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Going to places you were traumatised is pretty good in terms of exposure therapy, if you're the one making the decision to go, and how long you go for- facing the places in a way that you control helps significantly. i'd advise you to be careful, though, ad don't spend too long lingering at any...

@Jacaroo that it exactly, I don't want to make it seem worse than it was, I just feel like I don't deserve to be this way over something that's, comparatively, 'minor'. I'm not living with my Father any more, thankfully- we moved when I was 10, some abuse carried through to when i was 13, but I...

I'm in the United Kingdom- over here, the mental health services are notorious for being horrible. They're underfunded, with bad staff that usually just turn you away. there's some legality that they have to alert the parent if they think the patient is at risk of harm to themselves/ others, and...

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@somerandomguy you are so so lovely, thank you so much. It wasn't minor, I just hate comparing myself to others, feel like I don't need help as much because I didn't go through as much stuff as somebody else, y'know? I agree, brains are really tricky and I definitely think I'll talk to a...

@somerandomguy I know there are no real minor ways, he jjst groped me n all that jazz as opposed to rape, so I didn't wanna make it seem like anything more when I don't fully know what he did and didn't do. I'd like to think I'm not insane, but I honestly have no idea what's real anymore...

Hey all, first of all- are repressed memories a genuine thing? I was sexually abused by my father countless times in fairly minor ways on and off for about 2 years, as well as emotionally and (occasionally) physically, also by my Father. The thing is, I keep having the feeling he did more than...

it sounds a lot like some form of pretty bad mutism attack stopping you from being able to speak- they usually come on due to strong feelings of stress/ anxiety/ fear, or sometimes just no reason at all. Also, being triggered can also, unfortunately, trigger them. Forcing yourself to try to...

I use a dream catcher. I don't particularly believe in dream catcher's abilities to stop nightmares, but they're pretty to look at and a comforting object to have near you. Also, if/ when you do have another nightmare, the textures and shapes of dream catchers are pretty good at getting you...

It is normal, 100%. Your body is meant to work like that, no matter who's doing the thing or whether it's wanted. Remember, that isn't you- your body's natural reaction to a stimulus, that's pre-programmed and pretty unavoidable, isn't you consenting to/ being happy with the events in the...

@Freida thank you so much!! not gonna lie though, I'm kind of struggling with the whole idea of getting help from adult authority figures. It scares me, and I guess I just don't want to mix my family life and my mental health life

There's this one kid in my friendship group at school and I swear, he is my pet peeves personified. He looks over your shoulder all the time, doesn't have much sense of space, has the MOST annoying laugh that he does when you get a question wrong, points out all the flaws in something you've...

That's relatively common, whether it's due to feeling overwhelmed, feeling like you don't have people that care, not wanting to "burden" others, or a whole other reason. If there are any text based services where you live, I'd recommend using them- online groups can be pretty helpful, too. A lot...

@Anitza PTSD workbook?? that sounds p good @Sweetleaf luckily for me I don't live with my father, and my mum isn't abusive, she just yells when I'm not, like, the perfectly stable child she expects me to be. The school therapists here are crap, but I' m looking into external help. I'm so sorry...

@Anitza I have a good few friends that know about past stuff, and I recently told another friend about the school stuff happening right now, and they help a lot- I'm vv grateful to have them, I'd probs be dead without them, to be honest with you. Free therapy around here is horrific, but I'm...

Sounds like a fight to be insignificant, unrelied on and hidden away. Possibly to die peacefully, leave no mourners behind

I'd suggest getting some physical distance away from your wife just for a couple days, so you know for SURE you can't/ won't do anything that you'll regret. Call a therapist in that time, if you have one, definitely. When you feel ready to go back, the best thing to do would be to sit down with...

Thanks, I am trying, I'm not gonna give up any time soon. I hope you try, and stuff starts changing for you too.

The thought of getting help and being around adult figured in positions of trust scares me a lot, but I might try

@joeylittle there are a couple support workers, but the most they tend to do is tell you to be happy every morning, and pay almost no attention- they're not the best, not by a long shot. Also, the CAMHS system here is notoriously horrific- the waiting lists can be a year, they take ages to...

I have a friend that knows about my situation, but she goes to another school, and everyone that knows about past trauma are all friends from other schools. My mother has no idea, I've never spoken about anything that's happened with anyone to an adult figure, my father is one of the trauma...

I get that feeling too. What's key to remember is that faking it would be a conscious decision, you'd make the choice to fake it. The question of "am i faking it?" wouldn't come up if you were faking, you'd be conscious of carrying out your decision to fake it.

I find it really scary, for me the sensation of being somewhere else while knowing I'm in the same room but not being able to see its real contents, furniture and people wise, is terrifying. It varies from person to person, I guess. If you find VR helps, or feel it will help in some way, go for...

Sometimes, there isn't an actual trigger, stuff just builds up and we begin to feel overwhelmed in our environment. It happens, and as much as it sucks, you're not some kinda hyper-PTSD-triggered-one-off-case, a lot of us are the same.

Hey there, bit of a vent post here, I guess. This kid joined the year below mine in school at the start of September. This kid bears a striking resemblance to a guy that once did stuff to me on a school bus, and I'm pretty sure it is that guy. This happened 1 and a bit years ago, and I'd been...