Am I Too Critical With This Feedback?

[Leah123]

My therapist took some time to chat with me online yesterday. I do pay for online messaging, but live chat is a bonus, as I was under the weather emotionally & physically. It went alright, but I was in a panic and got riled up when she tried to redirect me. Here's what I've written this morning, does it seem to critical? I hope it will just help her work with me better, not sure though.

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Good morning. How are you? I'm okay, still sick, feel a little worse than last night, but colds can be like that. I was thinking of ************* today, but... on 2nd thought may just put it off again til the weekend, am feeling exhausted.

Am going to try for low key again, listen to more of my book maybe, take a bath, basics. Hope you have a good day.

Surrender & victim got me yesterday. Those are good 'snap out of it' words, but I don't snap when I'm anxious, ha, not in a positive way anyhow. Panic means I need to take steps to relax, like ease instead of snap, ha. Gentle words. I'm reminded of my first driving lesson, he took me out on gravel, the key of course, to reverse slowly out of panic, not hit the gas or trying to drive backfires. That will help. Am going to try and be calm today, maybe listen to my audiobook again.

Thanks for sticking around yesterday, it was good advice to just totally stop everything I was doing and rest. :)"

 

[DharmaGirl]

It does not sound critical at all. It sounds like you are asking for what you need, in an adult way, and are setting some boundaries, also in a non-aggresive way. I often get triggered so badly by therapists when they keep pushing what they "think" will work. I think you did a great job.