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I think lots of people can relate... it's not easy...I hope you have some support to help you manage all this... be gentle with yourself

I'm sorry your in this situation...I don't think, sadly, you're on your own in your experience... it's understandable you feel as you do with the overwhelm... keep going to your T and listening to your needs first.. this isn't a race so you have time... be gentle with yourself

Sorry - we replied at the same time!! To answer your question then... Gotta be chicken for me... - maybe a bit boring but I love it on the grills 😋

Shrove Tuesday- also known as pancake day...I mean it's not technically a holiday... but lots of people tend to mark it here in the UK by obviously, making shed loads of pancakes 🥞 😋... Favourite thing to wear and why....

Well done for getting through that, although I'm sorry you had to. You shouldn't have had to. Although it's super raw now, hopefully as time passes you'll see the relationship would not have done you good and likely caused more damage. Be gentle with yourself

I've just read this post for the first time today... I'm so sorry @whiteraven ..I can relate and could actually feel some of those emotions you described going through all of this...I recognise so many of your family dynamics in my own and like you, I'm also the one who's been pushed out of my...

this is good... getting on the curiosity train is a good thing to do, because it's developing a side of you which remains as the '3rd person's perspective... less attached to the feelings and more focused on being analytical... reading others' feedback can be so very powerful, I agree... I...

Well done for taking the jump... That does sound really hard... I haven't read your whole thread, so I'm sorry if this has been discussed (ignore if so) but have you dared to try to imagine the idea of a relationship being an option for you? 🤗 This sounds like the results of the effective...

This person isn't a safe therapist. I wouldn't go back at all. You don't have to explain yourself. I understand the feeling of taking something rather than nothing. But from what you've described the something you're taking is damaging. And imo nothing is better than that. Really sorry you...

Regarding the whole definition thing of rape, it's quite complex! There are multiple definitions out there... when I was struggling to understand what my experiences were to be seen as, I did quite a bit of research to go into it in more depth... in the UK the definitions are a bit limited...

Just wanted to add that I agree with others here about it being a bit odd your therapist labeling your thoughts and feelings as odd and not understandable... I think it's VERY understandable given your experiences... and actually, if i were in your position, I may well feel that my T doesnt...

So, thank you so much again for being there... I have been feeling a scarily deep isolation...an aloneness which is paralysing when I'm in this state... having you respond and be there feels like being caught in the down fall...it's taken the edge off... I'm going to try to get up now and get...

Nice! Yes, now you said it it is ringing some bells 🔔... seems like most days there's something to celebrate when it comes to drink, at least in England!! I do love Mexican food...

What happens on Cinco de Mayo? I I'm imagine there are no maypole involved. . Lucky pup! He looks fun....

I'm feeling quite battered and bruised both emotionally and physically... it was a strong one tonight and it scared me ... you're very kind What will you do tonight after you've done dinner and tended to queen cat?

I love your stone connection ❤... I'm really drawn to the white one... what a great idea... Yes they really do still do maypoles!! It's still a strong tradition from around where I'm from... What about where you are? Where are you? The US?

Thank you for being here... and please go of you need to... I'd hate for cat not to get her beloved crunches or you to have a delayed dinner!!

Yes I am in bed and haven't been able to move much...I know I need to get up and move around...a warm sage tea is what I'll prob do when I can shake enough of this off to get up

5pm is defo cat dinner time.... you'd better make her a priority!!

Oh this is so warming to see..I love i love animals... they are gorgeous... and very ying and yang! Cat doesn't look impressed right now 🤣

It's 1am... I'm in the UK... what time is it for you? I'm guessing 7pm?

Thanks for replying @Rose White ...I didn't think anyone was there... dinner for me was about 7 hours ago now... but I had fish and veg... wasn't very hungry tonight..... what will you have?

Is anyone there right now? I'm coming out of a flashback and just need someone to be there... ti talk about anything... not sure if I can use this thread like this... but don't know what else I can do

Exactly what @Sideways said... Nothing you did was abnormal... you haven't done anything wrong... but given how much this seems to be bothering you, I'd go talk it through with someone in confidence - a professional is best and preferably one not affiliated with the church, just to ensure...

Kind of predictable of a T! Although actually my T never got me to think that and I have to say, it's been really useful me imagiing my neice being in my position... I hope it helped you going through that process... seems like it has? You seem fairly level headed about it! Yes sometimes it's...