Another Newcomer

[soxfan]

Hello, all...I'm in a relationship with a woman suffering from PTSD and depression, so I guess that makes me a carer. Without going into our entire story in my first post, I'll just say that I'm having a tough time dealing with this. My intentions were good, and I really want to be of help, but it's increasingly clear that I need to get some help learnimg how to take care of myself if I'm going to do any good at all. Since I'm also in recovery (not from PTSD), I've become a big believer in using our experience to help others. Although I haven't gotten too far into this forum yet, it seems there is a world of information here, and I'm sure I'll be able to learn from your experiences and share some of my own, which hopefully might help someone else out there. I am grateful I've found this site and that you all are here.

 

[catjudo]

soxfan--
Welcome to the forum. As you've already realized, there is a wealth of information here. Continue reading and ask questions as they come to you. You will find the members here very supportive.

catjudo

 

[Lavender]

Hi Soxfan,

I'm also in other recoveries and am also a PTSD sufferer. It's a very self-loving thing to do to come here and learn how to take care of yourself in your relationship, and I applaud your decision. It shows that you're working well in your other recovery and that you care about your partner very much. Welcome to the group. :)

Lavender

 

[ISupportHer]

Good to see you here. There are not a huge number of male Carers here. Hope you find some help here, I have. Keep posting a little at a time and soon you will hopefully gain access to the Carers area.

I would say this, however. Do not in any way steer away from the sufferers posts. There is so much to gain here. There have been times I have been very upset or confused at something and posted a question to sufferers just to gain insight. Some cannot open up but many will give you their thoughts and suggestions.

Welcome and, as a male carer, this is one of the few times I feel I can say that I most likely know some of what you feel.

ISH

 

[CCurry]

Hi Soxfan,

Welcome aboard I am also another carer. There really is so much insight you gain being on this forum both from the sufferers who understand what my bf is going through and the other carer's who get where I'm at.

Hope to see you around.

C.

 

[onebravegirl]

I always have appreciated the saying Knowledge if not shared is useless. Welcome to the forum! Hope to learn more about you,
O

 

[Ladyhope Somerset]

Hi soxfan and welcome. i've only been around this site for a couple of weeks myself but can confidently say that it's been soooo helpful to me. Getting replies from people who truly understand and want to help one another is wonderful. I am a carer for my husband and there is a wealth of information for us at this site so give yourself time to look around. I didn't realise how crucial it is for us carers to look after ourselves! So do take care. With respect. LH

 

[Hemels]

Hi Soxfan,

Welcome to the forum, I am sure your girlfriend appreciates you looking for help for yourself to help look after her. I wish my boyfriend would accept he needs help to be able to help me too. I hope you find the help and support you need here

Hemmy xXx

 

[Clydiechick]

Welcome

It's great you have joined, for both you and your gf. I hope you learn things that help you both. Not only that, you will find great understanding and support here.

I think that my husband is suffering depression after caring for me for so many years. He needs help and support, but is a 'man' and would never look for it or ask for it, unfortunately. Our marriage used to be rock solid, now it's more like walking on glass shards. As I am not the person I once was, he certainly is not the man I married and his behaviour has completely changed and he has done things that he would once, NEVER, have done.

So I commend you and thank you for your girlfriends sake for joining and wanting to learn more about this horrible thing called PTSD.

Take care of you!

Clydie