Ladyboss I'm so sorry!
One thing I do want to say is this - he may not know how PTSD affects him and couldn't tell you how it might show up in a relationship. And if he had only just started therapy a few months before all of this, it makes sense that he would start getting in a dark place.
I hear your side loud and clear. You did nothing wrong! I do see how he would misconstrue and get very hurt by the situation, but with his irrational state, he could not discuss it. It does suck big time.
As time goes on, he will cool off and process, I am sure. That is when he may reach out to discuss. Or he may carry that hurt and also maybe embarrassment and shame and not be able to do that. I know how marines can be!! But since he is in therapy I am hopeful there is a bigger chance that he will process this and be able to talk to you about it.
My guy is one of those manly males who in general has a hard time to discuss and process emotions, and he is not in therapy (unless he hides that from me), and he will usually take weeks to cool off, process and think, gulp down his embarrassment, and reach out to me again. And I don't think he realizes that it's PTSD that causes his actions and poor coping and reactions. But again, he keeps a lot to himself so maybe he does. He has just blamed his career making him this way in the past.
Anyway, I'm glad you are here to process and share your stuff. I hope it's helping you some.
One thing I do want to say is this - he may not know how PTSD affects him and couldn't tell you how it might show up in a relationship. And if he had only just started therapy a few months before all of this, it makes sense that he would start getting in a dark place.
I hear your side loud and clear. You did nothing wrong! I do see how he would misconstrue and get very hurt by the situation, but with his irrational state, he could not discuss it. It does suck big time.
As time goes on, he will cool off and process, I am sure. That is when he may reach out to discuss. Or he may carry that hurt and also maybe embarrassment and shame and not be able to do that. I know how marines can be!! But since he is in therapy I am hopeful there is a bigger chance that he will process this and be able to talk to you about it.
My guy is one of those manly males who in general has a hard time to discuss and process emotions, and he is not in therapy (unless he hides that from me), and he will usually take weeks to cool off, process and think, gulp down his embarrassment, and reach out to me again. And I don't think he realizes that it's PTSD that causes his actions and poor coping and reactions. But again, he keeps a lot to himself so maybe he does. He has just blamed his career making him this way in the past.
Anyway, I'm glad you are here to process and share your stuff. I hope it's helping you some.