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You're dead-on right and I defiantly told him so to his face; called him "a sick f*cking creep". He pulled the belt for another 50? maybe 100 lashes? But that time I lunged and knocked him off his feet. I became more and more defiant in the face of the unfairness through my teen years.

16. A pound of bacon - another trip to the store 17. A bag of potatoes- another trip to the store 18. A bag of carrots- another trip to the store 19. A turnip- another trip to the store 20. A bag of apples- another trip to the store 21... when's this going to end?

This was a typical day of life in my household. As I was always and forever the go-to for store errands and everything else that nobody else wanted to do or get involved with. Dad always had a list as long as his arm and leg combined, but would never give me the complete list so I could get it...

TY all for your supportive words. If only my family could wake up to the sordid truth but I've given up on them by now. Let them all eat cake, let them all have their twice-a-year offshore vacations and let them all enjoy having skated their ways to the American Dream without any struggle. My...

Yes, actually it is sad although their motive seems to read like some kind of misguided protectionism. I can't figure out anything else and either way it doesn't matter that much, considering I finished high school in 1980. It is only after many years of counseling that I've come to find my...

A quick "joke": Q: What happens when a child is raised "like a mushroom" by a narcissistic mother and an emotionally absent father? A: By the time he's done high school He's become nothing but a fool Laughing stock for all, now just a tool A young man who is seriously not cool Note: "raised...

justmehere, I don't know if I can fully answer to what you are experiencing here but I can relate you my own experience as having been born and raised a "Vatican One" Catholic. To me such a fanatical culture never added up and neither did the incredible hypocrisy that it and its parishioners...

Very well said, gizmo! Now that I've found my true self after all these decades, my relationship with Mom and family has been redefined in every sense of the word. Now it's time for me to move on and focus on what I'm really all about and what I stood for all along. Those days of having a...

Even in prison there is a Code of Honor. You can do anything to a grown-up but you can't do children. When this molester's prison-mates find out he hurt a child, the molester will most certainly become a chew-toy.

TY shrinkingviolet! The moment came to me so suddenly and so surreptitiously. It is still so surreal, yet so real. My relationship with my family has been suddenly redefined in ways I never thought possible. The best case scenario and my greatest joy is to be able to one day tell my siblings...

That nice living standard we had back in the city fell to a new abysmal low after we settled in that little mining town and Dad’s business partnership failed so soon after. I was 13 when we made that big move a full day’s drive away from the city we left behind, along with all that it promised...

I know my family events are decades old but this is what I grew up with. It is only this past week that I had my epiphany and finally cut through Mom's façade of being a most beautiful, nurturing, and caring mother and down to her secret and evil plan to destroy my life. What a dichotomy! Yes...

shimmerz, Confirmed, confirmed, confirmed! Now I know why Dad was the way he was with Mom during all their time together. Dad had been applying his own brand of anti-narc! Now I know to pick up dad's torch, develop it more, and apply upon my still-living mother. LOL R.I.P. Dad, and TYVM for...

Chava, I'd like for you to have a look at my posts if you haven't done so already. Let me know if I have echoes to your puzzle, okay? Good luck and God bless.

Ladygosthunter, I feel your pain and can relate extremely well how you feel as I was the eldest and lost child / scapegoat of a narcissistic mother. Hard to believe as it is -and after so many years of counseling- I just woke up within this week as I write this. I finally saw through all the...

I think my mother is a NARCISSIST! That seems to explain the wonky dynamics I grew up with and as scapegoat / lost child I was the target of incredibly evil actions on her part. Maybe I'll find it me to forgive her one day. When her time comes I will not shed a tear. I now realize it's...

Hi again Muse, the list at williieverbegoodenough scored 28 / 33. Wow! What a breath of fresh air and what a revelation! And OMG!!! daughtersofnarcissisticmothers has it all out on the table. What was done to me, it's all there. Gaslighting, scapegoating, destroying relationships, etc... and so...

TY Muse! Again, Mom's antics were so subtle, so cloak-and-dagger that I never realized it until very recently. Now I don't even know why I kept the relationship alive with her while I shut Dad out of my life around that time. Dad was the more blatant abuser and the main focus at the time in...

Solara, No, I'm not a married adult still living at home. In case I got you mixed up... I did do all the grown-up things in leaving the home at 22 and moving to another city to make a life for myself even if what jobs I could get were never more than low-paying dead-ends. My original plan was...

TY all for the responses. Unfortunately this is also a few decades old and coming from a time in my live I was naive, lonely, and confused from what I finally found to be a complicated system of double standards and sugar-coated lies. In that bygone time I was brainwashed and without any sense...

Muse, Yes, I was the weirdo in the family. I was different and I knew it, and I had no control of what it was. It was not on the medical radar at the time. It has since been diagnosed as Asperger's syndrome much, much later in life and in my case it comes with partial complex seizures. That...

She was 5'11" with the looks of a supermodel. Smart as a whip. And she liked all the things that I liked. There was no being tongue-tied. When I conversed with her, it was as if some divine source was cuing me. Indeed an extremely rare and beautiful gem. Amelia and I had a great time on the ski...

Shimmerz, Wow! The father in your flick is quite a bit like my mother in my own experiences. She loves loves LOVES that kind of BS drama. I see myself in the young man trying in vain to be civil and speaking in his defense but the episode only continues to escalate, so futile, so wasteful, so...

WildMermaid, I do Art in many different mediums including painting (mainly in oil), sketching, cartoons, and also sculpt in snow, ice, sand, and carving pumpkins. Whenever possible I travel to competitions in snow, ice, and sand sculpting. I also forever remain open to any method or medium I...

Hey folks, I've seen Asperger's syndrome mentioned here and the feelings, experiences, and opinions are so varied that I thought I'd add my own. And believe me, I don't envy any of you who live with it. I didn't find out about it myself until formally Dx'd for it at 42 years. In my formative...