A little background. My partner is a combat vet with PTSD. He has been honest with me about it. I have learned how to roll with it. My dad was also a combat vet so I am/was not unfamiliar with what that means.
My partner and I started out as friends but it slowly developed into more. Which is great but for one problem. He lies to often about the dumbest things. Not about his service or anything like that but its the small stuff. And it leaves me feeling confused, unsettled and hurt. I can’t talk to him about because any time I have tried to express how I am feeling he blows up, says I am being stupid/weird, or my favorite “don’t ask me questions I have already answered” which he never answered in the first place. He likes to say I am being nosey which I am not but he leaves things out in plain sight and I have working eyeballs so if I see whatever it is that he doesn’t want me to see how do I avoid seeing it. He just get mad and doesn’t listen when I explain that I have either no idea what he is talking about because whatever that thing is not something I even thought twice about or that it was a completely innocent question of “hey what is that?” All of this over things that I have no negative feelings over. The mad and hurt come later after he has started lying.
I just don’t know how to handle this or what to do.
My partner and I started out as friends but it slowly developed into more. Which is great but for one problem. He lies to often about the dumbest things. Not about his service or anything like that but its the small stuff. And it leaves me feeling confused, unsettled and hurt. I can’t talk to him about because any time I have tried to express how I am feeling he blows up, says I am being stupid/weird, or my favorite “don’t ask me questions I have already answered” which he never answered in the first place. He likes to say I am being nosey which I am not but he leaves things out in plain sight and I have working eyeballs so if I see whatever it is that he doesn’t want me to see how do I avoid seeing it. He just get mad and doesn’t listen when I explain that I have either no idea what he is talking about because whatever that thing is not something I even thought twice about or that it was a completely innocent question of “hey what is that?” All of this over things that I have no negative feelings over. The mad and hurt come later after he has started lying.
I just don’t know how to handle this or what to do.