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For me only exposure therapy isn't enough. I need to feel my repressed feelings of the trauma also. It doesn't work on a rational level alone. For me it's about processing my suppressed feelings also, i need them both

For me i feel, people are only interested in there one ego-centric world, most of them (not all!!) the pain of others is something that they block out, it's like we are living in an inhumane world (that claims to be human, but in his core, is not! And i am not a pessimistic, but it is what i'am...

You keep on going, this too shall pas! I feel like this many times! Keep on reaching out, this is key!! All people out here understands!! BECAUSE they've been trough!!

I feel like i'am recovering from depression and anxiety, in the aftermath of childhood trauma. It has been a lifelong struggle and it still is at this moment!! I keep on going because there are still people, who love me. I have a strong feeling there is much more potential, but it doesn't show...

I am female. I also have difficulty feeling and being aware of them. If i feel stressed out (most of the times), i feel numbed. If once in a while, i can get relaxed, it is possible to feel and get in touch with them. For me at the moment, the issue is, how to get relaxed without getting...

@Ms Spock. You're patience and perceverance paids off!! Keep up the good work!! You are a brave soul!!

Yes, i also have a great difficulty concentrating and remembering things i did a moment ago. I think it is due to the hyperarrousal, i feel constantly "on guard". I need to invest much more time in relaxing, i think.

@Justmehere. this too will pass, hang in there!!! Keep on posting here, you are NOT alone! Many people here DO care, in posting here, you show that you can reach out!! This is very important, you will get the help you need! I also relate to your feelings right now, BUT if you keep reaching out...

@Born to Run. Yes, i speak flemish. Thanks for the tip to use Google Translate. Also i'am very interested in the tread regarding the impact of trauma, on the developmental level (and biology), when in the womb of the mother. I've read the book: stop walking on eggshells, i still try to use the...

@Chava. Thanks for explaining the difference between bodywork and body psychotherapy for trauma. I was not aware of it. I have been posting in the wrong tread i think! I don't have any experience with bodywork ( massage) Does bodywork always involve touch?

@Ms Spock. You are also a brave soul and kind! Hugs for you! Indeed, we all have to try doing different things, before we find out those things that help us the most.

@Ms Spock Thanks for your post! Yes, i have read this book "healing developmental trauma"and "the body remembers" and the book'the body keeps the score", also the Peter Levine books. I did find them very enlightning! I need this bodywork approach, as i feel it will help me in becoming UNSTUCK. I...

I surely believe this to be true! I sometimes get caught up in my own struggle, that i can't think straight anymore. I need people around me, who can put things in perspective for me, that's why i love this forum.

@anthony. Yes, you are right, it isn't a myth. I got carried away in my own frustration at the moment.

@Chava. I find even a gentle touch very uncomfortable, i don't know why ( i will find out). I keep on shivering (i will keep searching why?) i know it has a profound effect on me if somebody touch me in a certain way (and i mean this trauma related- and i want to know why- regarding the brain...

I like this post and the ongoing discusions very much. motherly love is the oxygen for all life! I found that if you didn't experienced this nessecary love, it has the most profound impact on your life. In that i don't have the best words to express my emotions (english is limited for me). I've...

I'am also very interested in the body approach to trauma related issues. I also felt stuck in talktherapy, because it didn't get to the core of trauma (i telt it was frozen in time). I think by reconnecting to my body, i can get to those emotions and bodily sensations. Because i think becoming...

Myth number?? ( i don't know where we were) "If you could ONLY put much more effort in it, it could go away" I don't think so, IMHO it doesn't work like that!!

@Meadowsweet. Thank you, I find your post VERY enlightning to me!! I find much comfort in this! Again thanks!

@The Albatross. I surely believe you when you say it's worth it!! Thanks for the tip!! And SMART is not difficult to remember, i need things to be simple, so that i can manage them!!

Thank you all for your replies! I find them very informative! To me knowledge alone isn't enough to trigger a lifestyle change, altough i want it badly! At the moment i am cutting it down to tiny actions ( those babysteps), like doing grounding exercises and abdominal breathing exercises. My...

@Chava i also can so relate to the rage being the the thing that scared me the most. My mother had this sudden rages directed against me. The most scary thing about it, is that they came out of the blue, there was nothing i could do to prevent that, as she relentess raged against me. I can see...

I also am having an ambiguous relationship towards taking ssri or benzo's, they keep me from having that deep despair, and i feel that its good for that. But i feel they always come with a price! At this moment, without ingrained coping skills, i neef them, but hopefully someday it will be...

IMHO I don't think it's not only about that seretonin stuff. There's much more involved, but they don't want to admit it, because they still make much money out of it! i hope there will be a next breaktrough in that field!

I know i die experienced trauma when i was in the womb, my father hit my mother several times in the stomach. When i was born, he locked her up in the room and abused her for three days (in all possible ways). He didn't allow her to even properly feed me. She eventualy could escape when a...