alone in it.

Great job , Courageofsnow!!! I've worked with a person that reminded me of my abuser and it's so scary and uncomfortable. Glad you were able to work through it :)

I'm having a hard time coping with how I acted after I was triggered a few days ago. My husband and I had an argument, ugly things were said, mostly by me, I yelled, acted crazy and cried. I usually am able to control myself more, take breaks, handle my anger etc but I had been triggered by...