Dissociation Explained

[Nevermore]

Good to hear I'm not alone w that @brat17 !!
I go through phases of it but i do get scared something could happen when I'm like that and just not able to respond.
I think I've already been there actually - when I was young I think I let a lot of things happen that were not good for me because I wd just zone out.
I actually think it's not as bad as it used to be w me, but that might be because I live alone now.
It's people that do it to me too - esp strong forceful characters. But I can avoid all that now!

 

[2day2stay]

Can a person have fragments and not even realize it?

Yes! Absolutely. Before i found out i had them, i was completely oblivious of the fact i did until i met them.

 

[Jacqueline1]

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Originally posted by @Anna5 - Referencing Bill Tollefson...

Thank you I read everything it helps understand

 

[anonymous]

I found this article very helpful. Thank you. "Living inside my head" is how I have often described myself before my diagnosis. I never fully realized how long I've been doing this until now.

 

[Gs172003]

When I first realized something was wrong, every time I was intimate with my husband I would " become " somebody else. It was automatic. The person changed but it always happened. Once I realized it and told hubby he told me I wasn't allowed I could no longer do it. That's when the flashbacks etc started. Thoughts?

 

[Gs172003]

When I first realized something was wrong, every time I was intimate with my husband I would " become "...

Started under those circumstances anyway

 

[Amar Tillman Allen]

this seems about right some i can understand but its just telling me i already know not how i can fix it at all if you can would you like to help me find my way there because i would like to do good things in life and i feel like im not as smart as other people in my class what you wrote is amazing but just telling me my problems

 

[digger]

some i can understand but its just telling me i already know not how i can fix it at all if you can would you like to help me find my way

Amar - it would probably be useful for you to begin your own thread giving a bit more context to your problems - this would make it easier for people to give you some more focused feedback that might be helpful to you moving forward.

 

[Zaza]

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Originally posted by @Anna5 - Referencing Bill Tollefson...

This is beautiful, thank you. I like the strength of the positive side of dissociation. Think I've been dissociated most of my life and it's cause I'm smart, creative, and sensitive. Now to integrate all those parts and be whole again! Phew, it's though but I'm already so gifted ;)

 

[Question]

Sorry but you mention "insane" a lot in your text. What do you define as going "insane"? Other mental illnesses?

 

[shatter eyes]

Because you learned how to dissociate, no matter what trauma you may encounter, you will never go insane, and your system will find a way to prevent you from dying. Your system will even sabotage a suicide attempt. All this is because no matter what happens, you want to survive. There is something in your Self which refuses to allow you to be destroyed.

Is this what they mean by resilience?

What doesnt kill you make you stronger....yet i am so tired and weak.

This is interesting. Thanks Anthony.

 

[grit]

"The Dissociative Continuum

There are different stages of dissociation which lie on a continuum:


Determining Factors

How far you move up the dissociative continuum is based on the following factors:"


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Very dense this morning

Can someone please tell me what is the continuum:
I am understanding as this

Lowest (and easiest) is day dreaming - less abuse or sporadic abuse (using my words here)

Highest (and hardest) is DID - more abuse or longer abuse (using my words here)

Sorry I just do not get the spectrum from what determines where the dissociation gets heavier or lighter.

thank you