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Hi, I'm struggling with something my abuser said in court. I was married to him for over 20 years, it's been 15 years since my son and I escaped. He's retired LAPD and has always found us and continues to violate the DVRO I have on him. I've never talked about the physical abuse to him or in...

Hello, my brother and his wife are coming to visit from the other side of the country. They mainly want to visit our Mom who is assisted living near me. I do not want them to come to my house or visit with me in my house. I don't want to spend any time with them, but I probably will not be able...

I've started EMDR. We did a little bit on some more recent, "easier" memories to start out. Now we are doing the prep work for the intense memories to get ready to process them with EMDR. Last week was pretty rough and I was brave enough- and felt comfortable enough with my therapist to say, "I...

I'm afraid to go to sleep tonight. There's so many bad things running around in my head. They're all fighting to take over and leaving me a complete mess. I hate being scared. I hate that he made me feel this way. I hate that he has that much power over me still. I stay up until I'm exhausted...

A little background: I'm a domestic violence survivor. We just went through the divorce. It took two years because he's a jerk. There were errors/typos in the final judgement that need to be 'fixed' and my ex is not paying me what he owes me each month (two years of back pay that was supposed to...

I feel stupid and embarrassed about what I do to cope with being abused. I'm not like everyone else. I never feel safe, and that makes me feel stupid too. Because I feel stupid about it, I don't feel like I have a right to my feelings. So I think my feelings are stupid. But they aren't. I just...

I'm a domestic violence survivor. I wrote something a while back that I thought I'd share... People write about strength, courage, and bravery, but most know nothing about any of those things. Those of us who have suffered and suffer still, know all about those three qualities. We live them...

Hi Everyone, I was married to an abusive jerk who did a really good job of screwing me up. He was a cop and is now retired. I didn't realize it was as bad as it was until I got away from it. I cannot believe that I put up with so much for so many years. I describe my ex by telling people, "he's...