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This isnt going to help but.... I have the same experience about perception with my husband He has described our life together and our children’s childhood in negatives. I made him and albuM of 100+ pics to remind him how beautiful our life has been regardless of the bumps in the road. He still...

T Thank you It’s difficult to comprehend how selfish this is My daughter has been trying to FaceTime him this morning from her room. She just told me And he’s not picking up It’s just makes me sick. I would do anything for them and I would’ve done anything to help him

Oh my god. Spot on. With the exception of the intentional malicious part... that i know of But yes. I’m running the show & I can without him. It’s the expectation and the desire to want a partner. A role he can’t or won’t fill right now This was not who he always was and I know that’s holding...

I have a wonderful therapist And I hold it together pretty good most of the time it’s these little moments when it feels like there r rocks on my chest that I fall apart And the disbelief that he can’t see outside of himself at what he’s leaving behind I would support him however he needed if...

So my husband has told me that after several sessions with his trauma dr., theyve concluded that I am his trigger. They have not touched on the childhood sexual abuse yet. Instead the focus has been our relationship and his exit for a minimum 3 month seperation. Last night we told our children...

You’re so kind. It’s all so fresh and new. And the reaction to the intimacy feels extremely personal and even the reaction to being in our home. I love him deeply and want to support him. I’m just trying to balance that with finding joy and balance for myself. He has created a kind of trauma for...

This is really helpful thank you I’m going to answer those questions for myself and prepare to have a calm conversation when he returns. I can’t sustain this and I need to make my boundaries clear

Thank you that’s helpful

I don’t think I said “it’s just ptsd” And as a mother we r notorious for putting everyone else’s needs first. So of course I have to work on that. But I also want to salvage our marriage.

My husbands ptsd was brought on by sexual abuse from family during childhood. He’s imploded in the last two months and can’t seem to center himself He also has cheated on me Sonits a big shit sand which. He’s gone for an undisclosed amount of time So my therapist told me what I had already...

Thank you truly

Thank you And you got me to laugh with the air mask metaphor because I picture one dropping down in the shower My current plan is to back off I feel everything It’s trying to navigate those feelings to function He’s gone, finding himself somewhere again I don’t want to be a martyr, it seems...

Therapy yesterday involved a long rant of how things have been bad for a long time. 90% of it was about the marriage with just a mention of the sexual abuse and the affair. The thing is everything that is happening right now aligns with ptsd symptoms. I feel like that is the root and everything...

Thank you. One of many and I’m sure many more to come Just need to relate to someone I put myself out there early today on this page. I researched a bunch. I organized his script renewal and picked it up & of course was mom and wife and everything that goes along with it But the woman who...

I’m still trying to figure out where I post thoughts so figure me if I’m in the wrong place My husband got in a car accident today after work- he’s ok fender bender But this does happen frequently alone with tickets. He of course was feeling like shit and god knows he’s distracted But then he...

I’m speechless and sobbing. Because hearing your words is like an arm around me, holding me up. Thank you The effort that it takes to be the cheerleader and steer the homestead ship is exhausting. To know the there is hope from someone who has suffered this way is priceless. I want everyday to...

The other piece,, there are many. His step brother is pursuing legal action against stepfather due to law changes in ny state. So the abuse in the family directed at his brother I have always known, it’s been talked about over the years. His mother stayed with the man, he was part of our lives...

Thank you, navigating life and this site lol

Thank you, it helps to hear that. If I had just met this guy and this was happening it would be more manageable to sort out.. if I had known all along that there was abuse.. but it all surfaced at once. Not to say he wasn’t experiencing some of this and shoving it down, that’s for sure. But for...

Thank you for sharing..... Such a personal experience to share but this seems the best place to do just that My current situation as a wife and supporter .. This is all new and recent for me, my husband just shared his sexual abuse from childhood by family members and simultaneously our world...

Thank you for the welcome. This is not where I thought I would be at 46 and 20 year marriage ... Looking back there were signs but I had no idea that what was dwelling was as dark as it is. I wish I had been told or figured it out so much earlier on, now there are so many more layers and...

Thank you, he’s waiting for the return call appointment And yes it will be a series of appointments not just one I know it was a choice, And I have said those exact words to him. He acted on whatever that symptom was - you are absolutely right

New here.... consuming as much information as I can. My husband is in crisis. 2 months ago he told me he had been sexually abused by his stepfather as a kid. And others in his immediate family as well A week later I found out he was cheating on me while out of town for work. Since that...