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Thanks both, have not been fully diagnosed, but been assessed by a psychiatrist who said I probably suffered PTSD. Don't have a therapist at the moment, as simply cannot afford it, hoping that changes soon, then I have to find one, and build up trust again as moved away from my last one of...

Hey all, Still very much coming to terms with PTSD, I was diagnosed as "probably PTSD" by a psychiatrist in 2014, but since never fully assessed. However, since, I have what I describe as wobbles. I can feel them coming, I dread them, to my core, I know I will become useless, I know I am...

Hey all, thanks for the comments. It was a ruff ride, and she is still being a bitch, I still 2 years on from family court do not get my son for the time allocated by the original court order, so I am taking her back to court on the 24th April to have the order enforced. Had false accusations...

Just a quick update - we went to court, I screwed up and filed my defense late, and it was rejected, but hey in 5 weks and 5 days I am finally divorced, it has only been 2 years! Now my defense got struck out, but then she filed as above for financial remedy - so I get to defend again. Yet me...

It did, its weird to relive it again in my head, not thought on him or it in so long. That was when I was so young, I am now 43! In real time - it lasted no longer than a minute, however in my mind, it was so long. I was shaking afterwards, but got to sleep ok last night. First time I have...

I was young, I don't know how much, but my granddads bed was a base, with mattress, and I struggled to get in/up. If that makes sense. Sorry, I did not intend my blog on here to become this, but I feel I need to speak about it. I remember making the climb to bed and it was something like this -...

She just wont f****** give up, pardon me, it is starting to consume me again. The divorce has started to get even worse, her solicitors wrote to say that she was open to negotiations on split of equity from house. Honestly - it would set both of us up for years to come and give our son a...

Thank you all, had a wonderful week with my son, and bless him, good as gold. He will be 4 end of January, so first real special Christmas. Starting to understand the idea. And all he wanted was a yoyo. Xmas eve we put out mince pie, drink, carrot, and a special key so Santa could let himself...

She was and I was cleared and have my son now until Boxing Day, words cannot describe the emotions I am feeling. Thank you all for being here.

Thank you both, had a good session with my therapist today, and also another call from the social worker, she wanted the family court case number as she wants to review it. My only hope is that from the three sworn "truthfull" statements from my wife which out of the total of 67 accusations...

Sorry it has been so long. In much need of a hug. So much has happened since my last post. Family court finally ended in April, but the end result was inititally me having my son over night, building to over weekends, then every alternate weekend and following Wednesday afternoon. First...

Another update. We had a few more family courts, but the final order was set, I get my son every second weekend, alternative wednesdays, half school holidays, fathers day, alternate Christmas's, his birthday shared. And we are starting to rebuild. He loves coming to Daddys for the weekend...

I know, it has cost thousands in legal fees, money I would have much preferred to spend on our son. We talked about divorce many times over the past two years, and she always maintained "I will never stop you seeing your son", well it is now almost 9 months since I have. She tried to destroy...

Mar - I know, and my evidence supports it, but never had the opportunity to present. I did care deeply about her and getting her the help she needs, but realised that is no longer my job, my only concern now is my life and future with my son. I already had someone diagnose her with that after...

Update - had family court again, after psych evals on both, drugs and alcohol etc, and it has now been ordered I am safe and no threat to my son, and to begin to rebuild our relationship I get 2 hours every second week, its a start and I will get to see my boy, did not get what I ideally wanted...

I have gone through this for the past 15 years of our marriage, and when my wife ran off with our Son in Feb, it compounded many of the feelings. Especially confusion, and still feeling love for her, regardless of the pain she put me through. And I still feel some now, almost 8 months later...

Another quick update. Sold my car, which has given me a bit of a breather financially, and I do not have to make the first child maintenance payment until 1st November, which we have family court before that, were hopefully I should start to get access to my son. Today the test results came...

I grew up in a house with a father that was an angry alcoholic, nothing I ever did was good enough, the targets set were never achievable, because you never knew what they were. Even now he is still the same, he has cut me off as a "disappointment" so many times over the years. I was abused as...

Update Was told to take my blog down by family court, because of the seriousness of both sides accusations, I still cannot see my son, both of us were ordered to go on a "separated parents" program, and both have been ordered to have Psychological testing, drug and alcohol testing and next...

Received a letter from my wifes solicitor yesterday, asking me to remove all references to my wife and son from my blog.... 1. Its anonymous, no mentions of any names 2. Its not registered in my real name or address 3. Had each post checked by my legal guy before posting So she can kiss my...

I applaud you, you are stronger than you realise, and having your kids, the strength they will give you. I wish you all the very best. I too have a long battle ahead, my wife and abuser ran off with our son 6 months ago, but I have a thread all about that, starting the battle to get access to...

This is exactly what my ex did, she projected that I was angry all the time (I wasn't) and that I had multiple personality. Yet it was her that switched like jeckle and hyde all the time. She could turn so quickly and so deviously. Each time I tried to talk about it - "You are over reacting...

Towards the end my ex's violence grew, she would raise her fist or grab something, she has grabbed a claw hammer before, she had me cornered many times. But she stepped up her mental abuse daily. She would wake me after 5 or 6 hours when I had taken sleeping tablets, question me and have...

The one thing I have learned coming out of a domestically violent relationship, gather as much evidence as you can, stay strong, and believe in you. You knew it was wrong, just as I knew what my wife was doing to me was wrong, for some reason we stayed through it, until it got too much. No one...

I have a file full of documentation, its about 3 inches thick, and that does not include all the emails as well, they are in a separate binder. Next court date is the 27th, my solicitor will be pushing for Fact-Finding, and a psychological assessment of my ex.