Being Set Up For Failure.....

[watchdog]

Im in love, finally happy, but I feel like its a "joke" on me, being happy, like its a trick and that Im going to end up worse for letting myself be happy. like I do not desver it and like I will be punished for feeling happy, is this normal?

 

[Jimmy1]

Hey Watchdog, I know exactly how you feel.
I often used to tell myself that I did not deserve to be happy for the wrong doings in my life.
And when all the women in my life left me it just amplified my belief.
Then I treated women like shit as I thought 'Who would have me'

But Watchdog, I finally found happiness, or happiness found me in the name of Margaret.
My son said he had not seen me so happy, or displaying happiness in years.

You deserve it. Accept it and embrace it. If keep thinking you don't deserve it, then thats what will play out.

Enjoy it, and smile.

Jimmy

 

[wife of]

Trust her and keep honest with her about ALL of your feelings,thats usualy all us ladies want as well as faithfulness of course,Hope you have found a good un,believe in yourself and the relationship,not all women will quit onsomeone just because of ptsd...

 

[Ned]

Im in love, finally happy, but I feel like its a "joke" on me, being happy, like its a trick and that Im going to end up worse for letting myself be happy. like I do not desver it and like I will be punished for feeling happy, is this normal?

100% normal. Being happy is not a sin = no punishment deserved.
'Wife of' is right, keep her in the picture as much as you can (when you need to press the pause button, reassure her there'll be an update to follow!).
My girl has put up with a lot of crap and still there, I reckon you will worry about the negative events so I 'm not going to try fluffy reassurance, but we've lasted eight years, finally got the bastard in our sights and are determined to beat it. Hope that helps.

 

[Angelina92]

Watchdog, as a woman being in love with a soldier I can tell this: Of course you deserve to be happy and that unconditional love is hard to come by..so be happy and hold on tight. Good luck

 

[Mockingbird13]

Watchdog -

This is great to hear... you do deserve this. Yes love can be scary and overwhelming- and being happy is not a puishment.

Enjoy each other - take it slow, be honest and all will be well !