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I also have a hard time talking about it, especially when I am serious. I dance around the subject. My mom didn't threaten suicide but she did talk a lot about her mental health issues and use it as a way to control others. I have a big hang up on that. I don't want to manipulate others. I am...

In 6 weeks I will be driving across country, with my animals, a U-haul trailer and my boyfriend. I will be moving into his house. (Need to start getting used to saying our house). It will be the first time I've ever lived with a romantic partner.I've also started back to school and will be...

f*cking stupid weather. f*ck this.

Thank you all. I think acknowledging it, here and with him has helped a lot. I think this would help both of us. Because he definitely goes quiet when he's having a rough time. And I know that. But without him communicating that he's just taking time for himself, I can start to get super...

I'm sorry you are struggling. December is my most triggering time so I can relate. It's especially hard, I think, because December is hyped up with holiday stuff in the western world so it's like this constant reminder of when it is. It's been much longer between my traumas and this December...

I checked yes, at least once because to my memory only one was confirmed.

Thank you Arfie. IT's been a bit since I saw my T but I have a session tomorrow. I have a lot to talk about. I should probably try to be here a bit more too, as symptomatic as I am right now.

I'm not sure how to phrase my question. And I'm not even exactly sure what I'm asking? I know I am symptomatic right now. I know that's affecting how I interpret things in my relationship with my partner, Tat. Tat is also really stressed right now. Honestly we both have way too much life stuff...

You're in a very difficult situation. All that stress is going to make it hard to cope, even if you didn't have PTSD. Feeling like giving up can be a natural place to go, when everything feels too much. It sounds like breaking things into very small parts and working on stability is what you...

I am very sorry to hear of Pencil's passing. It's very hard to lose someone you are close to. My thoughts are with you.

It does seem like you have a lot to unpack. Do you have a therapist? It would definitely be worth working on this with your therapist. That's a good question. Can you break down how it would be betraying yourself? How it wouldn't be betraying yoursef? I understand wanting intimacy, but it...

So, there's a fire about 13 miles (21 km) from my house. Thanks to geography, the firefighters and the winds dying down my house shouldn't be in danger. Anyway, a bunch of us locals are creating a bulletin board for the firefighters and other responders. I'm not crafty and am super broke right...

to the morons complaining about how this fire wasn't put out in september. Have you looked at a fire map and seen how many fires there are in this region? How many of those fires are threatening structures? This fire was less than 6 acres in a very remote and rugged fire. I live here too. I'm...

Hadn't heard the phrase but have experienced this both from the general public and a school counselor.

I'm sorry you are going through that. I have always felt like it's harder to deal with, in some ways, when it comes after a break. I hope you can be gentle with yourself and practice self-care and coping skills.

Welcome. This is a great place. Feel free to share more of your story when you are ready or just read along. People here are caring and honest and you can gain a lot by being here.

That sounds super stressful. There are wiser minds here who may have practical advise about your meeting with your boss. In the meantime, how can you take care of yourself? Would it help you to write some scripts down so you have some possible, planned things to say to your boss?

I'm really not trying to be difficult, but what about mind over matter? Isn't that a thing? This probably proves that I'm a lousy person but I'd think it. Have thought it. I wouldn't say it, but I do sometimes think people need to try to cope and make the best of their situation when their are...

Hmm... I've integrated some parts. It was definitely an adjustment. For me, the swirl and struggle was bigger just before it happened. Change is hard and scary and there was a lot of resistance at first from other insiders. I definitely felt different but I still felt like me too. Hmm... it's...

How I feel physically should not impact my mood. I am pretty sure this is a cognitive distortion. Except already I'm getting all tangled up. On the one hand, if you are in a lot of pain, sick or exhausted sure that has an impact on you. Except some how I feel like what you are supposed to do, is...

I agree with what all the others have said. What you experienced was abuse. And I am very sorry it has happened to you. I am glad you are starting therapy. It is going to take time to process and heal. One of the hardest things to grapple with is accepting that you were a child and your actions...

Low on words for the moment but I can very much relate. I struggle with resting enough, but it really can help. It's so hard to live with chronic pain and limitations on what you can do.

Yes. You do. You have lived through terrible things. You've done what you learned and needed to, to survive. You deserve care and connection. This is very clear from your posts. And here, at this forum you've been very caring and supportive. As others have said, it is human connection and it...

I'm also curious why you wouldn't print out the threads here and show them to your therapist. Or take parts of them and take them to her. It's not an unusual thing for clients to do. And what you've said is your experience and as a therapist she should be able to help you process it. Have you...

So, my history is similar to yours. I don't know when it moved from grooming to abuse, from my dad, but I know even as a toddler I was sexualized. And he continued to sexualize and harass me into adulthood. I read a lot of erotic literature and eventually moved to porn and then found online...