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My therapist lets me email. However, the same thing can still happen. If parts are blocking, there are all kinds of ways to avoid talking about, even with the email. That's assuming the T prompts me with the email. I've had a few who let me email and most of the time, they wait for me to bring...

It's a feeling and a powerful one. I think the key thing is recognizing it's a feeling. Life is a continuum. What if you decide your life is a waste and moments later you are out crossing the street and grab some child out of the road before the kid gets hit by a car? That's a dramatic example...

Hmm... well, here I guess I may circle back to what @Sideways was saying. I didn't get into a long-term, committed relationship until I'd done a lot of work in therapy. My parts and I work fairly well together. There's still work to do, but the days when we switched a bunch and didn't have...

Are you being dumb? No. You are being hurt and triggered. Your experiencing past trauma on top of being pregnant and not on meds. Was the wrong sized clothes intentional? Who knows. It's the kind of thing I would ignore. I'd give the clothes away, someone will need them and move on. If it was...

My partner knows that I have DID. He knows the basic of my parts. And there times when the little ones are out about him, but it's in a supervised, playful way. It's not out of control. And it's done in a way that's fun and connecting for my partner and I, not me expecting him to care take. The...

Hi, I am sorry you are dealing with PTSD. Welcome to this forum. It's a good place, especially if you are open to honest feedback. When you feel more comfortable it may help for you to tell us a bit more about what's going on.

I sure have experienced this. I think part of what has helped me get better over time, is reality checking with other people. And finding people who had good judgement and . I could trust. Talking about both sides of the story and why I might perceive things one way or the other.

That's a great process you went through. I have started with a new T because of a move and can relate. She's older and part of my brain is convinced she will retire. I've also realized how little work I did with my last T. Knowing how good she is scares me to death. It's also wonderful. I am...

I have dealt with a lot of doubts about what happened. One thing my therapist worked on is exploring that. If it didn't happen, what would I gain by making it up? What would have lead me to create that? We've explored it in a non-judgmental way. Because *if* it were made up (it's not), our mind...

Another thing to do, is practice saying "no" where the stakes are less high. Say no at a restaurant or to someone in your life where it doesn't really matter. It is still really hard for me to say "no"

It stinks and it's hard but this is worth talking about. There's a reason you are feeling how you do. It doesn't mean you or your T are wrong. Talking about it may well be a launching point into underlying issues. It may just be a way of you experiencing uncomfortable interactions in a safe...

It's ok to take a personal day. It's ok to just rest. It's ok to struggle. How are you doing now?

That's really rotten. I know it's painful but it is good in a lot of ways. This therapist was not giving you what you need and didn't sound a good fit. Now you have the chance to reach out and find a new therapist. I don't say that to diminish your feelings. The pain you are feeling is totally...

I am so sorry, that sounds super overwhelming. I am glad you have friends and found this forum. Do you have a therapist? Please take gentle care of yourself and keep reaching out for support.

I wish there was more support in place for people. It is really hard when the help you need is not available. There's a lot in your first post I can relate to. It took me time to accept that what my dad did to me was CSA. There is a lot of good support on this forum. Keep talking here and keep...

Oh, I forgot to respond to @Friday's comments about going out of state. I am also reaching out to my old doctor. What I need though, is a regular supply of testosterone and that is a controlled substance so that does complicate things. It also gets expensive. So, first I will see what I can do...

Sorry it took me so long to get back here. Partly I needed time to think and process and partly I got sick and that sucked away my energy :P I understand why so many of you are saying move. I have to be honest, part of me is angry over that. I shouldn't have to move to be who I am. And if...

I could use both practical advice and support I guess. (sorry for asking). The brief summary - I'm a transgender man. I moved to Missouri about 5 weeks ago from a much more liberal state. I knew it was a risk, but the town I moved to is a pretty liberal town. And I have moved in with my...

IT's really hard when we get hurt. To move forward you need to separate what is about your relationship with your husband and what is your PTSD. The PTSD will magnify and distort what happened.

I am glad you were able to make progress. It's a long journey but it really does get better.

Welcome to the forum. I hope you find a lot of support. I am also a transman. There's other trans folk here too. Arousal relating to incest is not at all uncommon. Keep reading and you will find a lot of folks here have similar experiences. There are also quite a few people with issues with...

I am so sorry that your cat died. Guilt is a normal part of grieving and one of the important things to remember is guilt shows how much you care. You would probably feel horribly guilty if you didn't bring her in and she died. It is not necessarily an indicator that you did anything wrong. A...

You've been given some good advice. Talk about it here and with your therapist. Allow yourself to feel all the feelings that come up. Give yourself time to mourn the relationship. It's hard but can often lead to better things

Hi and welcome @Ecdysis. The drive went better than we expected. It was long and the first few days when Tat and I were really tired were hard but as far as the pets and traffic/roads/weather went, it was smooth sailing. At some point Tat and I had a really deep talk about stuff. It was hard...

For those of you that suggested making it fun. Thanks. My boyfriend, Tat, and I had already talked some about that. Last night I told him we are going to do something silly each night we stop. We also talked about once I get there. We already agreed I get a space that's going to be my library...