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This sounds so much like my boss (the owner of the company!!). I know how frustrating it is to be stuck working for a giant trigger who also happens to be a giant jacka**. It's so much work not to get upset on a regular basis. I've been looking for another job since July and the market is just dead.

I understand how you feel. I was also deliberately isolated by my mom, constantly punished and grounded for things that made no sense to me and could be completely contradictory from day to day, and told how snotty and ungrateful and impatient and argumentative I was all the time. And this is...

I have found counseling helpful to a certain degree but I really feel like if you go through enough stuff -- especially a combination of stuff, dealing with familial issues AND being HoH in a school that didn't support you -- it feels like your therapist can only understand you to a certain...

This is how I felt until I started taking antidepressants, honestly. They're not right for everybody, but for me, it was like, I'm intelligent enough to understand how to put all this in perspective, I'm motivated enough to try whatever I need to try to learn how to cope with it, I'm diligent...

It's not your fault you are physically injured! It's hard not to feel like a failure when you can't do something you feel you should be able to do, but try not to be too hard on yourself. Employers can sometimes be more understanding and helpful about these things than we're expecting to be...

Clinical depression has all kinds of catalysts, and a chemical imbalance is only one of them. A chemical imbalance is also not something you can just look at a person and see. Your mom is not a doctor. She is not qualified to make this "diagnosis." It sounds like she means well in her own way...

Thank you. This is all really helpful for me to think about.

... not that there is ever a reason to yell at someone. I'm really struggling with this. For background, I have complex PTSD from an isolated childhood of intense psychological, verbal and emotional abuse. I spent all of my 20s and some of my 30s in dead-end foodservice jobs because I didn't...

THIS is a great idea. The flipside of endless city walking is that 8 months out of the year the weather is terrible and we don't do it nearly as much, haha.

I'm an urban walker! Not a lot of trails or greenery, but miles and miles of possible routes that go on forever. Sometimes I wonder how much worse shape I'd be in mentally if it didn't take at least ten minutes of walking to do just about anything in my life. I don't have a tracker, but I shoot...

They give you therapy UNTIL they decide you're "unstable"??? Then they stop seeing you?? Horrible.

Yup. It's exhausting. I can do it 75% of the time and the other 25% ... I'm just damn tired

They spend more time at our side than most people, even family members. So of course we feel the loss so hard. I'm so sorry to hear about your loss. Maybe in time you'll be ready to give that same love to another cat who needs it.

I feel it all the time, and I usually just feel sad until I don't feel sad anymore. I don't know what else to do. I've managed to claw my way out of the deepest darkest part of the hole and now I have a career and a savings account and a husband -- all things I never thought would be possible...

I feel the same way. I was a teenager in the early 90s and all the artist deaths really skewed my idea of what it means to be a creative person. I thought of him as a "survivor" of all this too.

I have found that doing yoga regularly really improves my sleep, even though I don't do it at bedtime. I can tell the difference on days when I do and days when I don't -- it's like my body just starts shutting down at bedtime and I'm out like a rock. I have a really hard time calming my...

Congrats!!! Career stuff has been the hardest hurdle for me to clear, even harder than romantic relationships. When you realize you're finally making progress and in control, it's such a great feeling.

I've always hated family holidays mostly due to my mother. I went NC with her about 6-7 years ago, and then over the past few years have been showing up at select family events where she would be, mostly for the sake of a very old step-relative who passed away a few months ago. I wasn't close to...

It took me a long time to learn that blow-offs were not something I had to accept. I had boyfriends over the years who did stuff like this repeatedly, either because they "weren't that into me" or, in one case, because he was hiding a drug problem (!!!). It took me into my early 30s to stop...

It took me a long time to learn this, but a job is a job -- it's something YOU have to serve your own needs. You have to do what's best for you, and you don't owe an employer anything beyond basic professionalism. They've already told you your time there is wrapped up--if another opportunity...

I still need to wrap my head around this one. It's reallllly hard not to think this one is true. Especially around holidays--like, say, Mothers Day--when your social media feed is full of people talking about how their moms are the greatest ever and their best friends and they'll be lucky and...

I'm almost 40 and still struggling with this one. I used to just withdraw and "only count on myself" which meant ... withdrawing constantly and not really facing life or decisions at all, because I didn't know how. I spent my 20s watching reruns and didn't even date for years because I just...

I know what you mean -- it's almost harder to ask for something you see as your personal hangups, it makes it feel like it's just you even when you know it's probably not. I have had cats my whole adult life and while I do let them sleep in the bed with me they are objectively annoying and...

Started a couple years ago, had to get a noise machine to sleep. No head injuries, no physical abuse, it's not listed as a common side effect of my medication, and I went for a hearing test and was told everything was right in the middle of the average range. No idea where it could have come from!

It's hard to keep fighting! If opening up is burning you out, maybe pull back for a little bit? A few days, a few weeks, whatever feels like it might give you a break to collect your thoughts and recharge? We all need a break from active processing sometimes.