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I'm late to this thread but I just want to point out this sentence. Maybe I'm not reading it correctly but to me it sounds like he's stringing these women along and playing whatever "games" he's playing with them because it's a coping mechanism. Meaning that his coping mechanism is manipulating...

I like that attitude. I need a bit more of that in my life! You're totally right. If people can't respect my personal safety and comfort in the conversation, that conversation is not worth having.

That almost sounds like an addiction... "I'll do it just this once and it'll make me feel better. But it hasn't made me feel better so I'll just do a little bit more and that will work..." (Source: I used to do that all the time until I got diagnosed with this chronic pain thing I have) Everyone...

Oh! Bad phrasing. I have literally no reason to be worried about where my man is, I know he's been working at his lab all day and he was sick yesterday so he's still getting over that. But I have been cheated on in the past and so when my PTSD flares up, so does my insecurity. I've known this...

Someone we've always leaned and relied on passing away will always make us feel horrible and anxious and like we can't cope with our lives. Add on some trauma or some pre-existing anxiety condition and you've got a recipe for some serious chaos. I think that because you're recognising that...

I swear my abuser can sneeze and the person who wipes his nose will tell me every excruciating detail. I found out a whole bunch of new things about his family today that I wasn't aware of. Apparently, every school teacher in my area knows them because they're so bats**t insane, the parents AND...

Hello Vincent. Welcome to you! I hope that being here can help you to not just find people who can bring calm and peace, but also to journey towards being able to take control of your own anxiety and your own life. :)

In Australia at the moment, there's a petition gaining a lot of movement to block the visa of a particularly awful rape apologist who wants to hold meetings of "like-minded men". Ew. So everyone's outraged, and some people are sending around things from the guy's website. Awful articles, awful...

Hi Abbie! Does it matter if we're not from the UK? Happy to help out :)

What happens when you try to talk to someone close to you about PTSD? What are the differences between how they used to respond, and how they do now? You are not alone in this. As the years have gone by, people around me sometimes just don't have the time to talk about what's going on with me...

Oh guys, thankyou so much. This has really helped. Previously, isolation to me has meant disappearing from all the most important people's lives (SO effective, @Simply Simon !) But the older less sensitive friends thing relates to people I was close with in high school, and still am, but they...

I've been doing SO well, trigger-wise, up until the last two weeks. A combination of drug side-effects, injuries, pain, friend drama just made me super vulnerable. When you guys isolate yourselves in response to stress, anxiety, whatever it is that makes you do it, who's the first person to go...

I think the difference between using it as an excuse and it actually being a symptom is how the sufferer responds to it. "I feel jealous because my PTSD makes me anxious and feel like nobody loves me. That's not your fault at all and I'm working on it and will continue to talk about it openly...

Hey guys, So my T is starting to think my mum might have some form of OCD. Maybe. My whole life she's stressed over the tiniest little things WAY too much (for example, which way the towels go in the linen cupboard) and I've always felt like I can't live up to her standards. Whenever I go away...

Thank you all so much. I feel a bit calmer now. I took your advice and got an exit strategy organised, I have a friend who said she'd pick me up if things came to that or if I'm just feeling overly triggered. Good point. I guess I can be super proud of myself if (let's hope when) I make it...

You guys, I'm scared! The last time I went to parties out in the city with a significant other, they ended... poorly. Once, he threw up all over my car. Other times he tried to undress me and touch me in front of our friends. And then there were the times when he flirted with other people in...

I'm sorry about your kitty :( it's amazing to find an animal that's so in tune with you. Sometimes they're better for you than people! My nightmares rarely have anything to do with my trauma. Usually they're about people I love getting hurt or killed in bizarre ways. Actually I think in the...

I think this is actually quite a deep question. I maybe have a couple of points to add... A best friend to me is someone who will tell me the truth and their real opinion when I ask for it, even if I won't like it Who'll tell me if they disagree with choices I'm making, but love me and treat me...

Hi, welcome :) What do you mean by "a bit excessive"? To develop PTSD specifically, you have to have experienced a life-threatening trauma. Being spanked a little bit too hard wouldn't really cut it. Though I suppose it could cause other problems. Sorry if I'm misunderstanding you though. You...

What/where are you studying? I'd be happy to help out

my soul finds rest in God alone, my salvation comes from him. He alone is my rock and my salvation, he is my fortress, I will never be shaken psalm 62:1-2 Not to derail or detract from this lovely thread, but I've been hoping to find someone with a similar faith to me to chat to about faithy...

After I posted that, I went to bed and had a nightmare about having accidentally posted it to Facebook, and everyone finding out. It was scary! But waking up to your kind responses has definitely helped. Thankyou guys, I feel less alone now. Really feeling the love. Thankyou very much. I'm...

I broke up with my abuser, he tried to call me to cry and crawl his way back, but I just rejected the call. I'd never been brave enough to do that before. I thought "wait. I never have to speak to him again!"

I wish people understood how big the "little" things are in terms of flashbacks. Sometimes I don't go back to the exact point of sexual assault. Sometimes I go back to the days he was grooming me. Those were a different type of traumatic, but traumatic all the same. But it's almost as f people...

Something my abuser used against me a lot was "you provoked me, so I had no choice but to hit you, and now I feel like a terrible person, so I'm going to cut myself because of what you did to me." Ridiculously circular logic when you think about it, but it worked and it kept me there for a year...