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    Supporter Scared And Unsure

    Save our soldiers No meds no backlash no permanentr records Our men are afraid of the shame of ptsd These guys understand this
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    Supporter Scared And Unsure

    Please call save our soldiers Please. X
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    Supporter Scared And Unsure

    I read he had locked himself in the kitchen, and has made threats to hurt himself He has other illnesses on top of ptsd You said you were scared How scared? You said you are unsure if you're enabling his behaviour Sorry, but if you're scared, and he's making threats of harm - are you really...
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    Supporter Scared And Unsure

    You're UK Great - me too Call save our soldiers X
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    Supporter Scared And Unsure

    I'm new here. I have thought my husband is an abusive Bastard narc until ptsd was brought up by my padre I too - and the guys here will tell you as well - have been way too understanding of shitty behaviour Girl, your man has flipped He has a brain injury, brain injuries are very often fatal...
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    Relationship Errrm,,,,, Like What The Actual F??

    Oh I forgot! He wanted us both to make lists about what we don't like about each other I refused - I don't want to sit and read a list of personal insults based on projections I did it by saying that there's actually nothing about him that I don't like, that I adore him, I just don't like the...
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    Relationship Errrm,,,,, Like What The Actual F??

    You know what I love the most about being able to come here? Its the understanding, it's the support and its the feeling that you guys have got my back I feel safe and heard here And I'm happy to refer others here without doubt Xx
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    Relationship Errrm,,,,, Like What The Actual F??

    Last night I'm damn sure I was both hoovered and gaslighted simultaneously He knew our conversation was going to be about residual stress I had text him saying we needed to talk about it - and honestly wasn't expecting him to call seeing as he avoids the subject. So he rang, and that's the first...
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    Relationship Does He Actually Hate Me?

    Sweetheart,,, I honestly don't know But you must know this - you are NOT alone Read my posts, see if you recognise anything Message me if you like Xx
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    Relationship Errrm,,,,, Like What The Actual F??

    Yes,, he has sweats, easily irritated, not sleeping, forgetfulness, sometimes stammers, will refer to himself in third person terms, unhappy, lethargic, go's along with family stuff but there's no joy,,, says this should be the best time of his life but he's miserable and doesn't know why ---...
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    Relationship Errrm,,,,, Like What The Actual F??

    Family dynamics? To be honest,,, I know nothing about it I get the odd visit, I feed them, welcome them and then they leave After the shit bomb I messaged his dad, saying I am finding it hard to cope with his behaviour on my own, asking for support - it hasn't been acknowledged Head in the sand...
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    Relationship Errrm,,,,, Like What The Actual F??

    I'm trying my hardest to be strong No, I don't like receiving this crap I've had my days of fighting back, of shouting and demanding They''re done Maybe he is just an ass hole But I keep being told of similar behaviours from other wives on my patch (I listen, don't admit) and then after a...
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    Relationship Errrm,,,,, Like What The Actual F??

    Basically, he's been compartmentalising his life,,,keeping secrets,,,avoiding facing anything He has created a whole bucket full of crap, but gets Pissed at me when I stand up for myself against the bucket of crap and all the results of it. He's avoidant.
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    Relationship Errrm,,,,, Like What The Actual F??

    And there was this one time a couple of months ago that I was asking him what he thought about me being so confused as to why he leaves me out of decisions that affect me - and he zoned out,, , so I sat quietly for 10 minutes not saying a word and then I said "well?" And he said "well what?" So...
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    Relationship Errrm,,,,, Like What The Actual F??

    I am upset about having the shit bomb of his secret about our marriage being dropped and then being left on my own to deal with it Yes, he's been in touch this week (unusual) But the only thing I am told is that he never told his parents because they'd be disappointed in him - no...
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    Relationship Errrm,,,,, Like What The Actual F??

    Actually mid process of learning about gas lighting!!! Watching a video on it just this moment! Now,,,, could He be doing this because he is so ashamed of possibly having ptsd? I'm learning that gas lighters aren't always aware what they're doing.
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    Relationship Errrm,,,,, Like What The Actual F??

    This is his usual behaviour. If he had been here in person the silence would either be accompanied with pa eye rolling or zone out face.
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    Relationship Errrm,,,,, Like What The Actual F??

    Ok so - I'm a bit confused right now I think I'm looking at ass hole - but maybe I'm not? Yesterday I get this email from my husband telling me he's so pleased I'm seeing our padre - that he's happy I enjoyed being heard and validated,,,, and I was like wtf? You cheeky turd!! So I replied saying...
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    Relationship Things I Have Learned From You Guys

    Hey! The term fantastically eloquent is damn fantastically eloquent in itself!! Here - have a virtual non endorsed English literature high level qualification from me,,,,, its hell loads better than the trophy system I've been awarded on, that I don't understand, but accept like a medal anyways...
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    Relationship Things I Have Learned From You Guys

    We are all fearfully and wonderfully made --- it's just that ass holes don't recognise it in any others than themselves hahaha Yes,,,, the irony of me, it's obscene But I really do feel my humour is understood here :) Also, I'm elated, I'm having a lightbulb moment - the ridiculous behaviours of...
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    Relationship Things I Have Learned From You Guys

    Hi guys,,, Thank you all for such wonderful support, for empathetic ears, strong shoulders and honest candid conversation. Things I have learned An ass hole is an ass hole - regardless You are a person before you are anything else, regardless of health. This is an awesome place. I have loved...
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    Relationship Why Can't I Be In The Stress Cup?

    I am SO not alone anymore - it's really very sad to see repetitions of the same circumstances and unfair treatments/behaviours BUT - knowing how much of this there is makes it that little bit easier to gain self respect and not to take it so personally I hate his manner towards me, but I love...
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    Relationship Is This Considered The Usual?

    Thank you Serial marriages seem to happen quite often on here :( Yes,,, 23yrs so far - 15 to go,,,, every zone since '93 :(
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    Relationship Is This Considered The Usual?

    Hhmmmm I've just had a bit of a thought There was a fatal incident,,, after which he transferred and went overseas,,,,his first marriage broke down during that time He then came looking for me,,,, a safe person who he could 'go back to the better times' with For 18 months he's been telling me is...
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    Relationship Is This Considered The Usual?

    Omg!! He's randomly researching all sorts of weird and wonderful crap ---- I'm so pleased I came here Xx
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