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I have tons of triggers and stressors (that are related to trauma but not actual triggers). One trigger that I have regularly is the smell of mint, like those white mint lollies or toothpaste smell. The man who abused me for years as a child always had these mint lollies and him and his house...

Point taken pixel! Just want to say that I wasn't too upset. The article brought up some emotions for me around my own DV experience so I vented them here and I'm all good. I just feel sad for the people currently in the midst of the DV chaos who are staying there because they lack the support...

Yep...along with basically every other word you wrote shimmerz and you too Friday. I had to read it, calm down, read it again, leave it then go back again before I could remove my emotion from it. Abusers can definitely play the part of the victim very well. It's funny (not really) that...

While I didn't mind this article, I do feel, somewhat, that in an attempt to counter the so called "victim identity movement" that the author swings a little too far in the opposite direction in the last sections on treatment. Those last sections seem a bit idealistic and unrealistic to me and...

Hi Ivan and welcome to the forum! I hope you find it as helpful as I do :)

Hi meridian, it's a pleasure to meet you too! You've been through some pretty tough times. I hope you find the forum helpful :)

Welcome to the forum! I'm new here too. I hope you find it as helpful as I am finding it :)

Hi there! Welcome to the forum :)

Hi littleme and welcome to the forum! I'm new here too and am finding it helpful. I hope you find it helpful too :)

I got off seroquel a while ago then got off antidepressants more recently and am glad I did. However i was only able to do that after finding my current therapist. I still have really rough times with everything but am slowly learning to manage without meds now. I know I can go back on them if I...

Hi Allie D, it was a number of years ago that I was on seroquel but I think they were giving me about 400mg three times a day but I'm not 100% on the dose - I was completely out of it. It did help me sleep but I was just so completely out of it the entire time. I'm guessing that lower doses...

I can definitely relate. I try to do things that are helpful for my anxiety that I can also involve my kids in. For me that's often doing something like going for a walk with dog and kids, going to the lake where there are playgrounds for the kids while I play with the dog, kick a ball around...

Thank you ronin. I am lucky I'm getting to spend the preschool holidays with him before all this starts. Wow it's just so tough. I never tried to stop him seeing our kids. I just want it to be safe :( So sad right now. Feel like I'm failing my little boy in one of the worst ways

Oh I should add that there have been a couple of times when she didn't think I could make an agreement and I was taken to hospital for assessment but was not admitted. I went from pretty regular hospitalisation with previous T's but none in the 3 years I've been with my current one

With previous T's their solution was put me in hospital where I was dosed up with seroquel till sufficiently dazed and compliant then I was released. That was repeated many times and didn't help one bit. My current T has been completely different. We've worked at it from different angles...

Thank you for your honesty Friday. I have already imagined how bad it's going to be. Just got an email from my therapist and she said she'll come with me to the mediation next week which is such a relief. Beyond that I guess I'm gonna have to put try to put some extra things in place so I don't...

Yup, animals are totally awesome therapy!

Much appreciated enaila:)

We do have well checks here but from what I've been told they only do them if there has been physical harm or if the child reports some form of physical harm or serious neglect. I will definitely investigate this further to find out options. I will also definitely document everything - for my...

Thanks so much for the replies. So far he has treated our youngest very differently to the older two but, yeah, I think that's because he's been watched the whole time. I feel like I'm going to be knowingly sending my son to be abused...I don't know how to deal with that. How do you manage your...

Thanks! I have to say that you helped inspire me. Your message... Helped give me the courage to at least give it a go! :)

Got a call from the powers that be a couple days ago. They want my ex husband to change from supervised contact with our 4 year old son to unsupervised contact - day and overnight visits - and I have to go to mediation with them next week. I'm having trouble seeing it objectively and don't know...

Hi shells and welcome!

Feel like having a drink after making that decision lol

Temporary decision made - no meds. Going to try to work through stuff without them