Debate: Is Spanking A Naked 15 Year Old Girl Child Abuse?

[tphillips117]

When I see parents hit their children. I see red, literally and my mommy rage comes out and without thinking, I start yelling, threatening to call the police. It makes me sick and so very, very sad!

 

[tphillips117]

Is that a type of flashback? I've always wondered that.

 

[DharmaGirl]

Oh, me too! I just don't get why we allow people to assault others when they are children. That is not allowed when they are adults.

 

[tphillips117]

I don't get it either. Children are so defenseless and I personally could give a rats behind, what the child did... It doesn't matter. Hitting them leaves scars long after the pain of the whack goes away.

 

[Anna]

I think it is abuse. It is firstly degrading making a young teenager take their clothes off at such a delicate stage of your life, when privacy is becoming important, so that is psychological abuse, then the spanking as well. Abuse 100%.

 

[tphillips117]

This may seem wrong to say, but I have a very hard time admitting that what happened to me was "abuse". I don't want to be a victim, I don't want my past to be an excuse for how I live in the present. I don't want to admit that I'm not strong enough to beat this!

 

[Loveneverfails]

I tried spanking at first because it was what was done to me as a kid. Of course the sort of spanking I received was similar(though not as severe) to the original posters (OP), pulling down pants and beating with a shoe until there were welts and the 'spankings' I gave were no where near that level. With my own kids I quickly found that even a swat to their bottom brought all the feelings of humiliation and vulnerability right back. In fact physical contact with them at all when they were misbehaving made me feel horrible. I had to switch gears with discipline, not only for their well being but also for mine.

In my opinion, having been on both sides, spanking is abuse no matter the age. I no longer feel like there is ever an excuse for it and have seen my kids blossom in confidence without it. It may have only been one swat to a bottom, but it did something emotionally and psychologically that I wasn't okay with. I can't imagine what it would do to a teenager, already dealing with the emotional highs and lows, to be undressed and beaten in that manner. I am sorry that you(OP) had to go through that.

 

[safenow]

When I see a woman hitting a child, I tell them to pick on someone their own size, and invite them to start with me. That way if they throw the first punch, I can knock their lights out. I don't want to see anyone hit a child.

 

[NIKI]

What happened to you was abusive. No doubt.

I was also beat with a belt by both parents. My father would make this show of taking his belt off, then folding it in half and snapping it before he started. I wanted to run but I knew I couldn't. *sigh*

 

[saffy]

I start yelling, threatening to call the police.

Good for you, I say :)

Well done for getting involved and standing up for the children. It is a pity more people did not. Too many incidents like this are ignored.

Best wishes
Saffy :)

 

[saffy]

I don't want to be a victim, I don't want my past to be an excuse for how I live in the present.

Admitting and acknowledging that you were abused does not make you a victim now, you were the victim then and have past that stage of abuse. Only you can control your present :)

best wishes
Saffy :)

 

[LC23]

Yes, it is abuse, coupling the humiliation with the physical violence is definitely abuse. I think in most cases corporal punishment resembles abuse anyway, but the use of nakedness to humiliate and disempower you definitely pushes it over the top.