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She has mentors and the six months therapy didn't work. Her difficulties have been throughout her life, not due to her age. So that's the thing, it's been like this for years and years and we've worked for improvements, and.... just.... still having ongoing horrible, painful episodes. What...

We didn't just fight about the sleep trouble, I mean, we had some fights, but we worked really hard on helping her develop a godo sleep routing, was a lot of hard work and consultations, and tried the doctors a couple times.... just a lot.

I think there's just more options than eithe runknown trauma or horrible mom. I think, probably it's a combination family and biology (family history of mental health issues in her uncle and gramma for example, and I had some PTSD so impact there) and her temperament, it just hurts to.... I just...

Thank you for saying that. I've been ressurecting hope every week for.... probably at least 7 years now. I remember her screaming at me how much she hated me that day, and I lost it and slapped her. I've slapped her twice in her life, the other time she was littler and bit me so hard I was in...

I guess I mean that the day to day love and care would help heal harm that my screw ups caused, that... overall we just love her so much and I apologize for my mistakes when they happen and try to make amends and teach her what matters in life and... give her everything I had.... all the normal...

She didn't. She's always been sensitive and had trouble sleeping, and she's gifted, and she's always acted more intense than the norm and been argumentative and harsh in her words and prone to upsets and physical, and as for trauma, well, just me and dad, I overreacted and screamed at her a few...

I've gone through another weekend in hell. Hell is where my daughter is full of troubles I can't seem to help with no matter how hard I try or want to or love her. Friday she exploded at my husband, her father, calling him every horrible name ever, a scathing rant. She hit herself on the arms...

I want to thank you all. I didn't expect the level of understanding and lack of judgement. I was looking for some support and got it in spades, thanks all for being so kind.

Sometimes I am reminded of a child growing up in my relationship with her, and some of the past upsets as that teenage stage of breaking away in fits and starts, sigh. She was very motherly to me, so... we did some work in relationship on me having that safety and security and stability I was...

Yes, I wish we could keep in touch somehow, sigh. I just wish it was easy. I'd pretty much kill to have it be an easy relationship, ha. I don't really know how things will proceed.... I guess she'll share Monday and then we can maybe work out the termination process together to an extent I hope...

Yes, its complicated. I've been limited in terms of outside relationships becuase I was working at home 60 hours a week, so while I tried meetup groups and talking to neighbors and do see my in laws regularly, I didn't have a lot of time or energy with work and my daughter's needs to be more...

I do believe we've gone round and round. We've... had some really good times, but lots of challenges, lots of closeness, but lots of rough spots too. I have spoken about how I feel, what I want, what works, what hurts, but... she has her style, and I don't seem to advocate/direct well in the...

I wasn't hoping she would try to persaude me to return, sigh. I.... do not want to stop our relationship overall, but I do not see any way (and I have tried, but not succeeded) to maintain our relationship in a way that's easier, and it's just too difficult as it is. :( I don't think I would...

Thank you for writing that. We've had a lot of ruptures where I feel like leaving and sort of hash it out and I come back, but more stressors keep arising, things don't change or change for long and I'm back in the cycle where every second or third session or interaction is so upsetting that I...

Your therapist sounds too focused on her own process and idea of "what's best" to be attuned to reality, attuned to you. I understand about the contamination of good things when a therapist goes too far and tears apart everything rather than the hurtful or dysfunctional parts. The intensity...

I'm ending therapy after five years. It's not.... a happy, success story ending. It's gotten too upsetting to go week after week and I can't take the strain anymore, the ups and downs, the disconnects, but I love my therapist. She's been unbelievably welcoming, we've gotten so close over the...

Just wanted to say I could really relate and I hope you get through this painful, difficult time soon. I do know that these cycles pass given time even when they feel as if they never might.

1. My husband 2. My closest friend at work 3. People here 4. My daughter's music teacher because she said she was struggling with it 5. Can't remember who else at the moment, maybe my doctor

The happiest I've been was after leaving my abuser, dropping out of high school, but then finding an amazing community of other queer youth, spending a lot of time there and then doing a ton of volunteer work with them. I felt purposeful, not alone and like the future held promise. I had a job...

I've interviewed many therapists and not returned for a second session. It's a job interview and not all the candidates will be competent, nor will they all be the right one for you! You are doubting yourself too much perhaps, those reasons sound ample to me, and don't discount gut instinct...

I decided recently my daughter needs therapy. I got triggered because getting into therapy was a catalyst for my revealing abuse and the breakup with my father, stepmother, step-siblings, and pretty much the death of the relationship with my mother. So today was a hard day. Yesterday too. In...

My therapist took some time to chat with me online yesterday. I do pay for online messaging, but live chat is a bonus, as I was under the weather emotionally & physically. It went alright, but I was in a panic and got riled up when she tried to redirect me. Here's what I've written this morning...

Hi there. I don't have any great advice, though I'll try, I mainly wanted to say I feel for you in this stressful situation. I think I'd feel that anxiety too and I'm sorry you're struggling with it. I did want to ask if you'd told the people to whom you had other commitments that you were in...

I never said she did anything wrong, I'm talking about my feelings. And I haven't and wouldn't dream of asking her to do any of those things you thought up. There isn't always a perfect solution or answer, that's all. There isn't always a "win." What I've looked for from her since this happened...

He's moving in indefinitely now. I'm so tired and burnt out I really just want some peace for a while, a much longer term issue than this complication today. And home at the moment is so loud and contentious and I'm so tired from life I can hardly fathom how to overcome it. That one night away...