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So my PTSD ex who has treated me like shizzle and who has the habit of dumping me then coming back has tried back in. I successfully told him no, and cut the attempt of contact off. Some of you have read my story, others you can check my history. He tells me I'm arrogant and acting on pride...

My ex told me about one of his trauma's one night. He never talked abot the trauma's, just told me he had them because of some reasons and it had caused him PTSD. We would get into long talks however, and he would laughingly call me his no. 1 therapist. One night, during such a particular talk I...

I think you should focus on yourself getting better and leave them be. It's none of your business to care for someone else while you have so much healing to do imo. Besides, she won't believe you, I guarentee it, and they will speak of you as being jealous, or nosy, or not over him etc etc. You...

Cheating is cheating, PTSD or not. Of course there might have been triggers, but for a person without PTSD there can be triggers to cheat as well, but it doesn't justify it does it? It's still a choice, a conscious one. Because interacting with another human being while knowing you have a...

Sorry op, yours looks more like an obsession...also considering how you write about it novel-like....now I am nit the one to preach on mental health, but if I were you I'd go see a therapist...

" You need to know who you are and be that person for you. What are you if you are only someone who is there for someone else. " a million likes for this quote by @digger1

I know that now..I know that since I've been reading everyone's stories here. But when you are with somebody who blames his PTSD for everything, does nothing in life for all of the mentioned in the quote, and you have no other example around, you have no choice but to initially think that how...

I'm sorry psychocandy...I know how a shut out or 2 3 4 5 feels...have been there multiple times. I got to tell you this though: read around this forum, there are a lot of sufferers who even in a shut out consider their partner. Who can make agreements such as telling their opartner when they...

Perhaps, I don't know. I don't like assuming facts which I have not seen. BUT I just read here that there's a lady with PTSD who just finished her masters degree and I was like wow...I can't help but think that there are choices and options whatsoever. The friendship is out of the question...

Hi Solara, yes it's me again. They were swept under the rug...since we transferred to being ''friends''....basically we just put it all aside and decided to keep it light. But as you see, unresolved issues from the past just bit me in the *ss. As I couldn't stay normal when hearing about that...

So my ex who turned into good friend in name, but actually we're still together, but with less stress and we spend less time together so all stays well between us. It has been an amazing couple of weeks/months. No nonsense, no stress for him, no sadness for me. We meet in weekends, we cook and...

This gave me goosebumps. guilt guilt guilt...its the emotion I live by since ex-suff. and I broke up. But then yes, it's his own responsibility to WANT to recover. Please don't laugh at me, but every time he calls me and tells me he had a rough night and feels so awfull, I feel like I'm leaving...

Exactly this....the whole 9 yards. I guess a lot of us empaths just don't want to understand that it will not change. At least not without years and years of therapy. Also, we forget/do not want to see that the person's initial character has a lot of influence on how they treat a relationship...

Thank you so much for your replies. You all are right, I must cut ties completely, but I still don't want to do any more harm than he already has suffered. I also notice that me losing my cool when talking to him does both him and myself more harm than necessary. Spoke to him today, and lost...

Hi guys.. Some of you know my story. I've been apart from my PTSD bf of 3 years for a month now, maybe a bit longer. We have decided that we will stay friends, as I'm the only one that knows of his situation. What I can't let go of is the guilt. He doesn't want to be apart. He doesn't want...

As long as there is hope for him...this is good to hear, I just hope he doesn't get more depressed during this period Yes, I as quite surprised (positive) to hear this coming out of his mouth. He said it after an hour of trying to blame me though, so he's just starting to accept. And...

I don't want to tell exactly, but similar to combat. I guess you're right..he needs to be in control ultimately. Today I spoke with him, as I thought I have to man up and face him one day. He accepts that I don't have any romantic feelings left for him and I told him I feel abused and...

Exactly. Totally, in the end of our relationship I had refrained from having deep discussions with him, because he was always triggered by them. Not sure if he were triggered reated to PTSD, or related to anger issues. But let me put it like this: He cannot accept and discuss to come to a...

I know, I have been tolerating it because he made me believe that he was doing that because of my own behaviour, my ''style of arguing'' sets him off he says. The funny thing is, he has threatened many of his (ex) girlfriends. And his brother. And probably more people that I don't know of. He...

Dear Catwomanne, Before, when posters here asked me this, I answered: Because he says it'll get better when his therapy starts working and then he wants to get married. Like you I was in a toxic relationship with a man suffering from PTSD. He was emotionally abusive and never acknowledged it...

I've read a couple of Anthony's articles today as I'm still trying to get a clearer picture. It's obvous to me now that untreated or uncontrolled PTSD can cause abusiveness in spouses together with all sorts of other disorders. Also I read something about secondary PTSD, I did a search on it...

True. But I think I did deserve to be treated that way > I was so naive and I didn't know what I wanted from life or from a relationship. I wasn't told or taught what to expect from dating or relationships either. This experience made me such a wiser person, and has opened my eyes to take care...

Yes he is... how did you know :O Terribly macho, with phrases like ''I'm a man and you are a woman, behave like that'' and ''I think you have more testosteron than I have when I look at your style of arguing'' Then when he used to notice I am not going to shut up just because he thinks ''I...

This is possible Echo, he often told me he thinks I'm an ''alpha-female'' and it's not healthy to be like that. He often said he thought I was ''busting his balls''. Of course this is a bad thing, but if you'd hear the reasons why he thinks I was busting his balls? Here's an example: We have a...

Yes Solara, it was just me who got isolated. I knew his family as I saw them at his parents' or on special ocassions, but that's it. However, he never acknowledges it and says it's normal. I honestly think it has more to do with his commitment phobia than with his PTSD, since he has no problem...