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Thank you so much for this article. My partner of 7 months and soon to be husband next summer, abruptly ended our relationship after a fight. It blindsided me. I saw mild PTSD symptoms sprinkled throughout our relationship, but when a highly stressful fight happened just recently, he forced me...

@anon1234 That was also the story with my vet. He felt like I wasn't invested into the relationship. He really pushed me on that issue and I could not convince him otherwise. He was very impulsive and high strung and I was cautious and slower in making big decisions. I explained this to him...

@sadgirl I've been following your posts. I've been in your shoes. Nine weeks have passed and not a word from my ex. My ex was in denial of the severity of his PTSD. At the end of our relationship he did and said the most shameful things I've ever experienced in a relationship. I have to...

@EveHarrington I had to reply to this post. I read that the success or failure of relationships is not so much determined to how you fight with your partner, but in how you resolve the fight. Spot on!! This holds true for PTSD sufferers and non sufferers. Great post for everyone!

@LostOne83 I can relate to this quote....Oh my gosh, can I. I'd learned that my ex combat vet had a hierarchy of people who were "safe" in his world. During a flare up, I'd hear him talking to his combat "brothers" and it was as if life was wonderful. He was happy, laughing, and so loving in...

@Sweetpea76 Thanks for that explanation. I'm still so intrigued about putting the puzzle pieces in place... I think it helps me in my healing journey. Yes!! I could see both hypervigilance and anxiety in him, but it so foreign to me, at that time. I kept thinking it was things I said or...

Hi @Sweetpea76 My ex also had combat PTSD. I wrote previous posts about not knowing what PTSD symptoms were until after the relationship ended. In hindsight, I'm pretty sure I saw many symptoms of PTSD from early on. One of first things I noticed early in the relationship was his energy...

@Deanna's Gap Yes...This relationship never had a chance, really. My ex didn't trust in ANYBODY. He saw humanity as generally bad. He even admitted to this. I knew it would just a matter of time before I made a mistake, broke his trust, hurt him, etc. I mean...I am human, right? Tell me of...

@Freida Thank you for your explanation. As a supporter, it was so very confusing for me to see my ex treat his friends (military "brothers") with love and kindness, only to hand up the phone and become "the stranger" I lived with. I can see clearly...now... how his military friends came...

@Deanna's Gap the forum is Shut outs/blocking Discussion in 'Supporter Discussion' started by Willowtree, Oct 8, 2017. My profile name on that forum is ladyboss226. I recently changed it to LB226. This web site has been a blessing for me. Insight from both supporters and suffers has been...

@ Freida can you please expand on your comment about isolating the ones you love, not the ones you need? This left me a with questions.... My ex ended our relationship abruptly. One week we were talking about wedding venues, and the next week the relationship was over. I was at a complete...

@Buttercup That was a very powerful comment. I commend you for your strength and for placing boundaries in your relationship. I only experienced 7 months of ptsd symptoms with my ex. I saw more of the push (somewhat subtle at times) than the pull. Our relationship ended abruptly and with...

@1lostlove your story made my heart ache. So painful when someone abruptly walks away because they can't deal with their emotions. How are you doing today? As I've learned from this forum, being in a relationship with a PTSD sufferer requires years of therapy and a continuous effort to work...

@Freida I know, right?!! It was the worst possible mistake, yet when I asked about watching the movie, he agreed. I wish he just could have told me how he was feeling. I could already tell he was in a foul mood, but I thought he maybe had a bad day at work. Then afterward he reprimanded me...

Sept. 11th was my first experience with a PTSD anniversary "flare ups." At this time I had no idea what PTSD was and how it affected my vet. Clueless!! I did the worst possible thing EVER. Came home from work and suggested we watch a 9/11 Netflix movie. Lets just say the night did not end on...

@Sighs....My ex often talked about integrity, trust, honor, fidelity and so on. He was very proud of his moral codes. I broke his trust and it was a deal breaker for him. My ex told me he'd NEVER trust me again. Sadly, along with his codes, he failed to encompass forgiveness, compassion...

Thank you Buttercup, You hit some very valid points. My ex had only been in therapy maybe eight sessions before we began dating. I would agree with you saying he didn't understand the depth of his PTSD, nor did he have the awareness of how it affected him emotionally. It was truly the blind...

Nae Nae75, Let me just start of by saying I feel no judgment from you in regard to my situation and breakup. However, I feel like I have to defend my actions in reaching out to my friend about my ex. Let me give you a bit more context of my situation... Only once did my ex (marine combat vet)...

Buttercup and nae nae It eases my pain to know someone understands my experience. My family cannot relate to any of it (ptsd), as it's just as foreign to them as it was to me. Im thankful for this forum, as well as you both taking the time to reach out to me. So grateful to you both!!

Nae nae I agree with you and do not feel judged by you. You have been very kind in your words and explanations.. thank you. I know even a man without PTSD would be hurt. And yes, i would be hurt if i found him talking to another confidant about struggles of mine. I get it completely and i...

Nae Nae and Buttercup, Thank you both for your insight. This forum and personal feedback is so helpful, at least for me, in the healing process. I feel as a supporter (whom knew very little of what my suffer was dealing with) others stories and experiences help to fill in all the empty holes...

Hello Buttercup, Reading your posts about your experience with shut outs.... My ex forced me out of our house five weeks ago. A fight provoked his actions and the worst PTSD meltdown I've ever witnessed in the 7 months we dated. Verbal abuse followed, along with physical threats. It was the...

Ugh!!! Your story was my relationship of 7 months. Yes. Yes. Yes.....this is PTSD.

First of all, It doesn't really matter if it's PTSD, TBI or him being a jerk. It is most likely all three. The fact is, he has mental illness that you can't fix. These men are not ALL good or ALL bad. You fall in love with the kind, caring part of him, but along with that comes the PTSD part of...

Are you still in a relationship with this man? I am in a very similar situation. Dated 7 months and we were planning on getting married next summer. Saw PTSD symptoms throughout the 7 months, then one major fight caused him to sever the relationship and he forced me to move out of our house...