I met a women while camping and seemed to connect, she also has a trauma history.
We communicated back and forth for a month and decided to talk on the phone.
As soon as I picked up the phone I dissociated. I became matter of fact, monotone, disconnected and don't pick up on cues.
Realizing what had happened I scheduled another call a few weeks later.
This time she was emotionless, cold and business like with a bite to her words...even ending the call the same way I did the first call "well I'll let you go".
My question is if I should message her about what happened on the first call; that she was talking to trauma Ted and not the one she'd been communicating with..although it hasn't helped when I've done this in the past. My motive would be to try to explain the reality of what happened. Its sad to see a potential friendship deteriorate so quickly.
We communicated back and forth for a month and decided to talk on the phone.
As soon as I picked up the phone I dissociated. I became matter of fact, monotone, disconnected and don't pick up on cues.
Realizing what had happened I scheduled another call a few weeks later.
This time she was emotionless, cold and business like with a bite to her words...even ending the call the same way I did the first call "well I'll let you go".
My question is if I should message her about what happened on the first call; that she was talking to trauma Ted and not the one she'd been communicating with..although it hasn't helped when I've done this in the past. My motive would be to try to explain the reality of what happened. Its sad to see a potential friendship deteriorate so quickly.