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I am not sure if this board is right for that kind of question or if it is better to ask at a marriage board. My husband has some stressful memories (not sure exactly about what, he does not discuss it with me, he is a vet). He does not think about them all day long but when he is tired he...

I just made a decision... which is: spend much less time worrying + analyzing hubby... I used to be a macho, tomboy kind of girl and think inside I still am. My decision is like this: Hubby is afraid of crowds, I will accept the fact and go places without him and may be one day he won't be...

Well, I have been in high spirits for a view days. Just happy because my husband is being the lovely guy that he is, a great daddy and does so many things to show me he loves me (his love language being acts of service). I vowed that I would not complain about his fear of crowds / him not taking...

I have been searching for ressource on combat OCD but my search has been fruitless so far. When I google it I just find tips on combating civy OCD. I asked the equivalent of the central VA hospital in our country and they did not have any information :( :( :( They had information on PTSD, which...

A questions for both the "supporters" and the Vets and of course the non-Vets. Do you, too, sometimes feel that the word "supporter" or carer is "odd"? I like the word wife better. Do you understand what I want to say? I cannot really put my feelings into words.

Hi, I started another thread about my husband having IBS but not wanting to follow a healthy diet today and @Al_Lurker told me many of you have digestive problems (which are may be stress related). I did some reading. Sorry for creating another thread... but it is a different topic because...

My husband has been diagnosed with IBS and actually he does not follow a healthy diet. He eats lots of sweets, junk food, energy drinks, caffeinated chocolate, skips meals at work because he claims to be to busy to eat and typically does not eat "real food" (=food that is not junk) unless you...

I'll copy what I wrote in another forum. Background: My Vet went to the bar with his buddy but did not take me. I wanted to tell him it is okay, because I understand that he experiences hypervigialance and can go to the bar with his fellow Vet but not with me, but he only cracked stupid jokes...

My hubbies best friend is another Vet. When he is with him he is different, like more careless, talkative. Hubby does not like going crowded and noisy places and that is okay. I accept it. What is hard for me to accept however is that he can go that places when with his best friend. I really...

Just wondered how many of you guys have a child or children with their Vet.

I heard that PTSD from being abused can be triggered by an argument. Is that also the case for combat PTSD? I noticed my husband has an extreme dislike of arguments. Whenever we argue he just stonewalls and says "Yes", "Yes", "Yes" to anything I say. However he is not convinced. He just agrees...

A question for the sufferers. My husband has a gazillion of rules regarding how thinks must be done, how the laundry must be folded, how shoes must be polished, how to shower, how to buckle a belt, how long a trousers must be. For example I am wearing my trousers "too long" and my husband will...

My Vet yelled, my baby cried... again... but... well... I am happy I am with them. This-ain't-easy-but-nothing-worth-your-while-ever-is.

I noticed I have not introduced myself yet. I am the wife of a Vet... but that of course is not whole the story... because he is more than just a Vet. He is the father of my kid and the love of my life... and I do not want to see him as some kind of "project". We have all of our lives in front...

Me and my hubby made a plan for New Years Eve, have a babysitter. The problem with this: It is not going to happen. Why? Because my husband hates to go crowded and noisy places + doing some google-ing I learned that New Years Eve is not nice for people with PTSD. Often H will promise me to go...

Did you as somebody who has not been diagnosed with PTSD ever have a tremor... or however this is called... because of your loved-one? The fact my H sometimes seems to be quite stressed makes me feel stressed to... and in fact I sometimes just cannot stop trembling. My hands have a little shake...

Just curious. Since I have started talking to other spouses I have realized that a lot of our hubbys sometimes do act OCD-like and I have been reading a bit on this board now and also realized that a lot of the guys here act OCD like... ... and I am just curious if any of you shines his shoes...

My husband is a Vet and he has the habit of pulling his hair, biting his lips, biting his hands and so on when he is stressed. He does not think it is a problem because it is his way of dealing with it. Another way is sports, but that would be more time-consuming and he needs to work a lot. His...