Being Compared To Past Lovers

[Linda Lee Bogard - King]

What I discovered in relationships; with or without PTSD - is that partners will compare new lovers with their past lovers, but with PTSD - it seems more noticeable and I find myself, defending "me" when accused of doing something or being like someone from the past.

 

[Sqweak]

That's very interesting thing that you bring up sense I’ve had this brought to my attention a few times. Personally I feel like it's important to talk about your past relationships but I don't ever, ever compare people. I feel like it dooms a relationship from the start and there is no room for real growth when you do that. I'm a sufferer and I’ve been compared to past girlfriends, it's an odd thing that people do but I think it's okay to bring up the bad and the good; eventually your partner will see how much better you really are.
I hope you don't mind me responding :)

 

[Linda Lee Bogard - King]

Sqweak, I am happy you responded...it helps me... I feel the same way and I learned that lesson years ago.. I've widowed twice and not one man was anything like the other... I think I purposely sought opposite qualities.

 

[TakeTheBaggage]

My man is so amazing, there wouldn't be any competition. So, why waste the time thinking about it? I've got to obsess about my PTSD . . . until I find the bell boy to take away this baggage.