Debate: Is Spanking A Naked 15 Year Old Girl Child Abuse?

[tphillips117]

My therapist and I disagree. When I was a kid and teenager, my mentally ill mother (she's borderline), demanded I take off my clothes to be spanked. She was a harsh parent, often cruel in fact. But is repeatedly spanking a naked 15 year old girl child abuse or worse, sexual abuse?

What do you think?

 

[Rumors]

What does your therapist say? Just wondering.

 

[tphillips117]

He believes it was abuse. What do your think?

 

[Bilby]

I believe it is, yes.

At that age, spanking is inappropriate (I don't believe in spanking anyway, but that's not the point here). The fact that you were made take your clothes off, adds another dimension that certainly makes me feel that it is abuse.

 

[Rumors]

I would think so but I am not an expert. I wouldn't do it to a 15 year old that's for sure. I think it is inappropriate as hell but especially when you add in the fact she made you undress. Wonder how she would feel if it happened to her?
Hang in there!

 

[Britt.f7]

I believe that it is abuse. Getting naked at that age for a spanking is highly inappropriate to say the least. I know my aunt did that to my cousin in front of a group of his friends. My father said he spanked my teenage step sister, I don't know if he pulled her pants down, in front of her class to teach her a lesson. I come from a long line of inappropriate abusive behavior, so I am going to be totally against someone stripping a teenager to spank her. Especially knowing some people get off sexually on that type of thing.

So, I'm sorry I got distracted, I do feel that it is abuse. How are you now feeling about it?

 

[tphillips117]

Physical abuse or sexual abuse because of the undressing part?

I have to add as well that this wasn't just typical spanking, she beat the hell out of me with a belt until she exhausted herself. I have nightmares where I wake up feeling like my body is on fire with pain. Totally psychosomatic. I actually have scars on the backs of my legs from where she beat me with the buckle side of the belt. Funny, I don't think that was abuse at all. It was normal for me.

 

[Bilby]

I'm really not sure and don't feel qualified to make a call on that.

But from what you have said, it is very much physical abuse.

I am so very sorry that you had to endure that and that this was 'normal' for you :(

 

[tphillips117]

Britt,

I don't think anything of it.

And thanks for weighing in, always nice to hear from a friendly face, er, name, er, avatar! ;)

 

[tphillips117]

Bilby,

Thanks.

 

[Rumors]

I am afraid I have no expertise to answer that. I can't imagine what thoughts or pleasure was going on with your mom at that moment. All I can say is that it would feel like a violation to me whether it be sexual or not.
Really sorry it happened! I hope you are able to wrap your mind around it. That is tough! Good luck!

 

[therapybankrupt]

So sorry you had to go through that.:cry: It is wrong and child abuse but I am not sure about sexual. Maybe she just wanted to demean you and emotionally hurt you additionally that way? Your mom was ill. If you want to accept:hug:.

PS My dad used to pull down our pants and beat us with a belt with tails. I never thought of it as sexual. When I was old enough I believe I had my menses. I told him and he never threatened or did that again.