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Talk to heal - I actually have that book and read it often. It's a good one. Sheila Kathy- he's refusing counseling. Thank you both for the feedback and support.

Well as if things haven't been hard enough, my husband told me the kernel personally came to him and ask him to go back overseas? My husband still feels our marriage isn't gonna work and due to his symptoms he believes he's trying. I have a really bad feeling about this deployment.... I'm...

@Eleanor - in one of your comments you recommended I see Anthony's posts? Where do I find them?

I thank an appreciate each one of you. And yes it's is overwhelming at times but I've done all I can to encourage my husband to get help. All I've seemed to have done is push him even further away. He wants to leave so according to the therapist I need to let him go. At this point I'm focusing...

@Eleanor our sons hav expressed their disappointment with their father that's another reason I've recently made some changes. About two months ago I began focusing more on them and their needs making sure they are okay. It's brought us closer together. That's one I the main reasons I'm movin...

What's the difference between a trauma specialist and a counselor?

@Justmehere you may have a point. Please accept my apology. I don't mean to sound angry, and your last post explains a lot of why I'm currently dealing with. I'm actually makin same major changes in fact the last two weeks have been full of them. So hopefully this is going to change things for...

Mishap- your way off base. I haven't wnt back and reread all my posts. Honestly each day I get through makes me stronger. I have no family other than my spouse and sons. So your wrong. If my posts seem repetitive it's because the situation hasn't budged much. And I have gotten help, but the...

Eleanor- no need for apologies. Thank you for sharing your story. Are you still with your husband? What changed things? Mine is bullheaded and strong willed and I am the same. Your insight has gave me a different perspective on things. I've been with him 21yrs. If this was someone I didnt have...

Joey little- lol not laughing at you just laughing at the fact it's so noticeable even via the internet. No wonder I've ran most of my friends off... Lol. Sometimes you have to laugh to avoid the tears. Thanks to everyone for the advice every once in a while I post an update on here to make sure...

Just me here- I went to therapy for about six months he was aware I told him. Ask him to join or see someone else he didn't wNt to. He also keeps telling me to sleep with one of my friends because he isn't in the mood? Strange. Also what do

He's In denial says nothing is wrong we just don't get along. He returned this way. His father isn't a vet just suddenly I'll and needs help. It's idd though his father has wronged him yet he wants to be there but still treats me badly? I was in counseling until I noticed she began speaking from...

Eleanor- you've got a point. I do believe he's hearing somethig different than what I say. For example when he said he's leaving and we will seperate, I ask if he's gonna see other people? His response was ohhhh you must wanna sleep around. I ask why leave our home and seperate why can't you...

My apologies I wrote this is such a hurry. Let me explain. We were having lunch a rare thing when I said something and he laughed. He responded with I'm damaged goods no one wants me I'm all f'd up in the head. I replied I'm here and I still want you. I love you and admiting this is the first...

I've been posting a lot of the challenges I've faced since my husband returned from Afghanistan almost 2 years ago. From the start of his return he's been sleeping with his own blanket and can't handle and or refuses touch, affection, conversation and anything else that remotely requires...

As the holidays approached my spouse anger and level of ability to cope has only escalated. I've completely backed off and no longer question him about where he's going. Some nights he sleeps in the bed with me with his own blanket. This is his norm since his return almost two years ago from a...

Yea I am starting to question my reactions as well. But the therapist suggested I respond in a loving way.? I'm normally a confrontational woman and don't take alot of shot from anyone. So this has been difficult for me to do. I'm going to have a conversation with him the next time this happens...

Do you think that him reading those emails I sent with the info about others with PtSd is making his attitude worse?

I'm already seeing a counselor in fact this is my second one. He's a civilian he went overseas for work.

The last 4-5 days have been a challenge more than most. We've been going through some very hard financial situations. He's been up and down like a rollar coaster. But I've noticed he's coming home a little later than usual. He's etting in around 9-930pm every nite and he leaves for work around...

This would explain his actions. He loves me more than he's ever loved any woman. And yes he's a pro at pushing me away but somedays (not many) he reaches out. I wonder why It makes you do this to the ones who could help you the most?

~ Friday jones, Wow. It takes strength to fight through something for 15 years. Your love for each other is unconditional. It will be two years in May since he returned from Afghanistan, but he was showing signs of something bothering him midway through his second deployment an he was gone 3...

~ sea green Thank you for the kind words and support. In spite of everything my love for my husband hasn't wavered. If anything it's grown.

@Solara - wow I wondered if e was the only one. Do you realize he has been telling me that he does this because he doesn't wanna sleep under the blanket with me? He even gets angry and argues. Why not just tell me? It would help us both if he were just honest about some things. Is it really...

@Justmehere - I agree all the research I've done points To PTSD. He's in denial though and believes it's due to me and our children. Says he feels at peace when he's not home with us. I reminded him that's bcause we have a lot of stress on us rite now due to finances. Nothing to so with our...